Question to you girls

AstheDeer · 08-17-2005, 02:02 AM

My question is...why do you girls really want to get married someday and have kids?

Okay, I'm a tomboy, and like to focus more of my attention on career/ministry stuff. NOT saying that's better than being a wife/mom, 'cause it's absolutely not! I don't know for sure if singleness is my gift or not, but the thought of you-know-what, having babies, and having my time so monopolized by a hub and kids...

Anyway, I'm just wondering why you guys (I'm talking to the girls here, really...it's just how we talk where I live) have chosen the marriage/kid route, perhaps even in combo with the career/ministry route.

ligatio_babe · 08-17-2005, 02:56 AM

*shrugs* I'm far more concerned about having a "career" than having children.

AstheDeer · 08-17-2005, 03:18 AM

Yep! Me too! It's just that when I read about how such young girls are so excited and looking forward to being a wife, taking care of their hubby, and having kids, I'm like huh?

I just don't 100% get it, so that's why I wanted to ask 'cause I'm just curious (almost mind-boggled at the prospect, he he).

Ed · 08-17-2005, 06:47 AM

I can kind of understand it - and know ill have kids. But i know that i dont want them before im at least 25 if not older! I mean im currently enjoying singleness. Ok so i'd love the husband bit - but defo not kids. For one the idea scares me. I've babysat a bit and am like - i couldn't do the whole mum thing. They are great when they are asleep and like 2 but then i'd give them away till they were 11! Teens are my thing. I'm scared i'd damage a baby and stuff... i'm just lke - i don't know how to deal with tehm! And ht pain of giving birth! arggggggg.....

i have noticed very much an attitude of motherhood and thats great too tho. So many parents these days seem to have kids but then have no choice but to work and hardly see them due to living exspences - i couldnt do that either. I couldnt have kids if i couldnt afford them the time of day to take them out and do crafts and games and sports with them like my parents did with me!

Shelle723 · 08-17-2005, 09:18 AM

I don't really know how to explain it...having a family is my calling. Some people (like my best friend) are called to go over-seas in the mission field, some people are called to get into the ministery, but my calling is to raise a family for God. It may seem simple to some of you, but that's what God wants me to do, and I'm excited about doing it for Him!

sKybLue · 08-17-2005, 11:12 AM

i absolutely HAVE to have kids.. i believe that my calling has something to do with kids, too.. and well, i know i can't bear to go through this beautiful life alone and not share it with someone i love.. so i'm 98% sure of getting married and have a family..

over the years, i've come to think that the important things in life is never a job, or career, or success, or richess or pleasure or even freedom in the world, for that matter.. the most important things in life are people.. people whom you meet and grow to love.. but that's just my thought..

MyJoyOverflows · 08-17-2005, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by sKybLue

i absolutely HAVE to have kids.. i believe that my calling has something to do with kids, too.. and well, i know i can't bear to go through this beautiful life alone and not share it with someone i love.. so i'm 98% sure of getting married and have a family..

over the years, i've come to think that the important things in life is never a job, or career, or success, or richess or pleasure or even freedom in the world, for that matter.. the most important things in life are people.. people whom you meet and grow to love.. but that's just my thought..

amen!! Same way for me!!

onfire4christ · 08-17-2005, 05:54 PM

I dont know if I could handle having kids. I know I dont want to have kids naturally as of right now, before I die, I do want to adopt a little girl from China. Thats one of my dreams. I am not real big on starting a family, because my heart is to travel the nations, see people saved, healed and delivered and see the full extent of injustice removed..but whatever happens is gonna happen and I trust God with that.

Lizzy · 08-17-2005, 07:23 PM

hey idk about having kids, but for me a husband who is loviong and encouraging Christ, that i feel a special bond to that i share with no other. now THATS exciting 2 me

Laila · 08-17-2005, 08:23 PM

*digs nails into palms* I'd actually prefer not to have kids. And I don't know if I'm really wanting to get married either, though I can still see myself spending my life with someone...just not through that kind of "union". It will depend. I'm not really too concerned with what my career might be either. I'm pretty apathetic to the future, for the most part. Only thing that I have planned is to get out of this house the second I legally can.

