Crushed

[christsgirly]

Okay.I have this guyfriend who I had a crush on and I still do,but I could never go out with him.(I'm too young.He's not a Christian,and my parents would never go for it.)Anyway,some girl was listening in while I was talking to my best friend about him,and she went and told him.Well,a few days later he started seriously flirting with me and he dumped his girlfriend of over a year.I have a feeling that when school starts up again he will ask me out.It's just a feeling,but if he does...how should I let him down without being mean?

[Damaris]

The best way you can avoid being mean is to be completely honest with him.

Tell him the truth. Straight-up. Don't try to sugar-coat it or anything; don't deliberately try not to hurt him. If he's really got his heart set on you, you're going to hurt him whether you want to or not. Hurting someone when letting them down does not equal being mean, because sometimes, it just has to be done.

[MyJoyOverflows]

^^I agree with what both of them said...you have to be honest...that's SO important!

[christsgirly]

We're not going to be the same,though.That stinks!I hate teen dating drama!!!!It's soooo pointless,and it omly gets someone hurt!

Originally Posted by christsgirly

We're not going to be the same,though.That stinks!I hate teen dating drama!!!!It's soooo pointless,and it omly gets someone hurt!

Then DON'T DO IT.

[savedbygrace]

definitely agree. be completely honest with him. tell him your worries. tell him your standards. say that it is okay for you guys to be friends, but you really need someone who has a relationship with Christ first. i think that that is the best way to let him down gently. maybe invite him to church with you.
Love,
Ashley

[LauraNicole]

Originally Posted by savedbygrace

definitely agree. be completely honest with him. tell him your worries. tell him your standards. say that it is okay for you guys to be friends, but you really need someone who has a relationship with Christ first. i think that that is the best way to let him down gently. maybe invite him to church with you.
Love,
Ashley

that's really good advice. If he does go to church with you, make him understand that if he decides to accept Christ into his heart, it shouldn't be because you might date him. It has to be for reasons between himself and God.
And if i were you, i would still wait a while to start dating. I dated a guy when i was 15, and all that got me was "heartache" and bad memories. I don't want any other girls to have to deal with all that at such a young age. I'm almost 18 (okay okay, it's still 6 months off, but almost) and i still don't date.

so with this guy, if he asks you out, be truthful with him. let christ's love for him shine through you, and you just might gain a brother in christ. And who knows, he might be a part of God's plan for your life, but then again, he may not. Just put your faith, your life, your everything in God's very able hands, and things can go a bit easier then.

[savedbygrace]

thanks for adding that! i thought about it but i didnt want to seem preachy if you know what i mean!
Love,
Ashley

[christsgirly]

Originally Posted by LauraNikky

that's really good advice. If he does go to church with you, make him understand that if he decides to accept Christ into his heart, it shouldn't be because you might date him. It has to be for reasons between himself and God.
And if i were you, i would still wait a while to start dating. I dated a guy when i was 15, and all that got me was "heartache" and bad memories. I don't want any other girls to have to deal with all that at such a young age. I'm almost 18 (okay okay, it's still 6 months off, but almost) and i still don't date.

so with this guy, if he asks you out, be truthful with him. let christ's love for him shine through you, and you just might gain a brother in christ. And who knows, he might be a part of God's plan for your life, but then again, he may not. Just put your faith, your life, your everything in God's very able hands, and things can go a bit easier then.

Thank you sooo much for your advice and encouragement!I'm still freaked about what's going to happen,but...God will get me through it.Please pray for me.It wouldmean so much to me if you would spare a moment..