Dating problem Girls HELP!

06-11-2005, 02:26 PM

Hi Yo'll ,
You Guys why is it when you date for some reason i give it all like (engery/ attention/ )so much that i would block out God.
How can i avoid this problem the next time when i start to date again?
Any ideas? Any advice ?

God Bless,
Godsholyknight

HeavenBound · 06-11-2005, 02:33 PM

Just to let you know, I've never had a bf, so.....

Here's my opinion: I think the reason people do that is 'cause they are obsessed with the fact that they have a bf or gf that they put all they can in it to try to get it to be a "good" relationship, and they block out God 'cause they think all they need at the time is their partner, and they don't want to be "alone".

MyJoyOverflows · 06-11-2005, 11:18 PM

I think that it's because we get so consumed in what we can see...what we can touch....it's kinda easy to put more of yourself into something that you can see. I mean, sure we see God in various aspects of our lives....but I don't mean like that. The guy is there...you have feelings for him...he has feelings for you...you're dating....it's easy to get caught up in emotions...whether good or bad. I know that there have been times where my relationships got in the way of my relationship with God...it took me a while to no longer be in denial over it...but once I noticed it, I made sure that God was my #1 again! If you're going to be in a relationship...it needs to bring glory to God. Worship together, pray together, read your Bibles together...grow together in God. If that's not happening, it makes it far too easy to let the relationship take over what you and God should have together...

ibreakdrumsticks · 06-12-2005, 01:59 AM

i would strongly encourage you to read i kissed dating goodbye and boy meets girl by joshua harris. these books are awesome. read them adn you will never be the same. also, whe you do start dating, since you will be friends with him for a while before you date, find out about his relationship with the lord. is he christian? make sure that he backs it up. make sure he has Godly character and is honest, full of intergrity ect... good night!

sari58 · 06-12-2005, 04:08 PM

GOOD BOOKS!!!!!! but yeah...when you date a guy make sure you know how strong he is in his walk with God. I'd let him know straight up that you may begin to sturggle with your relationship with God and that's the last thing you want. Then just tell him if that happens that you may want to limit your time with him...take a break from him for a week( or longer if need be...) and fast or do really in depth Bible studies or prayers. and i think like someone may have said before maybe you could do Bible studies together but if that starts to make the problem worse don't do it...obviously....hope that helps!!!

Sarah <><

ligatio_babe · 06-13-2005, 12:15 AM

I think we put too much energy and effort into relationships with boys, because it's so different than with God. God will always love us, no matter what, and if we screw up, all we have to do is repent and God will forgive us. With boys it's a little more complicated. I'm actually at the opposite side with relationships. I don't put nearly enough effort into relationships, which would explain why they fail, actually.

Just make sure you have a healthy balance between God and boys, in that order haha.

gullivers_travels · 06-15-2005, 01:25 AM

I would just tell you to pray before every date or meeting you have with your bf or whatever. Ask God to fill your mouth with the right words to say, the courage to defend your faith if it be attacked (not saying it will), and for Him to stay your number one priority. I know it's A LOT easier said than done, but the more you practice it, the easier it becomes.

Damaris · 06-15-2005, 01:48 AM

Paul talks aobut how if you are married (and I'm assuming this applies to dating as well) you cannot help but be distracted from God. Your interests are divided between your spouse and God, and there is nothing you can do to avoid that, so you might as well not deny it.

gullivers_travels · 06-15-2005, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Damaris

Paul talks aobut how if you are married (and I'm assuming this applies to dating as well) you cannot help but be distracted from God. Your interests are divided between your spouse and God, and there is nothing you can do to avoid that, so you might as well not deny it.

he didn't say it was okay to be distracted though. it is a fact, yes, that you get distracted, but that doesn't mean you can't do something about it.

