Dating Non-Christians?

WestleyNeverDies · 07-21-2005, 12:42 AM

I personally have made a commitment not to date non-Christians. People are always asking me why I refuse to do so, and a couple of guys have really put the pressure on about it. The generic question is this:

Him- "Why not date non-Christians? It's not like you have to marry them. You can just date them to find out what you do want in a marriage."

And my response is just that as they point out, I am looking for what I want in a marriage, and I know I want to marry a Christian man, so why date a non-Christian?

So . . . What are your thoughts on dating non-Christians? Have you/would you/ are you?

w.e.g. · 07-21-2005, 06:02 AM

have, would again, but not currently. i don;t see anythign wrong with it, so long as they know your position with God.

jcdesertvoice · 07-21-2005, 08:31 AM

The Bible says not to be yoked with unbelievers. A relationship you are yoked with that person. It's not a game to play and see if you like it. Besides why would a Christian want to date someone who doesn't share the same beliefs? I want to date someone who will encourage me in the Lord and help me grow and will work in ministry with me. And I know people say, "I can change them." No rarely does that happen.

07-21-2005, 09:26 AM

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Originally Posted by w.e.g.

have, would again, but not currently. i don;t see anythign wrong with it, so long as they know your position with God.

Why, do I ask, would you date someone that is so different from you? Does your faith mean so little to you that you're willing to throw it away for a relationship? I don't mean to sound rude, or harsh, but think about what you're doing. When you date a non-believer, you are implicitly saying that you don't mind setting your faith aside, ignoring the fact that they believe nothing that you do, just for the sake of a relationship. It feels to me almost like denying our Lord for the sake of a girl, and that kinda rubs me the wrong way.

justified · 07-21-2005, 10:55 AM

I have not, am not, and probably won't

ixoye2007 · 07-21-2005, 01:15 PM

I feel that we shouldnt date non-christians because weather we realize it or not, a relationship with a non-believer will get in the way of our relationship with God. Also, I feel that you shouldnt date unless you are ready to be married. Marriage is supposed to be a reflection of you and God's personal realationship. If you are "unequally yoked", that doesnt reflect you and God's relationship too well.

w.e.g. · 07-21-2005, 01:43 PM

no offense taken. i would do this because there are people out there who are non-beleivers who are worth-while, and display the values of christ better than a lot of beleivers. that being said i have not been dating as of late, when my faith ahs started to take the drivers seat instead of the passenger. but i thnk i have found someone..... maybe who is a beleiver who i might be interested in .

07-21-2005, 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by w.e.g.

no offense taken. i would do this because there are people out there who are non-beleivers who are worth-while, and display the values of christ better than a lot of beleivers.

That may be (and many times is) true, but their heart does not belong to Jesus... Doesn't that bother you?

07-21-2005, 06:18 PM

wow...this is a hard one...for me personally...i have dated a variety of guys... and alot of them are believers but not CHRISTIANS(they dont have a relationship with God,dont like talking or thinking about it, and dont follow him or read his word but know that he is God and died for us and all that) I have even dated a satanic(or w/e there called) ....i dont really know how to excuse it because maybe it doesnt please the lord...i dont know...but even currently the guy i am "talking to"(not dating{{because he lives like 5 states away not because i dont want any "strings"}}) but that guy DOES believe in God but he has chosen a different path...and even though it DOES bother me...you cant change who a person is...but you CAN plant a seed in that person's life wether or not you get married to them or not. and the reason i believe in dating and not just dating the person you marry is because...how do you know if this is the one God meant for you and also to get experience...because you cant just excpect to get into a serious relationship without the maturity and experience and it to work. i would LIKE to marry a christian but...as long as they understand my faith and that God comes first then i guess i dont really see anything wrong with it...God puts you with a person for a reason...regaurdless of wether it is to plant,water,grow a seed or if thats who he wants you to be with...everything happens for a reason and maybe SOMETIME down the road that guy will look back and see your example and decide they want christ...wether he is meant for you or not...

