Please Help

DixieAtTheScene · 06-23-2005, 03:00 PM

Hey,
So I'm not sure if something of this nature has been posted or not, I'm in a hurry, but I'm sorry if it has. I need help in a relationship. I'm sixteen years old and fully believe that Jesus is my Lord and Savior and that God sent him to die on the cross for my sins. I have been dating a Catholic, who also believes that Jesus is her Lord and Savior, for a little over a month now. Things have escalated ever since our first date, meaning that our relationship has gone from making out to touching each other in you-know-where spots, but nothing more. I would feel uncomfortable going any further so I guess I'm wondering if what I'm doing now is wrong, if so, correct me, tell me what I need to do. Thanks for you reply.

Wise Counselor · 06-23-2005, 03:34 PM

I think it is kind of wrong because it can lead to something more, which will result in grief and regret. You should probably try to avoid any touching other than holding hands or a quick hug, just to be safe. Try telling the boy how you feel. If he truly likes you, he should respect how you feel and stop the inappropriate touching. The fact that you're letting him will also tell him that you may want more, even if you don't. You should put a stop to it before it's too late.

HaveFaith2005 · 06-23-2005, 03:37 PM

Go to a trusted adult and tell them want happened. In the meantime you'll feel better. Hope this helps. God bless!

MyJoyOverflows · 06-23-2005, 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by DixieAtTheScene

Hey,
So I'm not sure if something of this nature has been posted or not, I'm in a hurry, but I'm sorry if it has. I need help in a relationship. I'm sixteen years old and fully believe that Jesus is my Lord and Savior and that God sent him to die on the cross for my sins. I have been dating a Catholic, who also believes that Jesus is her Lord and Savior, for a little over a month now. Things have escalated ever since our first date, meaning that our relationship has gone from making out to touching each other in you-know-where spots, but nothing more. I would feel uncomfortable going any further so I guess I'm wondering if what I'm doing now is wrong, if so, correct me, tell me what I need to do. Thanks for you reply.

It's wrong to do physical things like touching and all. Our bodies are holy temples where the Holy Spirit dwells...not only that, but we are to do everything to being glory to God...how is touching each other in a way to sexually stimulate the other, bring God the glory?

HaveFaith2005 · 06-23-2005, 06:31 PM

It doesn't. Its just plain wrong.

Damaris · 06-23-2005, 07:04 PM

Here, let me try to take the words out of your mouth and try to put them into an objective veiwpoint without disorting what you actually said so that things will be a bit more cut and dry.

Ok, so your are feeling each other's private parts...why would you be uncomfortable going any further, if you are comfortable with this? Is it because going further than that has a label on it....the label of sex....and every christian girl knows that sex before marriage is wrong.

But allow me to introduce a new concept to you....sex is not just "going all the way". Sex is a package of things. Think of it as....hmm (I'm making this up off the top of my head) a box of chocolates. That box is ment to be given to your husband, and he gets to eat all the chocolates, every last one of them, because it says "the two will become one flesh." Now, the choice to do anything physical with him at all....I'm talking anything physical...jsut that choice....that was like you were taking the lid off the box of chocolates. When you guys started kissing each other (I assume you kiss) you gave him a chocolate. When you started feeling each other, you gave him some more chocolates. If you tell him things aobut your life that only your husband should know, you give him still more chocolates.

But there's something I didn't tell you about this box of chocolates. All of the pieces are jpined together in a beautiful picture. In the centerpiece of the picture is one specific piece that stands out distinctively from the others. It is the centerpiece ofr the beautiful picture...it's what the whole box of chocolates is all about. It's the most speacial, the most delicious, the most wonderful part of it.

What you have done is basically given away all the chocolates but the most special one. The most special one might still be there, but it was supposed to be a whole package, a beautiful picture that could be given completely and without regret.

Ok so I don't know if that example helped or not. Also, I'm going to disagree with most...ok probably all of the other people here on the answer to the question "is this a sin"? The truth is I don't think it is defined in the bible as sin, but that doesn't mean it isn't. I think that's between you and God..pray about it.

However, something that IS defined as sin is idolitry. Be honest with yourself....in your thought life, do you think more aobut God or about your boyfriend? In real life, do you spend more time talking to God or talking to your boyfriend? The Lord our God is a jealous God....don't even forget that.

Alright I think I've said my say in the matter....if you want to chat with me some more on this issue I'd be happy to take you up on it!

DixieAtTheScene · 06-23-2005, 09:14 PM

Hey,
Thank you everyone for your time and your replies, they definitely gave me something to think about. Oh and by the way just to set things straight, I'm the guy actually. But anyway, that analogy about the chocolates actually did make sense to me, so thanks for that. I also found the last comment you mentioned about idoltary really interesting, and comforting as well (although I'm not sure it was meant to be). I definitely do need to spend, not necessarily less time talking with my girlfriend, but more time talking with God. From here on out I think it's between God and me, so thanks again for everyone's responses.

Damaris · 06-23-2005, 11:12 PM

Ack....sorry about that! That's the second time I've done that on this site....that's so embarrasing! I'm really sorry! Glad you liked the example, though! =D

DixieAtTheScene · 06-25-2005, 01:24 AM

Well,
I'm gonna call her and talk to her about it tomorrow.
Wish me luck.

