when a guys got a crush on you

joy-girl · 05-09-2005, 09:19 PM

Hey, what do you do when a guy that you have no interest in has a crush on you.

This boy I know is falling over himself everytime i see him.
its getting embaressing
he always wants to sit by me
he never talks to any girl but me
he runs to do something for me

But i don't like him one bit. I even told him that

what do i do?

05-09-2005, 09:46 PM

You should tell him that you are flattered that he has such a big crush on you but you don't feel the same way about him. Tell him that you wouldn't mind getting to know him as friends (if you really want to) because a good friendship is so much more important to you than a relationship. I hope I helped. God Bless.

JohnSolo · 05-11-2005, 09:30 AM

Try and surround yourself with other people when he is around.

~*Amy*~ · 05-11-2005, 06:09 PM

yeah, I know EXACTLY what your going through. Its so tough because you dont want to hurt him but...you still dont want him around you like that. Ive told this one guy several times that I didnt like him like that...but what does he do?...he STILL acts the same and STILL calls me and STILL...you get the point

. Now that Im head over heels for this radio DJ that Im keeping in touch with lol, I dont see the guy who likes me as often. I just, kinda stopped talking to him and paying attention to him...he left me alone. So, just ignore him sometimes....but dont be rude about it. When a guy likes you, its hard to get the point across to him that you dont like him the same way....its hard...but just show no interest in him whatsoever and pay more attention to the guy you do like

if you like someone

joy-girl · 05-11-2005, 06:42 PM

Thanks guys for the help...

but here is another question,

What do i do when he buys me presents?
i don't want to encourage him, but i don't want to through th12 roses back at his feet either.

sistahkb · 05-11-2005, 06:46 PM

Simply and kindly yet firmly refuse them. Tell him you cannot accept his gifts for fear that he night take it as a sign that you're warming up to him or liking him. Which you don't so.. BE firm and honest. If he continues to I know this sounds rude but don't take them and ignore him if he keeps doing it. For the roses I guess you'll just have to keep him since he already gave em to you. And that's the way it goes.

God bless. I'll be praying for you.

Mandie · 05-15-2005, 12:47 PM

You could always act offended and ask him if he thinks you can be bought. lol! J/K

Just be honest with him. Tell him that you aren't interested in him, that you like the roses but that is for their own beauty not because they are form him. That you don't want anything beyond a friendship with him and if he still doesn't listen... be brutal. Him not listening shows lack of respect for what you want and think, hence a lack of respect for you. Tell him so.

God's will in all!

A2J · 05-15-2005, 12:56 PM

be honest to your feelings and tell him straight

05-15-2005, 01:53 PM

I've had that problem so many times!! Here's what to do:
1. Don't give HIM ANY HOPE WHATSOEVER THAT YOU ARE AT LEAST A TINY BIT INTERESTED IN HIM (even though you're not!)
2. Your inmediate reaction when you see him is that you want to punch him in the face! Am I right? Well just put yourself in his position for a moment and that will help you not to get in jail

LOL
3. Pray alot and ask God for a heart of forgiveness and kindness
Hey I can give you more advice, but answer this question first: Do you like another guy? Tell me details!

joy-girl · 05-15-2005, 02:03 PM

Well, I'll give you an update guys!

I decided to take your advice, and last time I was with him I told him i didn't care if he was just my friend, but i never wanted it to be anything more. At first he was kinda mad, but when he cooled down he told me that it was okay, and that we would just be friends, nothing more.

The sad fact is, this isn't the first time i've had to do this to a guy. I'm the kind of girl that just hates to hurt anyone. But there is a HUGE lack of Christian girls in our area... i'd say 1 Christian girl for every 10 guys. In our church there are 16 teenage guys and 2 teenage girls
so i get asked out a lot

But i don't want to do any dating till i'm 18. i just like riends, no serious stuff

anyway, thanks for your help and prayers. keep praying that i'll be able to turn guys down as gently as possible!