w.e.g. · 07-21-2005, 07:36 PM

wow nicely put Lil_disiple! couldn't have said it better than myself

07-21-2005, 12:42 AM	#1
WestleyNeverDies WestleyNeverDies Edit AY! Newbie	Dating Non-Christians? I personally have made a commitment not to date non-Christians. People are always asking me why I refuse to do so, and a couple of guys have really put the pressure on about it. The generic question is this: Him- "Why not date non-Christians? It's not like you have to marry them. You can just date them to find out what you do want in a marriage." And my response is just that as they point out, I am looking for what I want in a marriage, and I know I want to marry a Christian man, so why date a non-Christian? So . . . What are your thoughts on dating non-Christians? Have you/would you/ are you?
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07-21-2005, 06:02 AM	#2
w.e.g. w.e.g. Edit Prophet/Prophetess	have, would again, but not currently. i don;t see anythign wrong with it, so long as they know your position with God. __________________ There is no luck only faith. CAP'N WILLY
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07-21-2005, 08:31 AM	#3
jcdesertvoice jcdesertvoice Edit Prophet/Prophetess	The Bible says not to be yoked with unbelievers. A relationship you are yoked with that person. It's not a game to play and see if you like it. Besides why would a Christian want to date someone who doesn't share the same beliefs? I want to date someone who will encourage me in the Lord and help me grow and will work in ministry with me. And I know people say, "I can change them." No rarely does that happen. __________________ Go ye into all the world and preach the gospel to every nation for you are a word out of the mouth of God and you will not return unto Him void.
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justified justified Edit Prophet/Prophetess	I have not, am not, and probably won't __________________ "Only God can judge me" "The only thing that comes to a sleeping man is dreams" - Tupac Shakur. "Don't like it, don't Drink it" "To live is Christ to die is gain." - Paul
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07-21-2005, 01:15 PM	#6
ixoye2007 ixoye2007 Edit AY! Newbie	I feel that we shouldnt date non-christians because weather we realize it or not, a relationship with a non-believer will get in the way of our relationship with God. Also, I feel that you shouldnt date unless you are ready to be married. Marriage is supposed to be a reflection of you and God's personal realationship. If you are "unequally yoked", that doesnt reflect you and God's relationship too well.
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07-21-2005, 01:43 PM	#7
w.e.g. w.e.g. Edit Prophet/Prophetess	no offense taken. i would do this because there are people out there who are non-beleivers who are worth-while, and display the values of christ better than a lot of beleivers. that being said i have not been dating as of late, when my faith ahs started to take the drivers seat instead of the passenger. but i thnk i have found someone..... maybe who is a beleiver who i might be interested in . __________________ There is no luck only faith. CAP'N WILLY
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07-21-2005, 06:18 PM	#9
lil_disciple lil_disciple Edit Guest	wow...this is a hard one...for me personally...i have dated a variety of guys... and alot of them are believers but not CHRISTIANS(they dont have a relationship with God,dont like talking or thinking about it, and dont follow him or read his word but know that he is God and died for us and all that) I have even dated a satanic(or w/e there called) ....i dont really know how to excuse it because maybe it doesnt please the lord...i dont know...but even currently the guy i am "talking to"(not dating{{because he lives like 5 states away not because i dont want any "strings"}}) but that guy DOES believe in God but he has chosen a different path...and even though it DOES bother me...you cant change who a person is...but you CAN plant a seed in that person's life wether or not you get married to them or not. and the reason i believe in dating and not just dating the person you marry is because...how do you know if this is the one God meant for you and also to get experience...because you cant just excpect to get into a serious relationship without the maturity and experience and it to work. i would LIKE to marry a christian but...as long as they understand my faith and that God comes first then i guess i dont really see anything wrong with it...God puts you with a person for a reason...regaurdless of wether it is to plant,water,grow a seed or if thats who he wants you to be with...everything happens for a reason and maybe SOMETIME down the road that guy will look back and see your example and decide they want christ...wether he is meant for you or not...

07-21-2005, 07:36 PM	#10
w.e.g. w.e.g. Edit Prophet/Prophetess	wow nicely put Lil_disiple! couldn't have said it better than myself __________________ There is no luck only faith. CAP'N WILLY
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