Boy-Friend Problems

soldierforJesus · 05-31-2005, 08:50 PM

Hi all,
I'm in need of some advise, so here's the scoop.

1) I'm afraid my b/f may not like me nemore. I think he still does, but how do I tell, and, how do I ask him without scaring him away?

2) I don't think he got me a b-day presant. My b-day was yesterday, ya, he definatally knew about it, i gave enough hints I think the stupidest man in the world would have picked up on it.

3) Any other guy would have been gone, aka, I would have broken up with him, a long time ago; so why is he still around. Why can't I break up with him.

so yea, any advice??

LOSER · 05-31-2005, 09:56 PM

Hey I know that this is the Girls Forum but I just thought I would try to help.

Just tell him that you are confused and not sure that he likes you anymore and then he will tell you if he does. Don't be scared that it will scare him away if he is worth it he will stay. And if he is scared away then God has someone better for you, and you should wait for him.

I have to tell you from our view point you girls are vague at the best, and just remember that we can't get sutle hints, good hints, we just don't get hints most of the time.

As to this one the answer is in your own heart. I don't think that any one could tell you why. You just have to look into your heart, maybe you should back off a little and see how you realy feel.

Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.

Hope I helped,
LOSER

sari58 · 05-31-2005, 10:22 PM

i agree i can't really think of anything else to add to that...just be honest with him

krystal · 05-31-2005, 11:25 PM

have a nice chat with him and be honest and prayer about it and just remember God knows what is best for you so if this relationship doesn't work there is someone better waiting

You are young!!!

sKybLue · 05-31-2005, 11:43 PM

First of, happy belated birthday!

um, i gotta agree with Loser on this one.

1. guys don't read hints/clues well. the best way to get around this is to have a talk with him and find out where you really stand in the relationship.

2. guys don't remember dates all too well. my close friend of 7 years even forgot my 18th birthday this year, EVEN with multiple **hints**. so while you might be thinking that your whole relationship is going down the drain, he MIGHT just be thinking of how his fave football team lost in a match or something like that. so the best bet is still to go straight to him and talk things out.

may God give you clarity of mind and assurance of heart on this!

NeverAlone2820 · 06-01-2005, 10:06 AM

I agree with SkyBlue and Loser...
You should talk to him if its bothering you. And there isn't a guy alive that can take a hint, lol I've had that prob b4, so i know how that goes, but if you wanna say something to him just say it, cause they seriously can't take hints

soldierforJesus · 06-01-2005, 10:32 AM

thanks for the help.
it turns out, from wat my friends said, that he got me a present, but he felt bad b/c he didn't wrap it. he gave it to me today and said 'sry it isn't wraped' so that made me happy.

i've also been thinking. i feel that there is something there with him that there wasn't with any other guy. do any of you know wat i mean? he's like, special somehow. I asked him if things were ok with us, but i haven't heard back from him yet. we'll see, we're coming up on one year, i am going to plan a dinner and a movie, cause he's not the kind of guy that does stuff like that, we really don't go out much, so we'll see how he reacts to that.

again, thanks.

MyJoyOverflows · 06-02-2005, 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by soldierforJesus

thanks for the help.
it turns out, from wat my friends said, that he got me a present, but he felt bad b/c he didn't wrap it. he gave it to me today and said 'sry it isn't wraped' so that made me happy.

i've also been thinking. i feel that there is something there with him that there wasn't with any other guy. do any of you know wat i mean? he's like, special somehow. I asked him if things were ok with us, but i haven't heard back from him yet. we'll see, we're coming up on one year, i am going to plan a dinner and a movie, cause he's not the kind of guy that does stuff like that, we really don't go out much, so we'll see how he reacts to that.

again, thanks.

I'm glad that things are a bit better. It's always a good thing to hear. There are times where we all feel that certain people are very special to us. Your first post was talking about how you can't break up with him...and now this one your talking about how you feel that there's something special with him. I think that you really need to pray about this...and make sure that you're not acting on emotions...'cause it almost seems that that is what you're doing...forgive me if I'm wrong...I'm not trying to tell you that's what's going on...I just found it interesting....

And Loser...great advice...I really appreciate what you said.

soldierforJesus · 06-02-2005, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by TheseHiddenTears

I'm glad that things are a bit better. It's always a good thing to hear. There are times where we all feel that certain people are very special to us. Your first post was talking about how you can't break up with him...and now this one your talking about how you feel that there's something special with him. I think that you really need to pray about this...and make sure that you're not acting on emotions...'cause it almost seems that that is what you're doing...forgive me if I'm wrong...I'm not trying to tell you that's what's going on...I just found it interesting....

