Breaking it off for the first time

iluvsummer · 06-17-2005, 06:33 PM

I met this great Christian guy last summer. He lives about an hour and a half away, and we are both busy so we only see each other about every other week, if that. We never dated because we didn't think that it was right for our circumstance, but we never saw other people. We are both going to college next year and we will be about 3 hours apart. He is coming to visit tomorrow and I would like to tell him that it is over, but I don't know how. I know that he likes me a lot but I know that it has to be done. Any advice would be very much appreciated!

w.e.g. · 06-17-2005, 07:26 PM

so you never dated, what is there to break off?

sari58 · 06-17-2005, 09:47 PM

that's what i was wondering....but since you asked i would say just tell him what's really going on

NeverAlone2820 · 06-17-2005, 10:42 PM

Yeah i don't see why you haev to break up if you're not even together, lol ...i agree with w.e.g. and sari58

iluvsummer · 06-17-2005, 10:49 PM

We may not be dating- but we are more than friends. It is hard to explain, but even though it is not official and we have never held hands or anything, there is something there to end, which makes it all the more complicated. Sorry for the mass amounts of confusion- that is kind of how my love life is.

MyJoyOverflows · 06-18-2005, 04:20 AM

Okay, my idea would be to just tell him how you've been feeling. If you feel that you're "relationship", whatever you'd like to call it, isn't working the way that it should be, then say that you just want to be friends...say that you want to keep it only to a friendship level...I guess that's all I have for you.

iluvsummer · 06-19-2005, 11:14 PM

thanks for your input, these hidden tears, he came to town and when we said good bye i think that he had already realized that nothing could come out of a long distance relationship that was doomed to be that way forever

MyJoyOverflows · 06-20-2005, 04:26 PM

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Originally Posted by iluvsummer

thanks for your input, these hidden tears, he came to town and when we said good bye i think that he had already realized that nothing could come out of a long distance relationship that was doomed to be that way forever

and you're both okay with that right? Are you still going to keep in touch though?

iluvsummer · 06-21-2005, 02:51 PM

We are still keeping in touch. That is fine with me because I think that he is a really great guy and I still want to be friends. I just know that because of our situation, it would be a waste of time to be exclusive. I want to be able to keep my options open, especially as I head to college in the fall.

06-17-2005, 06:33 PM	#1
iluvsummer iluvsummer Edit Disciple	Breaking it off for the first time I met this great Christian guy last summer. He lives about an hour and a half away, and we are both busy so we only see each other about every other week, if that. We never dated because we didn't think that it was right for our circumstance, but we never saw other people. We are both going to college next year and we will be about 3 hours apart. He is coming to visit tomorrow and I would like to tell him that it is over, but I don't know how. I know that he likes me a lot but I know that it has to be done. Any advice would be very much appreciated!
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06-17-2005, 07:26 PM	#2
w.e.g. w.e.g. Edit Prophet/Prophetess	so you never dated, what is there to break off? __________________ There is no luck only faith. CAP'N WILLY
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06-17-2005, 09:47 PM	#3
sari58 sari58 Edit Disciple	that's what i was wondering....but since you asked i would say just tell him what's really going on
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06-17-2005, 10:42 PM	#4
NeverAlone2820 NeverAlone2820 Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Yeah i don't see why you haev to break up if you're not even together, lol ...i agree with w.e.g. and sari58 __________________ Heroes are made when you make a choice 1 in 12 teens attempt suicide. 40% of teens are cutters. 48% are sexually active. 1 in 10 fifteen year olds have already gone through at least one divorce in their family. 29 people die every 30 seconds. *&& all of us just sit back* and watch it happen. This is our problem.** So let's wake up and change the world - our time is now
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06-17-2005, 10:49 PM	#5
iluvsummer iluvsummer Edit Disciple	it is more complicated than that We may not be dating- but we are more than friends. It is hard to explain, but even though it is not official and we have never held hands or anything, there is something there to end, which makes it all the more complicated. Sorry for the mass amounts of confusion- that is kind of how my love life is.
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06-18-2005, 04:20 AM	#6
MyJoyOverflows MyJoyOverflows Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Okay, my idea would be to just tell him how you've been feeling. If you feel that you're "relationship", whatever you'd like to call it, isn't working the way that it should be, then say that you just want to be friends...say that you want to keep it only to a friendship level...I guess that's all I have for you.
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06-19-2005, 11:14 PM	#7
iluvsummer iluvsummer Edit Disciple	thanks for your input, these hidden tears, he came to town and when we said good bye i think that he had already realized that nothing could come out of a long distance relationship that was doomed to be that way forever
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06-21-2005, 02:51 PM	#9
iluvsummer iluvsummer Edit Disciple	We are still keeping in touch. That is fine with me because I think that he is a really great guy and I still want to be friends. I just know that because of our situation, it would be a waste of time to be exclusive. I want to be able to keep my options open, especially as I head to college in the fall.
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