whats the point in going on?

stellie · 04-27-2005, 11:19 PM

Whats the point of going on any longer.... its to hard to do alone. I have no friends only people who claim to be my friends.... yet i am the only one who puts any effort into the realtionships they never get in contact with me. The only time i ever see them now that we left school is when i go to church once a week. I haven't been in a month and not one of them has contacted me to see if i am ok.... maybe i am just being stupid but it really hurts that know one really cares at all bout me.

I have no job at the moment so the only contact i have had with anyone is my mum (who i don't have a very good realtionship with) and my brothers.....

even though i am 19 i still live at home and don't have my lisence so i can't go anywhere to just escape for a while.........

there is nothing good about me anyway.... i am just junk.... i don't see the point anymore....

Ed · 04-28-2005, 05:10 AM

I'm feeling for you Stellie... I don't completely know your situation at home. One thing i do know though is that God loves ya more than you can imagine. And even if you don't feel you have any mates at the mo, he's there...

If you don't mind - can i ask you, have you tried ringing them or organising stuff with them? Cos sumtimes lack of communication either way after a while can feel like the other doesn't care. I don't know, but maybe they are feeling the same about you... So go on, call or email them with a suggestion of summit to do, even if you only go out shopping or for coffee!

Also i'd encourage you to get more involved with church life - so it's not just that you have something to do on a sunday! You'd be amazed the people you get on with who you never really talked to before and the great friendships that can form. Also true fellowship with other Christians is not just encouraging, and helps you when down, but also helps fill a whole in your life. For just as we were made to be in communion with Christ, we were made to be in communion with each other.

Have you started looking for a job? Getting CV's and the like out? If not i'd encourage you to do that. For in that you'll be able to find purpose... Being knocked down doesn't mean you've failed, only when you stay flat on your back do things go wrong... Hmmm i know you might not feel up to it at first but step at time to getting job - even if only parttime at first! And you'll make mates - who probably care more than your school mates.! Theres just summit bout skool - everyones out for themselves and if they hurt people in the meanwhile - trying to become more popular - no biggy... But by the time you start working all though its competative (depending on the environment) ppl are often at least more real and themselves, and honesty helps in founding real strong friendships!

Most of all - on here we care = you could maybe get a pen friend - pm me or one of the advice team be more than happy to keep in contact!

HaveFaith2005 · 04-28-2005, 07:29 AM

I'm really sorry Stellie. I'll be your friend. I used to feel that way about when I was 12, but was thinking that I liked to see my cousins grow up and I love my family. I used to have thoughts about doing something to myself. Please don't do anything to harm yourself. God loves you and we all love you. I'll pray for you. God bless you!

Jelliebabies · 04-28-2005, 08:14 AM

hey stellie

girl wat is hapening in your life at the mo! why are you so depressed?! you need to live life ot the full an di know tahts easy for me to say but actualy no its not i used ot live in my isters shadow and now ive came out and said no! stellie you are a wonderful person and we all at AY and God loves you evry much! you should never feel alone!!
if you want some where to escape to why dont you take up going to the gym or going for walks by yourself spend time with God, just dont take other people's neglection to any body but them selves out on you!! email me anytime!! x

04-28-2005, 08:37 AM

I just posted this in the Bible Study forum... but I'll post it again here for you:

Don’t Give Up
by John Fischer

Do you realize how privileged you are to be on a mission? That means you are important to God. You are a part of His plan. You can’t blow this off. You can’t say you are worthless, and for God’s sake, you can’t take your life, because you are important to God, to us, and to the mission. In fact, if you are having severe problems and struggles right now, that means you are needed even more. Your perseverance will give many others hope.
Somewhere we have gotten the wrong idea that the best, most powerful Christians are the ones who sail over life’s problems — those with great stories to tell over and over again about how God delivered them sometime in their distant past. This kind of "ministry" is not really helpful, because in reality, no one sails over anything in life. We only think they do. So those people with their "perfect" lives only perpetuate a myth that, in the long run, isn’t helpful to anybody.

I often think of Joni Eareckson-Tada, a quadriplegic on a mission since her diving accident in 1967, and what would have happened if God had healed her 30 years ago. I’m sure that would have been wonderful for her, but not for the countless number of people since then she has emboldened by her everyday example of courage and dependence on God. The ones who can help are the ones who are toughing it through their own difficulties. They are the ones whose mission grows out of their own challenges.

I have a friend who goes through some stretches of depression so intense that his idea of a good day is the fact that he didn’t take his life. And he’s a pastor! Now some would say he shouldn’t be a pastor until he gets himself fixed. I say that if he were "fixed," he wouldn’t have anything to say to all those people he is ministering to now who struggle with depression. He’s got an incredible mission field, and he is, every day, a living, breathing testimony to the power of God — not to the power of God ten years ago when God fixed him, but the power of God today that gets him out of bed, gives him words to speak, and a reason to go on.

