Flirting- harmless or not?

[joy-girl]

Flirting- harmless or not?

Well, so the question was, is flirting harmless? Is it like, just
a little game in which one person attracts another, and just has
a little fun?

My answer to that question would definately be no. No, a million
times NO!!!

I don't think us girls really know what we are doing to guys
when we flirt with them. Okay, so to you girls who don't know,
tune in, and let me inform ya...

Flirting is what was said--- simply a game. But it is definately
not a harmless one. It is like playing with matches and dynamite
at the same time.



One part of love is the emotions. And that is a fact. We were born
with emotions, because God gave them to us. In fact (though it is
hard to believe) our God is an emotional God. HE can think, love,
hate, cry, laugh, smile, dislike, etc... So as He created us in His
image, we are emotional people.

But our emotions as teens are not fully developed yet. they are
still a little shaky, not quite sure of themselves. I think every
teen would agree; that their passions can change over night. So...

That is why flirting is so dangerous!!!!

When we flirt, we play around with our God-given emotions. And the one
in particular that is played with is love. Listen up, love is sacred,
love is even holy. It was never meant to be played with.


Let me give you a scenario to help you out.

A boy walks in the room. Lets say his name is Chad. A girl is seated
in the room. We call her Ashley (sorry if that is your name!)
Ashley thinks, "Wow that boy is cute! i wonder if i could get him
to talk with me?"
Ashley trys everything, but evidently the guy isn't interested in
talking to a girl right now. So she starts to flirt. She goes and sits
by him. She batts her eyes, and smiles so she lets her dimples show.
She laughs at his corny jokes, and tells him all sorts of flattering
things. She bumps him playfully, and teases him.
Pretty soon Chad is thinking, "Man this girl must really like me.
I bet she wants me to ask her out on a date. But I'm dating Helen
right now, and i really don't want to go out with anyone else."
Chad feels pressured to do something that he doesn't want to.
But Ashlet has put on this fake, adoring front; and Chad begins
to wonder if he should dump Helen, and go out with Ashley. I mean,
Ashley seems to really love him.

So, Helen is dumped, and Ashley is dated. But pretty soon Chad
discovers Ashley cares nothing for his personality; she just
like his looks. So Chad is even more confused,...

Flirting is paying unnessary attention to a young man.
But when you flirt with a guy, you are stealing some of what
belongs to his future wife. You are telling him, "i like you in
a special way." when its really a big fat lie. Because the next
cute boy that comes along will be flirted with also.

flirting IS NOT true love. it is a selfish little atittude thing that
says, "i want attention paid to me, so i can be flattered." And the
sad thing is, a lot of poor guys fall for it.



So... if i have to be the first, i'll be the first. But i'll stand
up and take a pledge, i'll tell the world, 'i am not cheap in love!'
my love was never meant to be reduced to so low a form as flirting.
and i will keep endeavoring to never flirt with a guy, for his
sake and mine; but most of all for the sake of the Kingdom i represent,
and the God i serve.

Do you guys get the jist of it?

Do you understand what i'm trying to say?

If not, I'll post more later.

Love you guys! Joy

[MyJoyOverflows]

I think that what you said is very accurate...thank you for posting this...I really hope that others get out of it what I did.

[joy-girl]

uuhhhh...

16 views... 1 post. doesn't seem like very good math to me!

i guess what i'm saying is a bit to radical or something....

any comments?

Originally Posted by joy-girl

uuhhhh...

16 views... 1 post. doesn't seem like very good math to me!

i guess what i'm saying is a bit to radical or something....

any comments?

Yah, you said too much. I didn't even read it because there was just way too much there. If you want us to read it, keep it short.

[jcdesertvoice]

Joy-girl is right. Listen. She has a lot of wisdom and insite. Thank you for posting that. It is so right on.

[MyJoyOverflows]

Originally Posted by Demolition Man

Yah, you said too much. I didn't even read it because there was just way too much there. If you want us to read it, keep it short.

I can understand what you mean...but I think that there are times when it's important to read the long stuff...=P

[joy-girl]

Demoman...

here is a shortened version.
is it short enough?

Flirting- harmless or not?

Well, so the question was, is flirting harmless? Is it like, just
a little game in which one person attracts another, and just has
a little fun?

My answer to that question would definately be no. No, a million
times NO!!!

I don't think us girls really know what we are doing to guys
when we flirt with them. Okay, so to you girls who don't know,
tune in, and let me inform ya...

Flirting is what was said--- simply a game. But it is definately
not a harmless one. It is like playing with matches and dynamite
at the same time.



One part of love is the emotions. And that is a fact. We were born
with emotions, because God gave them to us. In fact (though it is
hard to believe) our God is an emotional God. HE can think, love,
hate, cry, laugh, smile, dislike, etc... So as He created us in His
image, we are emotional people.

But our emotions as teens are not fully developed yet. they are
still a little shaky, not quite sure of themselves. I think every
teen would agree; that their passions can change over night. So...

That is why flirting is so dangerous!!!!

When we flirt, we play around with our God-given emotions. And the one
in particular that is played with is love. Listen up, love is sacred,
love is even holy. It was never meant to be played with.



Flirting is paying unnessary attention to a young man.
But when you flirt with a guy, you are stealing some of what
belongs to his future wife. You are telling him, "i like you in
a special way." when its really a big fat lie. Because the next
cute boy that comes along will be flirted with also.

flirting IS NOT true love. it is a selfish little atittude thing that
says, "i want attention paid to me, so i can be flattered." And the
sad thing is, a lot of poor guys fall for it.

[Jesusphreak]

i totally agree that flirting is not harmless...
but what really annoys me is when friends mistaken talking for flirting...
ok so i have a couple of Christian friends who are guys (I'm public skooled, and for some reason there are more Christian guys than girls in my grade...and they're usually PKs). anyways, so we're good friends and like to talk about what's been going on at our churches and stuff, and it's just talking, but my friend, who's sitting a couple of tables away, thinks we're FLIRTING! and it annoys me...anyways, yeah...but flirting is definitely not harmless...that was my point...

[Shelle723]

I totally agree. I've always thought that about flirting.

[christsgirly]

I haveto admit that I flirt often without realizing the concequences.This is surprisingly accepted and even encouraged among my Christian friends...it's time to make a stand.Pray for me.