Question For Guys... Do you really appriciate this?

[joy-girl]

Recently while I was at Bible School, I ad a young man stop me, and tell me, "Thanks for helping me."
"Helping you what?" I responded.
"Helping me stay pure by not attracting attention to your body."

This kinda took me by suprise. Do you guys really appriciate it when the girls dress more modestly? Does it actually help?

Nobody ever told me that it did; but when that guy stopped me, and said that to me; I was so encouraged. It isn't an easy task for a girl to dress modestly in todays world. And sometimes I feel really down; because the reason i cover my body is for my brothers in Christ, and sometimes they don't even seem to appreciate this. I could draw a lot of attention to myself; but I choose not to, so I can try and help them.

Guys; you will never know how much it means to a girl when you thank her for dressing modestly, in an unrevealing way.

So, out of my own curiosity... how many of you out there actually think it helps you when a girl dresses modestly?

[AllWillBow]

YES!!! I have a few female friends that are very modest, loose shirts, hoodies, stuff like that is all they wear and I've told them that I admire and respect them for it.
I can't tell you how hard it is to be a guy and try to keep your thought life pure, just look at tv. Lingere commercials and girls in bikinis on all the time...EVEN RADIO! You hear girls talking in sexy voices and moaning and stuff...it's insane.

With all the clothes (or lack there of) girls wear every day now, it's close to impossible to keep your thought life pure, so I thank you and encourage you to keep it up! I respect you, as well as alot of other guys too.

I suppose I should actually answer this...
To put it in short words, I value it extremely highly. I don't let myself look at girls who are dressed inappropriately - which, I might add, makes it hard to talk to them. So if you want me to talk to you, dress well.

[youthpastor]

I think most guys, if honest, and trying to be Godly would appreciate it.

What I always tell the girls (and guys) in our youth group is that we are supposed to be light - our lives our supposed to point peole to Jesus - However, we will never point them to Jesus if they are too busy looking at your ........

[~*Amy*~]

yeah joy-girl Ive actually had a couple guys tell me that too. It really does make us girls feel appreciated and reassured. I help out with youth inside and outside of church at times and this saturday I took some girls to teen fest '05 with great rock bands and all. And there was one girl who was not dressed modestly at all. I actually felt embarrassed for her and pulled her to the side and talked to her about it. She looked at me and almost started crying! She said that no one has ever told told her about the way she dresses and that she thought it was just normal, but at times she felt like it was wrong. She just wanted to 'fit in'. You guys have no clue how awesome that makes a girl feel when you tell her she looks nice and that you appreciate her modesty. And for those of you who do work with youth, dont be afraid to approach them about the way they dress. We ARE to be a light to this world...and the way we dress has a great affect on this world.

[Modest]

but what if you do dress modestly and you still get the attention you are trying to avoid. i still get attention from perverted guys. it is really discouraging. i dress in guys pants and shorts to avoid them being too tight. i wear almost only t-shirts that are too big. all trying not to draw attention to my body. how do you deal with perverted guys who are everywhere you go? the only way i could be more modest would be to wear sweaters and skirts all the time. what do i do? and how do some of you respond to guys like this?

~strong and able through Christ alone

Modest brings up a good point, and that leads me to this comment: There are, unfortunately, some guys that would get all excited over a girl in a fur parka and snow pants. It happens. There is no way to "help" these guys (aside from maybe kicking them repeatedly in the crotch...); you are better off just dressing the way you do and beating those guys senseless if you catch them looking at you the wrong way. I'm actually not joking; pain can be a good thing if used properly.

[christsgirly]

I go through the same problem!I thought I was alone in this!
May I suggest a few self defense classes?(or a really strong boyfriend)LOL

[Modest]

too bad that i don't really like beating people up, and i don't date. they are good suggestions though. i have a few friends who have offered to bop him over the head, but i have declined. i have had to deal with someone who was like this before and i punched him and smacked him around a lot and it did no good. i am trying a new approach on this one.

~strong and able through Christ alone

[youthpastor]

Originally Posted by Modest

but what if you do dress modestly and you still get the attention you are trying to avoid. i still get attention from perverted guys. it is really discouraging. i dress in guys pants and shorts to avoid them being too tight. i wear almost only t-shirts that are too big. all trying not to draw attention to my body. how do you deal with perverted guys who are everywhere you go? the only way i could be more modest would be to wear sweaters and skirts all the time. what do i do? and how do some of you respond to guys like this?

~strong and able through Christ alone

You can only do what you can - so if you dress modestly..... Then the fault lies with the guy. It becomes his problem that he needs to deal with.