When u r dating someone?

[littleguy123]

When u are dating do you have to believe that person is someone you will or can spend the rest of your life w/? Or is it just someone you feel you can build a good/meaningful relationship w/? Or both? Or whichever you want?

[sKybLue]

i take dating pretty seriously, and i see dating as a step before marriage. that means the person i'm dating would have 99.9% possibility of becoming my spouse someday.. therefore i'm still single right now

I'm 100% sure I'll mary my guy! It's a rare relationship at such an early age, but God writes a different story for everyone's life! Anyways, you should take dating pretty seriously so you don't get too hurt later on. Just pray when you enter a relationship and see what happens. Listen to God's voice. I'm just beggining to learn how to do that! It's hard, but possible!

First things first: Don't let yourself get too attached to someone else too quickly. I was 100% sure I'd marry four different people (at different times, obviously!). I'm 20 years old now, I'm happily in love with a wonderful young lady, but I am NOT 100% sure I'm going to marry her, and I won't be until the day I say "I do". God has His plans, no matter what ours are. My recommendation is that you take dating very seriously, and moreover, don't get into it until you're at a point in your life where your relationship with God is first. That is THE most important thing.

[sari58]

I agree with demolition man.....i think he said pretty much everything there

Dating for me is extremely serious,
But I will not say that the guy I date is the one I will marry.
The reason why I take dating seriously is because if I do break up with that guy, that means he is going to be someone else's husband.
I want him to enter his next relationship with a positive attitude and the right idea on how to date and serve God at the same time.

[youthpastor]

Princess - You are exactly right. It is estimated that a person dates 7 -10 people before they marry. That means you ARE dating someone else's wife/husband!!

What you do with your boyfirend/girlfriend - you are doing with someone else's wife/husband. Treat them like you want your spouse to be treated? Do you want another guy kissing your wife? Petting your wife? etc..

I advise to avoid the whole one on one dating/relationship thing until marriage is an option.

the only one on one relationships (close relationships) in the bible that did not result in sin wher those between relatives. All other "close/emotional" relationships between a male and female resulted in SIN! ie.. David & Bathseba, Samson and Delila

Just because statistics show that, on average, a person dates seven to ten people before they marry - that does NOT mean that someone is/is not dating someone else's spouse. That is a ridiculous claim. While I agree that dating should be avoided until marriage is an option, you may want to make your claims a little less sensational.

[~*Amy*~]

I take dating very seriously too. I dont want to date someone just to date them. Im looking for a husband and so the guy I date must have those qualities. Thats probally why Im still single too Never get attached to someone too quickly, and never let your emotions lead you all the time. You cant always just go by goosebumps and shivers up your spine. Thats happened to me before and I ended up getting my heart broken. But, God taught me my lesson and Im actually happy it happened! Littleguy123 what exactly are you looking for? I think thats the right question. Are you ready to get married? If you are, then thats what you should be looking for. If you arent sure, then dating is still a good experience but dont just 'date' just to 'date'. I dont totally agree with that. You can still have friends of the opposite gender and still go out. That doesnt mean youre dating. I think thats whats wrong with the world today; whenever they see you with a person of the opposite gender, they automatically think theres something 'going on'. Thats so not true.
But, just always pray before you go into a relationship. Thats the best thing to do. Dont get attached right away, but still be yourself.

[littleguy123]

Originally Posted by ~*Amy*~

I take dating very seriously too. I dont want to date someone just to date them. Im looking for a husband and so the guy I date must have those qualities. Thats probally why Im still single too Never get attached to someone too quickly, and never let your emotions lead you all the time. You cant always just go by goosebumps and shivers up your spine. Thats happened to me before and I ended up getting my heart broken. But, God taught me my lesson and Im actually happy it happened! Littleguy123 what exactly are you looking for? I think thats the right question. Are you ready to get married? If you are, then thats what you should be looking for. If you arent sure, then dating is still a good experience but dont just 'date' just to 'date'. I dont totally agree with that. You can still have friends of the opposite gender and still go out. That doesnt mean youre dating. I think thats whats wrong with the world today; whenever they see you with a person of the opposite gender, they automatically think theres something 'going on'. Thats so not true.
But, just always pray before you go into a relationship. Thats the best thing to do. Dont get attached right away, but still be yourself.

Thanks for the advice. I don't want to and don't plan on getting married anytime soon. It was just that I just now found out about this "courting" thing, and it kinda shook me up a little. To be honest I'm not really feeling the idea of it but, at the same time, who am I to question what God wants for his people to do. I felt I learned about it for a reason but Its just such a new concept. Ya know?