08-17-2005, 02:02 AM	#1
AstheDeer AstheDeer Edit Apostle	Question to you girls My question is...why do you girls really want to get married someday and have kids? Okay, I'm a tomboy, and like to focus more of my attention on career/ministry stuff. NOT saying that's better than being a wife/mom, 'cause it's absolutely not! I don't know for sure if singleness is my gift or not, but the thought of you-know-what, having babies, and having my time so monopolized by a hub and kids... Anyway, I'm just wondering why you guys (I'm talking to the girls here, really...it's just how we talk where I live) have chosen the marriage/kid route, perhaps even in combo with the career/ministry route. Last edited by AstheDeer; 08-17-2005 at 02:04 AM.. Reason: conciseness
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08-17-2005, 02:56 AM	#2
ligatio_babe ligatio_babe Edit Evangelist/Missionary	shrugs I'm far more concerned about having a "career" than having children. __________________ The Lord will keep you from all harm— he will watch over your life; Psalm 121:7
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08-17-2005, 03:18 AM	#3
AstheDeer AstheDeer Edit Apostle	Yep! Me too! It's just that when I read about how such young girls are so excited and looking forward to being a wife, taking care of their hubby, and having kids, I'm like huh? I just don't 100% get it, so that's why I wanted to ask 'cause I'm just curious (almost mind-boggled at the prospect, he he).
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08-17-2005, 06:47 AM	#4
Ed Ed Edit Prophet/Prophetess	I can kind of understand it - and know ill have kids. But i know that i dont want them before im at least 25 if not older! I mean im currently enjoying singleness. Ok so i'd love the husband bit - but defo not kids. For one the idea scares me. I've babysat a bit and am like - i couldn't do the whole mum thing. They are great when they are asleep and like 2 but then i'd give them away till they were 11! Teens are my thing. I'm scared i'd damage a baby and stuff... i'm just lke - i don't know how to deal with tehm! And ht pain of giving birth! arggggggg..... i have noticed very much an attitude of motherhood and thats great too tho. So many parents these days seem to have kids but then have no choice but to work and hardly see them due to living exspences - i couldnt do that either. I couldnt have kids if i couldnt afford them the time of day to take them out and do crafts and games and sports with them like my parents did with me!
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08-17-2005, 09:18 AM	#5
Shelle723 Shelle723 Edit Disciple	I don't really know how to explain it...having a family is my calling. Some people (like my best friend) are called to go over-seas in the mission field, some people are called to get into the ministery, but my calling is to raise a family for God. It may seem simple to some of you, but that's what God wants me to do, and I'm excited about doing it for Him!
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08-17-2005, 11:12 AM	#6
sKybLue sKybLue Edit His Masterpiece..	i absolutely HAVE to have kids.. i believe that my calling has something to do with kids, too.. and well, i know i can't bear to go through this beautiful life alone and not share it with someone i love.. so i'm 98% sure of getting married and have a family.. over the years, i've come to think that the important things in life is never a job, or career, or success, or richess or pleasure or even freedom in the world, for that matter.. the most important things in life are people.. people whom you meet and grow to love.. but that's just my thought.. __________________ May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in Your sight O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer. New Quiz on Ruth
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08-17-2005, 05:54 PM	#8
onfire4christ onfire4christ Edit Prophet/Prophetess	I dont know if I could handle having kids. I know I dont want to have kids naturally as of right now, before I die, I do want to adopt a little girl from China. Thats one of my dreams. I am not real big on starting a family, because my heart is to travel the nations, see people saved, healed and delivered and see the full extent of injustice removed..but whatever happens is gonna happen and I trust God with that. __________________ Ash-- "I would like you to give a message. Please do your best to tell the world what is happening to us, the children. So that other children don't have to pass through this violence."
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08-17-2005, 07:23 PM	#9
Lizzy Lizzy Edit AY! Newbie	hey idk about having kids, but for me a husband who is loviong and encouraging Christ, that i feel a special bond to that i share with no other. now THATS exciting 2 me
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08-17-2005, 08:23 PM	#10
Laila Laila Edit AY! Newbie	digs nails into palms I'd actually prefer not to have kids. And I don't know if I'm really wanting to get married either, though I can still see myself spending my life with someone...just not through that kind of "union". It will depend. I'm not really too concerned with what my career might be either. I'm pretty apathetic to the future, for the most part. Only thing that I have planned is to get out of this house the second I legally can.
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