Disappointing Your Future Spouse: Is it everyone's fear?

Modest · 06-28-2005, 11:33 PM

I have just recently aquired a great fear of disappointing my husband one day. Well, i have actually had this fear for a while but it has gotten worse. I am not a fat person, but i definately don't measure up to any model. I am afraid of how much my future husband is being influenced by wordly things. Things like thinking that every woman should be as thin as the models and stuff. Do any of you guys or girls have any encouragement or am i doomed? Am I alone in this fear?

~strong and able through Christ alone

HeavenBound · 06-28-2005, 11:37 PM

It's not a "fear" of mine, it's more of a "worry". I'm worried that I won't be able to live up to his standards, and stuff like that....

I think if we just let God pick our Husband/Wife everything will be "A-Ok"!

hannibal2003 · 06-29-2005, 12:22 AM

I actually prefer girls who have more..umm....curves. The guy who is right for you will love you and your body jus the way you are. I'm on an aggressive campaign to find a girl who likes her guys "extra lean". I may not be huge and ripped but at least I'm short, hehe.

, Josh

ligatio_babe · 06-29-2005, 12:42 AM

Here's how I see it: If you're marrying someone, he'll most likely be attracted to you and love you, no matter how you look. In truth, most people don't look like models, and if your husband of all people thinks you should, maybe he's not the best spouse.

06-29-2005, 10:25 AM

Pfft. I, for one, do NOT like the "skinny and busty" look that every supermodel seems to be exhibiting these says. Matter of fact - and this is the truth, I'm not making this up just to sound good - I have yet to see anyone on a TV or movie screen that I've thought was actually attractive. I just don't like actresses at all; they just... Ugh. *shudders* Now, I will be very quick to say that many guys are easily influenced into judging girls based on how they look, BUT every guy has a different standard of attractiveness.

Now, for the good news. Since every guy has a different standard of attractiveness, it's very likely that no matter what you look like, someday, you will find someone whose jaw drops when he first sets eyes on you. You just have to trust that God will find that guy for you and bring him along in His good time.

christsgirly · 06-29-2005, 10:34 AM

Modest,I'm right there with ya,girl.I'm real scranny,and,as some guys here have mentioned,most guys like curves.I'm afraid that my husband won't be attracted to me physically...and that seriously stinks!lol
My advice...listen to the guys.

06-29-2005, 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by christsgirly

Modest,I'm right there with ya,girl.I'm real scranny,and,as some guys here have mentioned,most guys like curves.I'm afraid that my husband won't be attracted to me physically...and that seriously stinks!lol
My advice...listen to the guys.

Do not worry about your husband not being attracted to you! I will guarantee you - I swear it - that God can and probably will bring you a guy that thinks you're incredible. Or do you doubt the power of God?

christsgirly · 06-29-2005, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Demolition Man

Do not worry about your husband not being attracted to you! I will guarantee you - I swear it - that God can and probably will bring you a guy that thinks you're incredible. Or do you doubt the power of God?

Well...you have me there.
Honestly,although I want to marry very badly,I have a feeling that God has something else planned for me.It's waaay too early to know for sure though.lol

HeavenBound · 06-29-2005, 10:56 AM

Well, Christsgirly...we have the OPPOSITE problem that we worry about. I'm how should I say "curvy" I always thought that guys like the "Halle Berry", "Angelina Jolie" look, the skinny busty type, or just skinny.

But, I know God has "My Man" waiting on me somewhere, it's just my job to trust God.

sKybLue · 06-29-2005, 11:02 AM

hie there Modest!

well first of, if your "to-be husband" thinks lesser of you than who you really are, then he should not be your husband in the first place. he doesn't deserve you!

as for the "look", don't worry bout it. be thankful that you DON'T look like those supermodels. at least then you'd know if someone is really loving you for who you are, and not for how or who you look like!

