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[DyingToLive]

I'm not sure where this will go, but I figure there's no harm in trying.

I've always been a loner, I never thought this was a problem, until recently. I've felt as if I have no friends. As if I'm missing out on the last few years of my teen life.
Everybody I know has at least one friend. Someone they can talk too about anything. What do I have? Oh, you know, the usual online friend, but I need something more then that. I need to feel like I belong.
I feel like I'm losing my mind.
On the outside it doesn't look bad at all. I'm used to being alone. I'm used to being "mature" and older. I'm used to having responsibility, but just all of a sudden it's become so much harder to bear. As if something in me just "switched." I think differently. I am different.
I never realized how big a difference a few friends would make. I always thought I was fine. That life would just continue as normal, no matter what friends I made or didn't make.
Now, some of you may suggest I join a youth group or something. So let me just get this out of the way. I don't belong to any church. I don't have a youth group. And I don't go to public school. All of those "activities" are out of the equation.
The only thing I have is the occasional "outing."
I'm really just giving up. I wish God had a plan for my life. But right now I just don't see it. I see a hole in my life. I see a person who is losing faith and doesn't know how to stop it.

[Damaris]

You're right, the first thing I would suggest would be a youth group. Why can't you join a youth group? And join a church?

Pray about it.....lol, you're just getting all the sunday school answers from me that I'm sure you know already, but they're good reminders at least. I'm here, always eager for another friend, but what would be better is some friends in person, which I can't help you out with, except through prayer...which I most certainly will be doing.

Hang in there!

"There is surely a future hope for you, and that hope will not be cut off"

[Ed]

Originally Posted by DyingToLive

I wish God had a plan for my life. But right now I just don't see it.

WEll your wish has just become reality - for if there is one thing that Gods bin pointing out to me right now its that he has a perfect plan for my life, if i wish to follow. And it is the same for everyone. Im sure you've heard this verse over and over as its been quoted and quoted... however i want to re-iterate what God said to Jeremiah as it still rings true today:-

11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you," declares the LORD, "and will bring you back from captivity (Jeremiah 29:11-14)

In God and Christ Jesus we can have hope about hte future.

But what i really suggest is one step at a time... As Damaris commented my first thought is just cos you don't have a church doesnt mean that you can't join a youthgroup... Im at the youthgroup of a church i dont go to (as there was no one at my church the right age at the tiem) Is it the scaryness of joining thats holding you back? Seek God asking for courage to cope.....

What are these outings? Is there anyone you've ever clicked with when chatting to on them? Thought of getting there details (mob no. email addy sort of thing) and keeping in touch then arranging to meet up for coffee or icecream or something? Tis a good way of getting a friend.

Other thing is, what about hobbies or sports? What are you into? Maybe think about joining a community run club or course and you'll meet loadsa ppl you wouldnt have done otherwise that way.


I know the issue wit friends - always kicks in about the same time. The need to belong, be understood, find the support your parents can no longer give you to the same extent because you want to be inderpendant. Friendship is a key thing in most ppls lives, since God made us to be relational beings... Remember that he fills a giant hole in your life, but also remember even when Adam had God in the beginning he said, it is not right for man to be alone and made Eve. So yer, no matter how scary it is, i suggest you follow up an old friendship or get yourself out somewhere where you can make new ones.

Want any more advice etc... we're here. But incase my post seems too daunting - the one thing i will say is that friendships are something that tend to develop alot when you move out of home if not before... because your parents can no longer restrict where you go and you have a job which involves being around other ppl. never think you have to continue this way because its the way its always been.... And remember when it feels like God isn't around its often because we can't see him thru the veil of our pain or because he's carrying us but he promises he will "never leave or forsake us" and God never breaks a promise. He is there with you right now....

[Lizzy]

I'll pray for you. For a while i felt the same way, because I felt I pushed away my old friends and my new ones despised me. It's not God's will that you feel like this, so with deep prayer He will answer and somehow make your situation better. I'm not saying that it will be exactly what you expect, but He will help you fill that void somehow.

[punkdancer41]

I know some people that are homeschooled. They go to a co-op. I'm not exactly sure what it is, but they go there once a weekalong with other people. It probably offers classes. They still do school every day but they go to the other too.

[Ed]

Hows it going? Just checking in as not heard any response?

[joy-girl]

Dying2Live

I know where your coming from.
I also have...

no church
no youth group
no friends
no counselors
and i'm homeschooled.

my parants don't allow me to go to church. And 4 some reason they think that other teens will have a bad influence over me. So i can't 'hang out' with anyone.
Everyone is great here at AY, but sometimes it just isn't enough...
A few times I've tried to run away from home. It didn't work. And it wasn't te answer either.

The answer lies in a Man. His name is Jesus. Know Him?
See, my parents CAN'T stop me from talking w/ Him. And though sometimes i don't feel like i can draw another breath, i'm so misrable; He keeps me going.

He is a friend that sticks closer than a brother. You keep in contact with Him and you will make it. Trust me. He is all you need. I'm 100% sure.

And if you ever need to talk; you can email me,
i will try to encourage you the best i can.

[Ed]

hmmm - he gives the best hugs too right in the darkest hour of the night! I know.... thats the one thing no other human contact has come near! A God hug!

[DyingToLive]

I've accepted the fact that I'm alone right now.
After talking with one of my friends, I've realized that I've slacked off on my relationship with God. And that was my fault. I thought I was doing alright, but then I realized something. He was always there for me. I thought I was crying out to him, but maybe it was just an act. I thought I truly meant what I was saying, but maybe it was fake. I know I have to get my priorities straight. But for right now, all I can do is work on my relationship with God, with my family, and maybe in the future, with friends. Maybe when I go to University I'll make some friends. Maybe when I go out on my own I'll meet some new people. But, until then, I need to work on myself.

It took a lot for me to realize this, but, when you trust God, things really will work out in the end. Things will become clearer and more crisp. Things, will change.

I thank you all for replying to this. I really appreciate it.

[MyJoyOverflows]

Originally Posted by DyingToLive

I've accepted the fact that I'm alone right now.
After talking with one of my friends, I've realized that I've slacked off on my relationship with God. And that was my fault. I thought I was doing alright, but then I realized something. He was always there for me. I thought I was crying out to him, but maybe it was just an act. I thought I truly meant what I was saying, but maybe it was fake. I know I have to get my priorities straight. But for right now, all I can do is work on my relationship with God, with my family, and maybe in the future, with friends. Maybe when I go to University I'll make some friends. Maybe when I go out on my own I'll meet some new people. But, until then, I need to work on myself.

It took a lot for me to realize this, but, when you trust God, things really will work out in the end. Things will become clearer and more crisp. Things, will change.

I thank you all for replying to this. I really appreciate it.

*hugs* You can get through this girl!!