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[DyingToLive]

I'm not really sure how to start this, so bear with me please.

There's this online friend I have, that I've known for close to two years. Everything was fine at first, but a few months ago he went totally wacko. Seriously, he blamed me for all his relationship problems, he would never answer my questions, he acted like he never knew me, he said I was a blood sucker, to put it simply- he expressed to everyone except me, that he never wanted to talk to me again. Now, being the stubborn person I am, I always think I can fix something. I always forgive people no matter what they do.. I don't understand why I do that.. I mean seriously, what he did was just... heartless. Over the past month in a half or so, I decided to write him an e-mail, and low and behold he actually answered it. He said we were still friends, but on a "ten foot pole."
Over the last two weeks I've been away, and just today I found a message he left me on Yahoo, it said:

Hey, you!
hey you
whats wrong?
why arent you talking to me?
its the 15th
you should be back by now


Now my question is, why the heck is he talking to me now? I waited five months for some kind of contact. Did I get it? No. Why all of a sudden is he so concerned that I'm not talking to him? Why did he add me on Yahoo, when before he said he never wanted me to talk to him again? Should I listen to everyone else he stabbed in the back and just forget about him? Or should I forgive him, like the countless times before, and try to get this friendship to work?

This ... is tough. *sigh* The one side of me says that a person is never too far gone for help, and that we should do everything in our power to reach out to them. The other side says, "Pfft. Cut him off, he's a jerk, he's just slowly strangling you." My best advice is, do both. Tell him up-front that if he pulls any crap with you, you are not going to take it. Try to explain the way things are, but if he's unreasonable, walk away.

[iluvsummer]

Did you say something about all of the other people who have been stabbed in the back? If this is a common thing for him to do, then he is not worth your time. If you feel like your talking to him somehow helping him get to know God, just send him a long email about your Christian faith. If he comments on it, respond. If he is mean to you about it, don't answer and block him. He is just a guy on the internet and not a friend worth continuing with. Plus, I think that you can forgive him without going back to get hurt over and over again- that is not what forgiveness is all about.

[DyingToLive]

It's just so hard for me to find that perfect mix between the two. I've always been the type of person that tries to help out everyone in the best way possible. when his dog died I sent him an e-card I talked to him about it and everything. The hardest part about this whole thing is that I never expected it to happen. I seriously thought he was one of my best friends, ever. But when this whole thing happened it seriously cut through me..

This is a part of a conversation I had with him in August of last year.. (wow.. I can't believe it's been that long..)

Me: since you didn't answer... I'm gonna ask ya again. We still friends?
Him: What do you think
Me: Well.. I would like us to still be friends. I miss talking to you. I don't know what you want. I don't know if I've done anything to hurt you. If I have I'm sorry. I just wanna get past this crap and be friends if you want to.
Him: You are a good person, but I think maybe it would be better if you deleted all of my screen names and forgot I ever exsisted.
Me: may I ask why?
Him: Our personalitys don't mix well.
Me: crap.. don't say that.... sorry... it's just....
Me: nvm
Me: if you didn't want to be friends why didn't you say so sooner? why did you just talk... and call me sis and all that crap.
Him: Sure, I meant it. I love you like a sister, but we don't get along.
Me: why not?
Me: *sigh* pretty soon I'm just gonna become numb and not care... not care about anything.. cuz heck.. if people stop talking to me like this... what next
Me: so... you want to stop talking... and pretend that we never had a friendship.. just stop contact like that....
Him: Pretty much. Love and God bless
Me: love? what love?
Him: lots of love, sister love. we dotn get along. leave me alone.
Me: fine... leave me like this... just don't say you love me as a sister.. because heck.. it's not ture
Me: *true
Me: no brother would do that
Him: I am not normally a mean and rude person. So By blocking you and deleteing you I was hopig you would get the hint, but you didnt. Delete all of my names, and leave me alone.
Him: you are typing. Stop. Now delete the names. Bye. God bless you
Me: what I would have liked was a reason.. but now I see you never were a friend.. I don't have to stop, but this isn't going anywhere. Good bye.
Me: and one more thing.. a little piece of advice, when you do get true friends, don't ditch 'em in the future.
Him: Leave me alone. I tired to be a friend but I can't stand you. Leave me alone. Pleae, PLEASE refraim yourself from speaking further. Just be quiet. Delete my name. Do not contact me ANYMORE.


Then there was this other conversation he had with someone I also knew:

Him: Hi Abby
Her:: can i help u?
Him: Huh?
Her:: im not ever ever ever talk 2 u again billy, u hurt 1 of my friends really badly, ....actually it wasnt just 1 friend, it waz quite a few
Her:: i hope ur happy
Her:: bye
Him: ??
Him: Whatever
Her:: ? wht do u not understand ENGLISH?
Her:: i said BYE
Her:: ur typing
Her:: stop
Him: What I understand is you went whacked
Him: And talked to Erinn
Her:: no dont type nemore, hmm do those words sound familiar?
Him: Yup. Be like that, you haven't hear my side.
Her:: i dont care bout ur side, BYE
Him: I tried to be nice. She wouldn't leave me alone.
Him: I can't help but wonder how much Bull she told you.
Him: Naughty naughty. Oh well, that's what I get for trying to be a nice guy
Him: Ever notice how this won't let you block your friends? quite odd, aim is better. Easier.
Him: just so you know; your sticking up for a blood sucker.


Now.. if you were in my shoes would you just... forget about him? Everyone I know has done that.. I tried to do it, but I couldn't. I don't know why I can't..

[DyingToLive]

Oh, he actually is a Christian. Something I find totally odd, considering his attitude.

[iluvsummer]

If I were you, I would never talk to him again. I would do what he said and delete his name off everything you have- in fact I would block him so he can't talk to you either. He does not deserve your friendship. Give him what he wants- loneliness. Ok, now that I read what I wrote it sounds harsh, but he was really harsh to you (not that I think that you need to be mean in return). You shouldn't continue to talk to someone like that.

[DyingToLive]

*sigh* I guess you're right..

But.. it's just something in me that wants to be accepted. you know? Like.. since he doesn't want to talk to me it's something I did..

[HaveFaith2005]

Some guys can be real jerks, but all I can say is block him from your yahoo list.

[iluvsummer]

I understand the need to be accepted and if I were in your shoes, I too would want to know what I did and I could could do to fix the problem. In this case, though, because he has done the same thing to other people, I would say that you didn't do anything wrong. This boy has a problem and it's not your problem.

[DyingToLive]

Yeah.. I suppose... Weird thing is I talked to him on AIM yesterday and he was all happy go lucky... If all guys are this wacko I'm gonna cry.