And Loser...great advice...I really appreciate what you said.

i have been praying about it. i'm just so confused, so i was wondering wat you guys thought. thanks.

MyJoyOverflows · 06-02-2005, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by soldierforJesus

i have been praying about it. i'm just so confused, so i was wondering wat you guys thought. thanks.

just keep on praying...that's the best thing that you can do...

05-31-2005, 08:50 PM	#1
soldierforJesus soldierforJesus Edit on Gods mission	Boy-Friend Problems Hi all, I'm in need of some advise, so here's the scoop. 1) I'm afraid my b/f may not like me nemore. I think he still does, but how do I tell, and, how do I ask him without scaring him away? 2) I don't think he got me a b-day presant. My b-day was yesterday, ya, he definatally knew about it, i gave enough hints I think the stupidest man in the world would have picked up on it. 3) Any other guy would have been gone, aka, I would have broken up with him, a long time ago; so why is he still around. Why can't I break up with him. so yea, any advice?? __________________ No walls - embrace a world as one, where music will guide us, guitars instead of guns. ~Hyde, Mission~ †'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord. 'Plans to prosper you, plans to give you a hope and a future, and not to harm you.'† ~Jeremiah 29:11~ †Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.† ~Proverbs 31:30~ †Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.† ~Hebrews 11:1~
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05-31-2005, 09:56 PM	#2
LOSER LOSER Edit AY! Newbie	Hey I know that this is the Girls Forum but I just thought I would try to help. Just tell him that you are confused and not sure that he likes you anymore and then he will tell you if he does. Don't be scared that it will scare him away if he is worth it he will stay. And if he is scared away then God has someone better for you, and you should wait for him. I have to tell you from our view point you girls are vague at the best, and just remember that we can't get sutle hints, good hints, we just don't get hints most of the time. As to this one the answer is in your own heart. I don't think that any one could tell you why. You just have to look into your heart, maybe you should back off a little and see how you realy feel. Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Hope I helped, LOSER
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05-31-2005, 10:22 PM	#3
sari58 sari58 Edit Disciple	i agree i can't really think of anything else to add to that...just be honest with him
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05-31-2005, 11:25 PM	#4
krystal krystal Edit Prophet/Prophetess	have a nice chat with him and be honest and prayer about it and just remember God knows what is best for you so if this relationship doesn't work there is someone better waiting You are young!!! __________________ Krystal
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05-31-2005, 11:43 PM	#5
sKybLue sKybLue Edit His Masterpiece..	First of, happy belated birthday! um, i gotta agree with Loser on this one. 1. guys don't read hints/clues well. the best way to get around this is to have a talk with him and find out where you really stand in the relationship. 2. guys don't remember dates all too well. my close friend of 7 years even forgot my 18th birthday this year, EVEN with multiple hints. so while you might be thinking that your whole relationship is going down the drain, he MIGHT just be thinking of how his fave football team lost in a match or something like that. so the best bet is still to go straight to him and talk things out. may God give you clarity of mind and assurance of heart on this! __________________ May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in Your sight O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer. New Quiz on Ruth
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06-01-2005, 10:06 AM	#6
NeverAlone2820 NeverAlone2820 Edit Prophet/Prophetess	I agree with SkyBlue and Loser... You should talk to him if its bothering you. And there isn't a guy alive that can take a hint, lol I've had that prob b4, so i know how that goes, but if you wanna say something to him just say it, cause they seriously can't take hints __________________ Heroes are made when you make a choice 1 in 12 teens attempt suicide. 40% of teens are cutters. 48% are sexually active. 1 in 10 fifteen year olds have already gone through at least one divorce in their family. 29 people die every 30 seconds. *&& all of us just sit back* and watch it happen. This is our problem.** So let's wake up and change the world - our time is now
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06-01-2005, 10:32 AM	#7
soldierforJesus soldierforJesus Edit on Gods mission	thanks for the help. it turns out, from wat my friends said, that he got me a present, but he felt bad b/c he didn't wrap it. he gave it to me today and said 'sry it isn't wraped' so that made me happy. i've also been thinking. i feel that there is something there with him that there wasn't with any other guy. do any of you know wat i mean? he's like, special somehow. I asked him if things were ok with us, but i haven't heard back from him yet. we'll see, we're coming up on one year, i am going to plan a dinner and a movie, cause he's not the kind of guy that does stuff like that, we really don't go out much, so we'll see how he reacts to that. again, thanks. __________________ No walls - embrace a world as one, where music will guide us, guitars instead of guns. ~Hyde, Mission~ †'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord. 'Plans to prosper you, plans to give you a hope and a future, and not to harm you.'† ~Jeremiah 29:11~ †Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.† ~Proverbs 31:30~ †Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.† ~Hebrews 11:1~
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