MyJoyOverflows · 06-25-2005, 01:38 AM

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Originally Posted by DixieAtTheScene

Well,
I'm gonna call her and talk to her about it tomorrow.
Wish me luck.

I'll pray for you...please let us know how it goes!

06-23-2005, 03:00 PM	#1
DixieAtTheScene DixieAtTheScene Edit AY! Newbie	Please Help Hey, So I'm not sure if something of this nature has been posted or not, I'm in a hurry, but I'm sorry if it has. I need help in a relationship. I'm sixteen years old and fully believe that Jesus is my Lord and Savior and that God sent him to die on the cross for my sins. I have been dating a Catholic, who also believes that Jesus is her Lord and Savior, for a little over a month now. Things have escalated ever since our first date, meaning that our relationship has gone from making out to touching each other in you-know-where spots, but nothing more. I would feel uncomfortable going any further so I guess I'm wondering if what I'm doing now is wrong, if so, correct me, tell me what I need to do. Thanks for you reply.
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06-23-2005, 03:34 PM	#2
Wise Counselor Wise Counselor Edit Disciple	I think it is kind of wrong because it can lead to something more, which will result in grief and regret. You should probably try to avoid any touching other than holding hands or a quick hug, just to be safe. Try telling the boy how you feel. If he truly likes you, he should respect how you feel and stop the inappropriate touching. The fact that you're letting him will also tell him that you may want more, even if you don't. You should put a stop to it before it's too late.
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06-23-2005, 03:37 PM	#3
HaveFaith2005 HaveFaith2005 is in your extened network. Edit Have a great day!	Go to a trusted adult and tell them want happened. In the meantime you'll feel better. Hope this helps. God bless! __________________ Have a blesse New Year!
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06-23-2005, 06:31 PM	#5
HaveFaith2005 HaveFaith2005 is in your extened network. Edit Have a great day!	It doesn't. Its just plain wrong. __________________ Have a blesse New Year!
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06-23-2005, 07:04 PM	#6
Damaris Damaris Edit servant	Here, let me try to take the words out of your mouth and try to put them into an objective veiwpoint without disorting what you actually said so that things will be a bit more cut and dry. Ok, so your are feeling each other's private parts...why would you be uncomfortable going any further, if you are comfortable with this? Is it because going further than that has a label on it....the label of sex....and every christian girl knows that sex before marriage is wrong. But allow me to introduce a new concept to you....sex is not just "going all the way". Sex is a package of things. Think of it as....hmm (I'm making this up off the top of my head) a box of chocolates. That box is ment to be given to your husband, and he gets to eat all the chocolates, every last one of them, because it says "the two will become one flesh." Now, the choice to do anything physical with him at all....I'm talking anything physical...jsut that choice....that was like you were taking the lid off the box of chocolates. When you guys started kissing each other (I assume you kiss) you gave him a chocolate. When you started feeling each other, you gave him some more chocolates. If you tell him things aobut your life that only your husband should know, you give him still more chocolates. But there's something I didn't tell you about this box of chocolates. All of the pieces are jpined together in a beautiful picture. In the centerpiece of the picture is one specific piece that stands out distinctively from the others. It is the centerpiece ofr the beautiful picture...it's what the whole box of chocolates is all about. It's the most speacial, the most delicious, the most wonderful part of it. What you have done is basically given away all the chocolates but the most special one. The most special one might still be there, but it was supposed to be a whole package, a beautiful picture that could be given completely and without regret. Ok so I don't know if that example helped or not. Also, I'm going to disagree with most...ok probably all of the other people here on the answer to the question "is this a sin"? The truth is I don't think it is defined in the bible as sin, but that doesn't mean it isn't. I think that's between you and God..pray about it. However, something that IS defined as sin is idolitry. Be honest with yourself....in your thought life, do you think more aobut God or about your boyfriend? In real life, do you spend more time talking to God or talking to your boyfriend? The Lord our God is a jealous God....don't even forget that. Alright I think I've said my say in the matter....if you want to chat with me some more on this issue I'd be happy to take you up on it! __________________ Let my heart be fixed on Thee My Lord, my life, my love Linger near and gently lead To rapturous joys above.
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06-23-2005, 09:14 PM	#7
DixieAtTheScene DixieAtTheScene Edit AY! Newbie	Hey, Thank you everyone for your time and your replies, they definitely gave me something to think about. Oh and by the way just to set things straight, I'm the guy actually. But anyway, that analogy about the chocolates actually did make sense to me, so thanks for that. I also found the last comment you mentioned about idoltary really interesting, and comforting as well (although I'm not sure it was meant to be). I definitely do need to spend, not necessarily less time talking with my girlfriend, but more time talking with God. From here on out I think it's between God and me, so thanks again for everyone's responses.
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06-23-2005, 11:12 PM	#8
Damaris Damaris Edit servant	Ack....sorry about that! That's the second time I've done that on this site....that's so embarrasing! I'm really sorry! Glad you liked the example, though! =D __________________ Let my heart be fixed on Thee My Lord, my life, my love Linger near and gently lead To rapturous joys above.
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06-25-2005, 01:24 AM	#9
DixieAtTheScene DixieAtTheScene Edit AY! Newbie	Well, I'm gonna call her and talk to her about it tomorrow. Wish me luck.
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