Has anyone noticed how hard it is?

Gods-lil-shorty · 06-22-2005, 12:11 AM

...how hard it is to remain sexually pure in today's society. According to the Bible just thinking lustfully and other such things is a sin . This seems very hard to me.
I have a boyfriend of two years and I'm constantly being asked questions relating to me and him... is it so hard to believe that a couple of teenagers can't date anymore without being sexually active. I'm starting to have second thoughts they're wearing me down... please help me I don't want to give in to the pressures of my peers... what shall I do?

06-22-2005, 10:59 AM

I know what you mean, The world is totally rotten. Try to make it one of your goals in life not to have sex before you marry. You're closer to marrying than me. God gave me my guy at 13 (and I know that he is "the one", even my parents think so!!) and I'm going to have to wait soo much more! Consider yourself totally blessed!!!

What do your closest friends think of all this?

Damaris · 06-22-2005, 11:41 AM

What can you do? You can ask God to help you....you can ask him to sho wyou where you need to set the boundaries, and then set them. For instance, if you simply set your boundaries at not having sex, then you might still be over at his house, with no one else home, watching a movie until 2 am. THen it is much harder to draw the line. Talk to your boyfriends about all this, set some boundaries together, and hold each other to them. =)

Lizzy · 06-23-2005, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Gods-lil-shorty

is it so hard to believe that a couple of teenagers can't date anymore without being sexually active.

I don't know if this is much help, but i totally look up to those celebrities who kept sex for marraige, and definately high school and college couples who are making that same commitment. It really shows they love each other to respect each other like that.

AllWillBow · 06-23-2005, 11:00 AM

Yes it is hard, but look at it from another side, your boyfriends side. Do you know how insanely hard it is for a christian male to stay pure today? Go watch tv for a few hours, just normal shows. During the shows and every commercail pay attention, see how many girls there are walking around in short skirts, or low tops, or lingere comercails and stuff like that. Look out in the world, how many girls do you see walking around wearing such little clothes...it's so freaking hard. Plus you imagined how you get asked alot about your relationship...once again, think about him. Think of guys talking to him, asking him why he hasn't slept with you or done anything with you yet. It's insane how much it wears you down and bugs you.

Just pray about it, and seriously, go and talk to him. Spill your guts and let him know everything.

zippy · 06-24-2005, 07:43 PM

OH yea thats the trouth, Any more you would think that having sex is the only thing to do with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Im away from home and i get asked by the other workers all the time if i have girfriend and on and on. Its not the simplest thing to stay pure in your relationships. If your having problems with it times that by two and thats probley what your boyfriend is having to deal with. But if you have remaned pure to this point just keep on perservearing and pray and ask God for help. He does ancer prayers

Good luck and God be with you and your boyfriend

who is like God · 06-26-2005, 03:05 PM

I understand what you mean. I am not that affected by tv because I don't watch shows that would have it like sitcoms. I is very difficult nowadays but I feel it was just difficult many years ago, because people still did the same sexual immoral things. It is worse now in that it is easier to see bad stuff and that is the norm to do those things.
Michael

06-26-2005, 11:01 PM

It is a lot easier when you are brought up in a good family,
When your partner (for lack of a better term...the "other half" of the couple!)
and you both agree on standards and know you won't let loose of them, hey it can be easy...
...ah-heh...ah-heh
Not always easy, but it's a lot easier then those surrounded by kids to "do it" all the time.
Right now my guy and me are simply just working against the temptation no to kiss, neither of us have ever kissed someone and we want to save it.

06-22-2005, 12:11 AM	#1
Gods-lil-shorty Gods-lil-shorty Edit AY! Newbie	Has anyone noticed how hard it is? ...how hard it is to remain sexually pure in today's society. According to the Bible just thinking lustfully and other such things is a sin . This seems very hard to me. I have a boyfriend of two years and I'm constantly being asked questions relating to me and him... is it so hard to believe that a couple of teenagers can't date anymore without being sexually active. I'm starting to have second thoughts they're wearing me down... please help me I don't want to give in to the pressures of my peers... what shall I do?
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06-22-2005, 11:41 AM	#3
Damaris Damaris Edit servant	What can you do? You can ask God to help you....you can ask him to sho wyou where you need to set the boundaries, and then set them. For instance, if you simply set your boundaries at not having sex, then you might still be over at his house, with no one else home, watching a movie until 2 am. THen it is much harder to draw the line. Talk to your boyfriends about all this, set some boundaries together, and hold each other to them. =) __________________ Let my heart be fixed on Thee My Lord, my life, my love Linger near and gently lead To rapturous joys above.
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06-23-2005, 11:00 AM	#5
AllWillBow AllWillBow Edit Apostle	Yes it is hard, but look at it from another side, your boyfriends side. Do you know how insanely hard it is for a christian male to stay pure today? Go watch tv for a few hours, just normal shows. During the shows and every commercail pay attention, see how many girls there are walking around in short skirts, or low tops, or lingere comercails and stuff like that. Look out in the world, how many girls do you see walking around wearing such little clothes...it's so freaking hard. Plus you imagined how you get asked alot about your relationship...once again, think about him. Think of guys talking to him, asking him why he hasn't slept with you or done anything with you yet. It's insane how much it wears you down and bugs you. Just pray about it, and seriously, go and talk to him. Spill your guts and let him know everything.
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06-24-2005, 07:43 PM	#6
zippy zippy Edit AY! Newbie	OH yea thats the trouth, Any more you would think that having sex is the only thing to do with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Im away from home and i get asked by the other workers all the time if i have girfriend and on and on. Its not the simplest thing to stay pure in your relationships. If your having problems with it times that by two and thats probley what your boyfriend is having to deal with. But if you have remaned pure to this point just keep on perservearing and pray and ask God for help. He does ancer prayers Good luck and God be with you and your boyfriend
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06-26-2005, 03:05 PM	#7
who is like God who is like God Edit Disciple	I understand what you mean. I am not that affected by tv because I don't watch shows that would have it like sitcoms. I is very difficult nowadays but I feel it was just difficult many years ago, because people still did the same sexual immoral things. It is worse now in that it is easier to see bad stuff and that is the norm to do those things. Michael
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06-22-2005, 10:59 AM	#2
1cutemonki 1cutemonki Edit Guest	I know what you mean, The world is totally rotten. Try to make it one of your goals in life not to have sex before you marry. You're closer to marrying than me. God gave me my guy at 13 (and I know that he is "the one", even my parents think so!!) and I'm going to have to wait soo much more! Consider yourself totally blessed!!! What do your closest friends think of all this?

06-26-2005, 11:01 PM	#8
Princess Princess Edit Guest	It is a lot easier when you are brought up in a good family, When your partner (for lack of a better term...the "other half" of the couple!) and you both agree on standards and know you won't let loose of them, hey it can be easy... ...ah-heh...ah-heh Not always easy, but it's a lot easier then those surrounded by kids to "do it" all the time. Right now my guy and me are simply just working against the temptation no to kiss, neither of us have ever kissed someone and we want to save it.