Parents who don't like you :(

krystal · 05-24-2005, 12:01 AM

Ok here is my situation. I have liked my now boyfriend for over 5 months and he has liked me for a little over 3 months. His parents always seemed to like me until recently when we started dating. I started going to his church about 9 months ago and I understand that his parents may have some questions as to my beliefs or whatever. They are still in the process of getting to know me. His dad is my sunday school teacher and he really likes me and thinks that we are going to help each other grow in all aspects of life. His mom on the other hand hasn't really gotten a chance to sit and talk with me and she gives me the impression she really doesn't care for me. I really like my boyfriend and I want to be accepted by his family too. I don't know what I would do if they were against our relationship. Another thing is that i'm 16 and he is 18 which even though we would never do anything illegal he could go to jail. I don't know if this is a factor in the reasons why she is so skeptical about me or if it's just because her son is growing up. I'm really concerned that it's going to put a barrier in our relationship. Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

Damaris · 05-24-2005, 12:51 AM

Wait why could he go to jail? I'm super confused about that....

As for the parents not liking you....just be yourself, show them love, and try not to worry about it. God can make a way, and as long as you make sure that you are not to blame, it is not your job to make them like you...that's up to God. =)

w.e.g. · 05-24-2005, 01:20 AM

yea, i too would like to know how he would go to jail.

jcdesertvoice · 05-24-2005, 09:41 AM

He can't go to jail unless there is proven corruption whether physical or character corruption.

05-24-2005, 02:16 PM

I understand you completely! Just pray alot and if it's in God's will (quoting from Toby Mac) "Everything's gonna be all right "

amigo · 05-24-2005, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by krystal

Ok here is my situation. I have liked my now boyfriend for over 5 months and he has liked me for a little over 3 months. His parents always seemed to like me until recently when we started dating. I started going to his church about 9 months ago and I understand that his parents may have some questions as to my beliefs or whatever. They are still in the process of getting to know me. His dad is my sunday school teacher and he really likes me and thinks that we are going to help each other grow in all aspects of life. His mom on the other hand hasn't really gotten a chance to sit and talk with me and she gives me the impression she really doesn't care for me. I really like my boyfriend and I want to be accepted by his family too. I don't know what I would do if they were against our relationship. Another thing is that i'm 16 and he is 18 which even though we would never do anything illegal he could go to jail. I don't know if this is a factor in the reasons why she is so skeptical about me or if it's just because her son is growing up. I'm really concerned that it's going to put a barrier in our relationship. Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

No offense but it seems to me that you should be examining the whole relationship...To begin with, you are only sixteen years old! You have years ahead of you to grow, be a kid! Enjoy your youth while you still have it and save your heart for this guy or whoever else comes a long!

jcdesertvoice · 05-24-2005, 04:33 PM

I agree with Amigo. You are young. All of us are. Don't rush your youth you'll miss it in the end and your parents are only doing what they feel is best for you becuase they love you.

LOSER · 05-24-2005, 06:58 PM

Relationships cause stress, and stress causes you to grow up faster. Stay a kid as long as you can. People think that they want to get a job, to have a boyfriend, get a car, but all these things just cause problems. I have been in two such relationships and all they do is cause stress. If you can't just get out of the relationship or you don't see any reason to, then pray a lot. In a relationship it is hard to grow in the Lord together with out letting go of little peices of your heart, help a group of your friends to grow not just him, be accountable.

LOSER

amigo · 05-24-2005, 06:59 PM

i'm glad that some agree with me! thanks guys!

krystal · 05-24-2005, 11:39 PM

ok my family is not christian so they seem him as jail bait because he is an illegal adult if there was to be anything physical happen which I can guarentee there isn't... and we aren't rushing anything and just really enjoy each other's company and we have a group of friends that help keep us accountable i'm just having a hard time with his mom being okay with everything until we started dating. It's hard

I guess I will pray and hope things work out for the best.

05-24-2005, 12:01 AM	#1
krystal krystal Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Parents who don't like you :( Ok here is my situation. I have liked my now boyfriend for over 5 months and he has liked me for a little over 3 months. His parents always seemed to like me until recently when we started dating. I started going to his church about 9 months ago and I understand that his parents may have some questions as to my beliefs or whatever. They are still in the process of getting to know me. His dad is my sunday school teacher and he really likes me and thinks that we are going to help each other grow in all aspects of life. His mom on the other hand hasn't really gotten a chance to sit and talk with me and she gives me the impression she really doesn't care for me. I really like my boyfriend and I want to be accepted by his family too. I don't know what I would do if they were against our relationship. Another thing is that i'm 16 and he is 18 which even though we would never do anything illegal he could go to jail. I don't know if this is a factor in the reasons why she is so skeptical about me or if it's just because her son is growing up. I'm really concerned that it's going to put a barrier in our relationship. Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks __________________ Krystal
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05-24-2005, 12:51 AM	#2
Damaris Damaris Edit servant	Wait why could he go to jail? I'm super confused about that.... As for the parents not liking you....just be yourself, show them love, and try not to worry about it. God can make a way, and as long as you make sure that you are not to blame, it is not your job to make them like you...that's up to God. =) __________________ Let my heart be fixed on Thee My Lord, my life, my love Linger near and gently lead To rapturous joys above.
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05-24-2005, 01:20 AM	#3
w.e.g. w.e.g. Edit Prophet/Prophetess	yea, i too would like to know how he would go to jail. __________________ There is no luck only faith. CAP'N WILLY
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05-24-2005, 09:41 AM	#4
jcdesertvoice jcdesertvoice Edit Prophet/Prophetess	He can't go to jail unless there is proven corruption whether physical or character corruption. __________________ Go ye into all the world and preach the gospel to every nation for you are a word out of the mouth of God and you will not return unto Him void.
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05-24-2005, 04:33 PM	#7
jcdesertvoice jcdesertvoice Edit Prophet/Prophetess	I agree with Amigo. You are young. All of us are. Don't rush your youth you'll miss it in the end and your parents are only doing what they feel is best for you becuase they love you. __________________ Go ye into all the world and preach the gospel to every nation for you are a word out of the mouth of God and you will not return unto Him void.
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05-24-2005, 02:16 PM	#5
1cutemonki 1cutemonki Edit Guest	I understand you completely! Just pray alot and if it's in God's will (quoting from Toby Mac) "Everything's gonna be all right "

05-24-2005, 06:58 PM	#8
LOSER LOSER Edit AY! Newbie	Relationships cause stress, and stress causes you to grow up faster. Stay a kid as long as you can. People think that they want to get a job, to have a boyfriend, get a car, but all these things just cause problems. I have been in two such relationships and all they do is cause stress. If you can't just get out of the relationship or you don't see any reason to, then pray a lot. In a relationship it is hard to grow in the Lord together with out letting go of little peices of your heart, help a group of your friends to grow not just him, be accountable. LOSER
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05-24-2005, 06:59 PM	#9
amigo amigo Edit Prophet/Prophetess	i'm glad that some agree with me! thanks guys! __________________ He ain't the leavin' kind He'd never walk away Even from those who dont believe And wanna leave him behind He ain't the leavin' kind
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05-24-2005, 11:39 PM	#10
krystal krystal Edit Prophet/Prophetess	ok my family is not christian so they seem him as jail bait because he is an illegal adult if there was to be anything physical happen which I can guarentee there isn't... and we aren't rushing anything and just really enjoy each other's company and we have a group of friends that help keep us accountable i'm just having a hard time with his mom being okay with everything until we started dating. It's hard I guess I will pray and hope things work out for the best. __________________ Krystal
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