Reflections on Love

[irishgrl05]

I don't know if anyone can really answer these. It's just stuff I've always wondered about love etc. If you had any thoughts or verses to add that'd be great.

Do you believe that God has the perfect match for every person somewhere? Do you think that some circumstances can keep us from ever meeting or getting together with that person? Well cause when God gave Eve to Adam He said it wasn't right for man to be alone. So I take that to mean everyone and that God never intended a person to be single their whole lives. But there are so many single people. Is this because of freewill and that we have choices and make choices that affect us and others? Like let's say two people are truely in love but decide not to get married(for some reason nothing spiritual) so those people are single the rest of their lives. Was it really God's plan for them to be together because they were so perfect for each other but their decision countered God's will for them so they ended up single even though they weren't supposed to be? Let's say one man (Jack) kills another man(Fred). Does that leave some woman somewhere husbandless because a man's decision ended her chosen husbands life? Even if she's never met Fred in her life?

Do you think love can come to any two people? Let's say God has two people he's intended for each other but one of those two(we'll name him Bob) goes off and marries a different person(Kim). Can he truly be in love with Kim even though she's not the one meant for him?

They say love doesn't just come and love doesn't just stay. You've got to work at it daily. So can you work yourself into loving an unbeliever as a spouse like? If that can happen and you can work up to loving any one person what if those two get married? Wait wait where am I going with this? I mean God tells us not to be unequally yoked so He obviously didn't want these two together. Are they truly in love then? Can people be truly in love outside of God's plan?

Can you be absolutely in love with two people at the same time? If so than which one should you marry? If not than what about people who marry twice? Could that person have been truly in love with wife #1 and truly love wife #2 now?

Is God's plan constant? Well because God doesn't make us sin. He knows when we'll sin though. So it's inside His plan right? But why would His plan be for us to sin? That doesn't make sense.

Anyway I'm done meandering down the path of the unanswered. Maybe you can help me out or maybe you have more questions to add. Do whatever you feel like. Verses would be cool too.

[Keen]

This is some very deep and complex stuff. Forgive me for not addressing any of it right now but we'll have to think about it a little. haha keep it cool~

[sKybLue]

Originally Posted by irishgrl05

Do you believe that God has the perfect match for every person somewhere?

no i don't believe that.

Originally Posted by irishgrl05

Do you think that some circumstances can keep us from ever meeting or getting together with that person? Well cause when God gave Eve to Adam He said it wasn't right for man to be alone. So I take that to mean everyone and that God never intended a person to be single their whole lives. But there are so many single people. Is this because of freewill and that we have choices and make choices that affect us and others?

i'd say that God created Eve for Adam for company. as a "helper" and partner. and God created us in his own image to have fellowship with Him. that proves that God doesn't intend for people to be ALONE without friends on this earth. but it does not imply that everyone must get married. Paul said that it is better for us to be single so we can give our undivided attention to God. but he does not condemn marriages either. yes it all boils down to our freedom of choice that God gave us.

Originally Posted by irishgrl05

Do you think love can come to any two people? Let's say God has two people he's intended for each other but one of those two(we'll name him Bob) goes off and marries a different person(Kim). Can he truly be in love with Kim even though she's not the one meant for him?

i don't believe in the idea that God created "The One" and "only one" for us. don't get me wrong. it is true that God knows what is going to happen. that's because He's God. He knows what our choices will be even before we made it. and i believe that we are somehow compatible with many ppl. it's just that with God's guidance we might choose to marry someone in the will of God. for example, God's will for you may encircle around 3 different guys. but it is your choice to choose. and either decision you make, God'll bless your marriage all the same. it doesn't mean that he will bless you less if you choose a lawyer over a doctor or anything like that.

Originally Posted by irishgrl05

They say love doesn't just come and love doesn't just stay. You've got to work at it daily. So can you work yourself into loving an unbeliever as a spouse like? If that can happen and you can work up to loving any one person what if those two get married? Wait wait where am I going with this? I mean God tells us not to be unequally yoked so He obviously didn't want these two together. Are they truly in love then? Can people be truly in love outside of God's plan?

a person may be really really in love with a unbeliever. but if you wanna align it with God's plan, then maybe it wouldn't be within God's will. it's a matter of who you love more, i guess. God or that man?

Originally Posted by irishgrl05

Can you be absolutely in love with two people at the same time? If so than which one should you marry? If not than what about people who marry twice? Could that person have been truly in love with wife #1 and truly love wife #2 now?

yeah, why not? God commanded us to love EVERYONE i think God knows when someone will die, and he knows whether the other spouse needs another guy along the way to continue her life with. and since i don't believe in there being only one guy for each girl, it's possible to be romantically in love with more than 1 person in our entire life..

Originally Posted by irishgrl05

Is God's plan constant? Well because God doesn't make us sin. He knows when we'll sin though. So it's inside His plan right? But why would His plan be for us to sin? That doesn't make sense.

God NEVER plans for us to sin. he NEVER intended that anyone should go to hell. it is because of our own sinful nature, inherited from Adam. God's plan doesn't force anyone to do anything. instead, his plans somehow based on the choices he knows we would make. something like this : if you offer a child sweets, you'd KNOW that he'll take it. but you don't force him to..


hope i didn't mess things up for you. those were really important questions, though. i'd like to hear some other answers as well!