06-11-2005, 02:33 PM	#2
HeavenBound HeavenBound Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Just to let you know, I've never had a bf, so..... Here's my opinion: I think the reason people do that is 'cause they are obsessed with the fact that they have a bf or gf that they put all they can in it to try to get it to be a "good" relationship, and they block out God 'cause they think all they need at the time is their partner, and they don't want to be "alone". __________________ "We have just enough Religion to make us HATE, but not enough to make us LOVE one Another..." -Jonathan Swift Who could hate a Man, who thought about YOU on the Cross?
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06-11-2005, 11:18 PM	#3
MyJoyOverflows MyJoyOverflows Edit Prophet/Prophetess	I think that it's because we get so consumed in what we can see...what we can touch....it's kinda easy to put more of yourself into something that you can see. I mean, sure we see God in various aspects of our lives....but I don't mean like that. The guy is there...you have feelings for him...he has feelings for you...you're dating....it's easy to get caught up in emotions...whether good or bad. I know that there have been times where my relationships got in the way of my relationship with God...it took me a while to no longer be in denial over it...but once I noticed it, I made sure that God was my #1 again! If you're going to be in a relationship...it needs to bring glory to God. Worship together, pray together, read your Bibles together...grow together in God. If that's not happening, it makes it far too easy to let the relationship take over what you and God should have together...
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06-12-2005, 01:59 AM	#4
ibreakdrumsticks ibreakdrumsticks Edit Prophet/Prophetess	i would strongly encourage you to read i kissed dating goodbye and boy meets girl by joshua harris. these books are awesome. read them adn you will never be the same. also, whe you do start dating, since you will be friends with him for a while before you date, find out about his relationship with the lord. is he christian? make sure that he backs it up. make sure he has Godly character and is honest, full of intergrity ect... good night!
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06-12-2005, 04:08 PM	#5
sari58 sari58 Edit Disciple	GOOD BOOKS!!!!!! but yeah...when you date a guy make sure you know how strong he is in his walk with God. I'd let him know straight up that you may begin to sturggle with your relationship with God and that's the last thing you want. Then just tell him if that happens that you may want to limit your time with him...take a break from him for a week( or longer if need be...) and fast or do really in depth Bible studies or prayers. and i think like someone may have said before maybe you could do Bible studies together but if that starts to make the problem worse don't do it...obviously....hope that helps!!! Sarah <><
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06-13-2005, 12:15 AM	#6
ligatio_babe ligatio_babe Edit Evangelist/Missionary	I think we put too much energy and effort into relationships with boys, because it's so different than with God. God will always love us, no matter what, and if we screw up, all we have to do is repent and God will forgive us. With boys it's a little more complicated. I'm actually at the opposite side with relationships. I don't put nearly enough effort into relationships, which would explain why they fail, actually. Just make sure you have a healthy balance between God and boys, in that order haha.
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06-11-2005, 02:26 PM	#1
Godsholyknight Godsholyknight Edit Guest	Dating problem Girls HELP! Hi Yo'll , You Guys why is it when you date for some reason i give it all like (engery/ attention/ )so much that i would block out God. How can i avoid this problem the next time when i start to date again? Any ideas? Any advice ? God Bless, Godsholyknight

06-15-2005, 01:25 AM	#7
gullivers_travels gullivers_travels feels very blessed Edit Apostle	I would just tell you to pray before every date or meeting you have with your bf or whatever. Ask God to fill your mouth with the right words to say, the courage to defend your faith if it be attacked (not saying it will), and for Him to stay your number one priority. I know it's A LOT easier said than done, but the more you practice it, the easier it becomes.
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06-15-2005, 01:48 AM	#8
Damaris Damaris Edit servant	Paul talks aobut how if you are married (and I'm assuming this applies to dating as well) you cannot help but be distracted from God. Your interests are divided between your spouse and God, and there is nothing you can do to avoid that, so you might as well not deny it. __________________ Let my heart be fixed on Thee My Lord, my life, my love Linger near and gently lead To rapturous joys above.
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