05-09-2005, 09:19 PM	#1
joy-girl joy-girl Edit Prophet/Prophetess	when a guys got a crush on you Hey, what do you do when a guy that you have no interest in has a crush on you. This boy I know is falling over himself everytime i see him. its getting embaressing he always wants to sit by me he never talks to any girl but me he runs to do something for me But i don't like him one bit. I even told him that what do i do?
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05-11-2005, 09:30 AM	#3
JohnSolo JohnSolo Edit Apostle	Try and surround yourself with other people when he is around.
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05-11-2005, 06:09 PM	#4
~Amy~ ~Amy~ Edit Prophet/Prophetess	yeah, I know EXACTLY what your going through. Its so tough because you dont want to hurt him but...you still dont want him around you like that. Ive told this one guy several times that I didnt like him like that...but what does he do?...he STILL acts the same and STILL calls me and STILL...you get the point . Now that Im head over heels for this radio DJ that Im keeping in touch with lol, I dont see the guy who likes me as often. I just, kinda stopped talking to him and paying attention to him...he left me alone. So, just ignore him sometimes....but dont be rude about it. When a guy likes you, its hard to get the point across to him that you dont like him the same way....its hard...but just show no interest in him whatsoever and pay more attention to the guy you do like if you like someone __________________ . ·'´)For Zions sake I will not keep silent-Isaiah 62:1 ¸.·´¸.·´¨) ¸.·¨) (¸.·´ (¸.·´ ¸.·´ ¸.·´¸.·`·-»JesusFreak (¸.·
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05-11-2005, 06:42 PM	#5
joy-girl joy-girl Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Thanks guys for the help... but here is another question, What do i do when he buys me presents? i don't want to encourage him, but i don't want to through th12 roses back at his feet either.
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05-11-2005, 06:46 PM	#6
sistahkb sistahkb Edit Apostle	Simply and kindly yet firmly refuse them. Tell him you cannot accept his gifts for fear that he night take it as a sign that you're warming up to him or liking him. Which you don't so.. BE firm and honest. If he continues to I know this sounds rude but don't take them and ignore him if he keeps doing it. For the roses I guess you'll just have to keep him since he already gave em to you. And that's the way it goes. God bless. I'll be praying for you. __________________ In every heart there is a room......who lives in yours?
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05-09-2005, 09:46 PM	#2
Anna Anna Edit Guest	You should tell him that you are flattered that he has such a big crush on you but you don't feel the same way about him. Tell him that you wouldn't mind getting to know him as friends (if you really want to) because a good friendship is so much more important to you than a relationship. I hope I helped. God Bless.

05-15-2005, 12:47 PM	#7
Mandie Mandie Edit Disciple	You could always act offended and ask him if he thinks you can be bought. lol! J/K Just be honest with him. Tell him that you aren't interested in him, that you like the roses but that is for their own beauty not because they are form him. That you don't want anything beyond a friendship with him and if he still doesn't listen... be brutal. Him not listening shows lack of respect for what you want and think, hence a lack of respect for you. Tell him so. God's will in all! __________________ The past is in the past and the present is here. Forget yesterday, none of it can be changed. Instead live today how you would like to remember it tomorrow.
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05-15-2005, 12:56 PM	#8
A2J A2J Edit Disciple	be honest to your feelings and tell him straight
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05-15-2005, 01:53 PM	#9
1cutemonki 1cutemonki Edit Guest	I've had that problem so many times!! Here's what to do: 1. Don't give HIM ANY HOPE WHATSOEVER THAT YOU ARE AT LEAST A TINY BIT INTERESTED IN HIM (even though you're not!) 2. Your inmediate reaction when you see him is that you want to punch him in the face! Am I right? Well just put yourself in his position for a moment and that will help you not to get in jail LOL 3. Pray alot and ask God for a heart of forgiveness and kindness Hey I can give you more advice, but answer this question first: Do you like another guy? Tell me details!

05-15-2005, 02:03 PM	#10
joy-girl joy-girl Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Well, I'll give you an update guys! I decided to take your advice, and last time I was with him I told him i didn't care if he was just my friend, but i never wanted it to be anything more. At first he was kinda mad, but when he cooled down he told me that it was okay, and that we would just be friends, nothing more. The sad fact is, this isn't the first time i've had to do this to a guy. I'm the kind of girl that just hates to hurt anyone. But there is a HUGE lack of Christian girls in our area... i'd say 1 Christian girl for every 10 guys. In our church there are 16 teenage guys and 2 teenage girls so i get asked out a lot But i don't want to do any dating till i'm 18. i just like riends, no serious stuff anyway, thanks for your help and prayers. keep praying that i'll be able to turn guys down as gently as possible!
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