emotional attachments

ibreakdrumsticks · 07-06-2005, 05:50 AM

how do you get a girl you love to quit being so emotionally attached to you without hurting there feelings?

07-06-2005, 09:19 AM

Two words: Good Luck.

Seriously, I hate to break it to you, but emotional attachment involves deep feelings, and there's no way to really break that without hurting their feelings in some way. I'm sorry.

Damaris · 07-06-2005, 10:10 AM

Yeah...I would agree to that. =P

LOSER · 07-06-2005, 10:15 AM

Hey Demoman,

It is possable but it will take a lot of time and effort for you to do it, and someone still might get hurt, but it sounds simple in theory. All you have to do is try to backoff in the relationship, and ask her if she thinks it is a good idea because of emotional attachments. But be very very careful, and you have to set a goal...like if you guys talk a lot on the phone try to cut it down to two days a week. Just be realy realy careful because as in all relationships it is very easy to hurt the other person and not know it.

hope this helps,
LOSER

07-06-2005, 10:17 AM

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Originally Posted by LOSER

Hey Demoman,

It is possable but it will take a lot of time and effort for you to do it, and someone still might get hurt, but it sounds simple in theory. All you have to do is try to backoff in the relationship, and ask her if she thinks it is a good idea because of emotional attachments. But be very very careful, and you have to set a goal...like if you guys talk a lot on the phone try to cut it down to two days a week. Just be realy realy careful because as in all relationships it is very easy to hurt the other person and not know it.

hope this helps,
LOSER

It's not possible. Any time someone gets so emotionally involved in someone else, there is no way to *really* back off or break that intense bond without someone getting hurt. It's the very nature of emotions; if you try to back off in the relationship, she will wonder why, and probably start feeling hurt because she's insecure or something else. There's just no way to be so careful that she won't be hurt - believe me.

07-06-2005, 10:35 AM

You just said you loved her.. Why in the world would you want to tell her not to be emotionally attached with you?

Damaris · 07-06-2005, 10:50 AM

He said so emotionally attached....and I think I understand. Because girls can get so attached to someone....that even though that person loves them, they don't want them to be always there. Like a puppy.....you love it, but sometimes you shut the dorr in its face so you can have some time to yourself. lol

07-06-2005, 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Damaris

He said so emotionally attached....and I think I understand. Because girls can get so attached to someone....that even though that person loves them, they don't want them to be always there. Like a puppy.....you love it, but sometimes you shut the dorr in its face so you can have some time to yourself. lol

EXACTLY. My ex-girlfriend was overly emotionally attached to me - it was bad. It got to the point where, at precisely the point I was trying to decide if she was right for me to marry, she started leaning on me even MORE. I couldn't handle it anymore, and the whole relationship fell apart.

jcdesertvoice · 07-06-2005, 01:17 PM

That is a tough one. If you don't want to end the relationship but just want some freedom talk to her and let her know that you do indeed love her but need some space. Let her know that you don't want to hurt her but you feel that there is emotional attachment that isn't good. Be honest with her. She may still get hurt but being honest is the best thing you could do for both her and you. Make sure to continue to show her that you love her but set some boundaries. Be gentle but don't back down. In time she'll see what you see and the hurt will be healed.

ibreakdrumsticks · 07-06-2005, 02:01 PM

i want her to be more dependant and passionate about God. not only into me. like i sometimes feel like she is trying so hard to make me happy and other people happy and i just don't see her relationship with the lord getting deeper. it is just so frustrating. and yes, i do love her.

07-06-2005, 05:50 AM	#1
ibreakdrumsticks ibreakdrumsticks Edit Prophet/Prophetess	emotional attachments how do you get a girl you love to quit being so emotionally attached to you without hurting there feelings?
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07-06-2005, 10:10 AM	#3
Damaris Damaris Edit servant	Yeah...I would agree to that. =P __________________ Let my heart be fixed on Thee My Lord, my life, my love Linger near and gently lead To rapturous joys above.
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07-06-2005, 10:15 AM	#4
LOSER LOSER Edit AY! Newbie	Hey Demoman, It is possable but it will take a lot of time and effort for you to do it, and someone still might get hurt, but it sounds simple in theory. All you have to do is try to backoff in the relationship, and ask her if she thinks it is a good idea because of emotional attachments. But be very very careful, and you have to set a goal...like if you guys talk a lot on the phone try to cut it down to two days a week. Just be realy realy careful because as in all relationships it is very easy to hurt the other person and not know it. hope this helps, LOSER
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Damaris Damaris Edit servant	He said so emotionally attached....and I think I understand. Because girls can get so attached to someone....that even though that person loves them, they don't want them to be always there. Like a puppy.....you love it, but sometimes you shut the dorr in its face so you can have some time to yourself. lol __________________ Let my heart be fixed on Thee My Lord, my life, my love Linger near and gently lead To rapturous joys above.
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07-06-2005, 01:17 PM	#9
jcdesertvoice jcdesertvoice Edit Prophet/Prophetess	That is a tough one. If you don't want to end the relationship but just want some freedom talk to her and let her know that you do indeed love her but need some space. Let her know that you don't want to hurt her but you feel that there is emotional attachment that isn't good. Be honest with her. She may still get hurt but being honest is the best thing you could do for both her and you. Make sure to continue to show her that you love her but set some boundaries. Be gentle but don't back down. In time she'll see what you see and the hurt will be healed. __________________ Go ye into all the world and preach the gospel to every nation for you are a word out of the mouth of God and you will not return unto Him void.
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07-06-2005, 09:19 AM	#2
Demolition Man Demolition Man Edit Guest	Two words: Good Luck. Seriously, I hate to break it to you, but emotional attachment involves deep feelings, and there's no way to really break that without hurting their feelings in some way. I'm sorry.

07-06-2005, 10:35 AM	#6
1cutemonki 1cutemonki Edit Guest	You just said you loved her.. Why in the world would you want to tell her not to be emotionally attached with you?

07-06-2005, 02:01 PM	#10
ibreakdrumsticks ibreakdrumsticks Edit Prophet/Prophetess	i want her to be more dependant and passionate about God. not only into me. like i sometimes feel like she is trying so hard to make me happy and other people happy and i just don't see her relationship with the lord getting deeper. it is just so frustrating. and yes, i do love her.
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