Help me out please!!!

Orion · 05-12-2005, 08:37 PM

There is this girl that I really like named Alecia and I was wondering how to "ask her out." I have asked out a couple girls before and they have almost always said yes but whenever I am around this girl I can't really say what I want to and I was just wondering if anybody could help me out with this situation.

TheDoc · 05-13-2005, 07:58 AM

why do you want to go out with her?

05-13-2005, 08:02 AM

Well, first thing to ask YOURSELF is "is she a Christian?" If not, she is not worth it. You can try to change her and help her become a Christian, but a girl isn't worth giving God up. Second question is "can you trust her?" If you can't trust her, then you can't do anything without the whole school knowing. If you can't trust her, then for she cares is she may be living a double life or talking to other people. And I don't mean just talking.

MyJoyOverflows · 05-14-2005, 09:17 AM

Well, I know that a lot of girls like shy guys (I would know!

) and so...if you're being shy around her and not being able to say what you want to...she might already have the idea that you'd like to date her. Talk with her about it maybe before you ask her out...tell her how you feel about her, instead of just asking her out.

Orion · 05-16-2005, 07:10 PM

Haha no I am never shy around her we are friends sort of but I can't really think of a way to ask a "friend" out. She is a Christian, she has told me numerous times I wouldn't date somebody who wasn't a Christian because I am not like that but I just can't figure out a way to ask her.

A2J · 05-17-2005, 11:40 AM

just hang round her and wait for the rite moment and mention to a friend of hers to see if the girl u fanc likes u back.

Cookiemobsta · 05-17-2005, 07:23 PM

Don't "ask her out" until you're good friends first. If you don't have a friendship as a base when you start dating, there's no way you'll stay friends after you break up. Not only that, but if you thought you liked her but it turns out that she really doesn't click with you, you're in a difficult situation if you're dating. However, since it's tough to just magically become good friends with the girl, here's what you do:
1.Plan an event (see a movie, hit the mall, go mini-golfing, whatever) with some of your other friends. Should have at least 3-4, and should ideally have guys and girls and have some people she knows aside from you.
2.Ask the girl, "Hey, I'm getting a bunch of friends together to do X and we were wondering if you'd like to come along". You should present it so that she's just one of the group, and it's not like you guys are going as a couple at all-- the primary decision for the girl is "Do I want to go to X" not "Do I want to go to X with Orion?".
3.When you're at the event, you then get an opportunity to spend time with the girl. Since there's other people there, there's not a lot of pressure-- you get to interact with her, but you're not forced to be with her the entire time.
4. If it looks like a good time was had by all, try another event later.
5. Eventually, ask her to something, just the two of you.

milesfromnowhere · 05-18-2005, 04:03 AM

dude, just go for it. you can't let something as complicated as love stay inside you. it'll mess you up.

and if you actually like this girl as much as you say, don't let her get away. just go up to her without thinking about what you're gonna say at all. and if you skrew up and make a fool of yourself, she'll probably say yes anyways, and then you'll have a funny story to tell. trust me, that's what i did, and i've had my one and only girlfriend for a year now. good luck

05-12-2005, 08:37 PM	#1
Orion Orion Edit AY! Newbie	Help me out please!!! There is this girl that I really like named Alecia and I was wondering how to "ask her out." I have asked out a couple girls before and they have almost always said yes but whenever I am around this girl I can't really say what I want to and I was just wondering if anybody could help me out with this situation.
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05-13-2005, 07:58 AM	#2
TheDoc TheDoc Edit AY! Newbie	why do you want to go out with her?
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05-14-2005, 09:17 AM	#4
MyJoyOverflows MyJoyOverflows Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Well, I know that a lot of girls like shy guys (I would know! ) and so...if you're being shy around her and not being able to say what you want to...she might already have the idea that you'd like to date her. Talk with her about it maybe before you ask her out...tell her how you feel about her, instead of just asking her out.
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05-16-2005, 07:10 PM	#5
Orion Orion Edit AY! Newbie	Haha no I am never shy around her we are friends sort of but I can't really think of a way to ask a "friend" out. She is a Christian, she has told me numerous times I wouldn't date somebody who wasn't a Christian because I am not like that but I just can't figure out a way to ask her.
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05-17-2005, 11:40 AM	#6
A2J A2J Edit Disciple	just hang round her and wait for the rite moment and mention to a friend of hers to see if the girl u fanc likes u back.
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05-13-2005, 08:02 AM	#3
CodyMack CodyMack Edit Guest	Well, first thing to ask YOURSELF is "is she a Christian?" If not, she is not worth it. You can try to change her and help her become a Christian, but a girl isn't worth giving God up. Second question is "can you trust her?" If you can't trust her, then you can't do anything without the whole school knowing. If you can't trust her, then for she cares is she may be living a double life or talking to other people. And I don't mean just talking.

05-17-2005, 07:23 PM	#7
Cookiemobsta Cookiemobsta Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Don't "ask her out" until you're good friends first. If you don't have a friendship as a base when you start dating, there's no way you'll stay friends after you break up. Not only that, but if you thought you liked her but it turns out that she really doesn't click with you, you're in a difficult situation if you're dating. However, since it's tough to just magically become good friends with the girl, here's what you do: 1.Plan an event (see a movie, hit the mall, go mini-golfing, whatever) with some of your other friends. Should have at least 3-4, and should ideally have guys and girls and have some people she knows aside from you. 2.Ask the girl, "Hey, I'm getting a bunch of friends together to do X and we were wondering if you'd like to come along". You should present it so that she's just one of the group, and it's not like you guys are going as a couple at all-- the primary decision for the girl is "Do I want to go to X" not "Do I want to go to X with Orion?". 3.When you're at the event, you then get an opportunity to spend time with the girl. Since there's other people there, there's not a lot of pressure-- you get to interact with her, but you're not forced to be with her the entire time. 4. If it looks like a good time was had by all, try another event later. 5. Eventually, ask her to something, just the two of you. __________________ It's funny...we can be a liar, a cheat, a thief, a deceiver and a trickster with a foul mouth and a prideful spirit. We won't help the poor, and turn our faces in shame when we come across the needy and less fortunate But we'll still call ourselves "holy" because we keep our pants zipped up. Adding on to the hypocrisy, the Believers among us WHO DON'T keep their pants zipped still declare themselves to be "holy" because their intentions are directed towards the opposite sex. -http://www.hollywoodJesus.com/
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05-18-2005, 04:03 AM	#8
milesfromnowhere milesfromnowhere Edit AY! Newbie	dude, just go for it. you can't let something as complicated as love stay inside you. it'll mess you up. and if you actually like this girl as much as you say, don't let her get away. just go up to her without thinking about what you're gonna say at all. and if you skrew up and make a fool of yourself, she'll probably say yes anyways, and then you'll have a funny story to tell. trust me, that's what i did, and i've had my one and only girlfriend for a year now. good luck
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