Steven Curtis Chapman sang a really good song "Fingerprints of God".. first few lines goes something like this :

"i can see the tears filling your eyes,
and i know where they're coming from
coming from a heart that's broken in two by what you don't see,
the person in the mirror doesn't look like the magazine......

i can see the fingerprints of God, when i look at you.."

if someone claims to love you but can't sing this song straight into your face, then he's a liar

06-28-2005, 11:33 PM	#1
Modest Modest Edit AY! Newbie	Disappointing Your Future Spouse: Is it everyone's fear? I have just recently aquired a great fear of disappointing my husband one day. Well, i have actually had this fear for a while but it has gotten worse. I am not a fat person, but i definately don't measure up to any model. I am afraid of how much my future husband is being influenced by wordly things. Things like thinking that every woman should be as thin as the models and stuff. Do any of you guys or girls have any encouragement or am i doomed? Am I alone in this fear? ~strong and able through Christ alone
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06-28-2005, 11:37 PM	#2
HeavenBound HeavenBound Edit Prophet/Prophetess	It's not a "fear" of mine, it's more of a "worry". I'm worried that I won't be able to live up to his standards, and stuff like that.... I think if we just let God pick our Husband/Wife everything will be "A-Ok"! __________________ "We have just enough Religion to make us HATE, but not enough to make us LOVE one Another..." -Jonathan Swift Who could hate a Man, who thought about YOU on the Cross?
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06-29-2005, 12:22 AM	#3
hannibal2003 hannibal2003 Edit Fighting Priest	here's to different body types I actually prefer girls who have more..umm....curves. The guy who is right for you will love you and your body jus the way you are. I'm on an aggressive campaign to find a girl who likes her guys "extra lean". I may not be huge and ripped but at least I'm short, hehe. , Josh
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06-29-2005, 12:42 AM	#4
ligatio_babe ligatio_babe Edit Evangelist/Missionary	Here's how I see it: If you're marrying someone, he'll most likely be attracted to you and love you, no matter how you look. In truth, most people don't look like models, and if your husband of all people thinks you should, maybe he's not the best spouse.
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06-29-2005, 10:34 AM	#6
christsgirly christsgirly knows God as Savior! Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Modest,I'm right there with ya,girl.I'm real scranny,and,as some guys here have mentioned,most guys like curves.I'm afraid that my husband won't be attracted to me physically...and that seriously stinks!lol My advice...listen to the guys.
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06-29-2005, 10:25 AM	#5
Demolition Man Demolition Man Edit Guest	Pfft. I, for one, do NOT like the "skinny and busty" look that every supermodel seems to be exhibiting these says. Matter of fact - and this is the truth, I'm not making this up just to sound good - I have yet to see anyone on a TV or movie screen that I've thought was actually attractive. I just don't like actresses at all; they just... Ugh. shudders Now, I will be very quick to say that many guys are easily influenced into judging girls based on how they look, BUT every guy has a different standard of attractiveness. Now, for the good news. Since every guy has a different standard of attractiveness, it's very likely that no matter what you look like, someday, you will find someone whose jaw drops when he first sets eyes on you. You just have to trust that God will find that guy for you and bring him along in His good time.

06-29-2005, 10:56 AM	#9
HeavenBound HeavenBound Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Well, Christsgirly...we have the OPPOSITE problem that we worry about. I'm how should I say "curvy" I always thought that guys like the "Halle Berry", "Angelina Jolie" look, the skinny busty type, or just skinny. But, I know God has "My Man" waiting on me somewhere, it's just my job to trust God. __________________ "We have just enough Religion to make us HATE, but not enough to make us LOVE one Another..." -Jonathan Swift Who could hate a Man, who thought about YOU on the Cross?
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06-29-2005, 11:02 AM	#10
sKybLue sKybLue Edit His Masterpiece..	hie there Modest! well first of, if your "to-be husband" thinks lesser of you than who you really are, then he should not be your husband in the first place. he doesn't deserve you! as for the "look", don't worry bout it. be thankful that you DON'T look like those supermodels. at least then you'd know if someone is really loving you for who you are, and not for how or who you look like! Steven Curtis Chapman sang a really good song "Fingerprints of God".. first few lines goes something like this : "i can see the tears filling your eyes, and i know where they're coming from coming from a heart that's broken in two by what you don't see, the person in the mirror doesn't look like the magazine...... i can see the fingerprints of God, when i look at you.." if someone claims to love you but can't sing this song straight into your face, then he's a liar __________________ May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in Your sight O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer. New Quiz on Ruth
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