You see this is the type of mission no one is excused from. Deeper struggle only makes surviving that much more crucial. Remember? This isn’t about you. We’re not only talking about you making it. We’re talking about the mission that you will have, making it — the reach your experience will have into the real lives of others struggling with the same things.

Even when we are weighed down with troubles, it is for your comfort and salvation! For when we ourselves are comforted, we will certainly comfort you. Then you can patiently endure the same things we suffer.
(2 Corinthians 1:6)

you see, Stellie, you may feel lost and unloved right now - but God loves you very much and will always be there! The point in going on is to honor and worship Him and spread His word around! Hang in there... we're all here for you, as is God!

04-28-2005, 05:23 PM

Have you ever heard about a song that says: Jesus you are my best friend? That song is very true!!! Let Jesus be your best friend!! Pray for good friends here on earth!! Remember God loves you and if U need a friend: I'm here!! Even if I'm 13 I'll be your little sister!!

stellie · 04-28-2005, 08:50 PM

Hey thanks for all the encouragement and advice... i really appreciate it. I am feeling a bit better about things today... i was really down yesterday about everything.... it just gets hard sometimes and i don't think i can take it... but you have all been really encouraging so thanks.

Anna thanks so much for posting that article it was really encouraging thank you.

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Have you ever heard about a song that says: Jesus you are my best friend? That song is very true!!! Let Jesus be your best friend!! Pray for good friends here on earth!! Remember God loves you and if U need a friend: I'm here!! Even if I'm 13 I'll be your little sister!!

I heard that song before and i want it to be true... but ifind it really hard to have a best friend that i can't see but i am going to try. Oh and you can be my little sister, i always wanted one. lol.

thanks again i really need your encouragement

04-28-2005, 09:42 PM

You're welcome, stellie! Any time you need us, we're here - and remember God is always there for you whether you feel His presence or not - He loves you and will never stop loving you!

keyboardmaster · 04-28-2005, 10:31 PM

Hey, I know how you feel. But let you know that were all here for you. God loves and the bible says he will never leave you nor forsake you. Friends come and go. But God will never leave you. God has a big plan for you. And in God's timing it will happen. Say it happened when you wanted it too happen it would be distasterous. You have a whole future ahead of you so many things to achieve and so many people to reach and minister too. If you don't give up God will use you. Just remember God loves you and so does everyone here on anointedyouth. Were your brothers and sisters in Christ. If what you go through is hard we'll go through it together. Because your not alone. You don't have to face life alone. You have friends. And if you need prayer or prayer for something I and anyone else will pray for you or what you need prayer for. Which I hope this helps. -Josh(keyboardmaster).

04-27-2005, 11:19 PM	#1
stellie stellie just is! Edit Evangelist/Missionary	whats the point in going on? Whats the point of going on any longer.... its to hard to do alone. I have no friends only people who claim to be my friends.... yet i am the only one who puts any effort into the realtionships they never get in contact with me. The only time i ever see them now that we left school is when i go to church once a week. I haven't been in a month and not one of them has contacted me to see if i am ok.... maybe i am just being stupid but it really hurts that know one really cares at all bout me. I have no job at the moment so the only contact i have had with anyone is my mum (who i don't have a very good realtionship with) and my brothers..... even though i am 19 i still live at home and don't have my lisence so i can't go anywhere to just escape for a while......... there is nothing good about me anyway.... i am just junk.... i don't see the point anymore....
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04-28-2005, 05:10 AM	#2
Ed Ed Edit Prophet/Prophetess	I'm feeling for you Stellie... I don't completely know your situation at home. One thing i do know though is that God loves ya more than you can imagine. And even if you don't feel you have any mates at the mo, he's there... If you don't mind - can i ask you, have you tried ringing them or organising stuff with them? Cos sumtimes lack of communication either way after a while can feel like the other doesn't care. I don't know, but maybe they are feeling the same about you... So go on, call or email them with a suggestion of summit to do, even if you only go out shopping or for coffee! Also i'd encourage you to get more involved with church life - so it's not just that you have something to do on a sunday! You'd be amazed the people you get on with who you never really talked to before and the great friendships that can form. Also true fellowship with other Christians is not just encouraging, and helps you when down, but also helps fill a whole in your life. For just as we were made to be in communion with Christ, we were made to be in communion with each other. Have you started looking for a job? Getting CV's and the like out? If not i'd encourage you to do that. For in that you'll be able to find purpose... Being knocked down doesn't mean you've failed, only when you stay flat on your back do things go wrong... Hmmm i know you might not feel up to it at first but step at time to getting job - even if only parttime at first! And you'll make mates - who probably care more than your school mates.! Theres just summit bout skool - everyones out for themselves and if they hurt people in the meanwhile - trying to become more popular - no biggy... But by the time you start working all though its competative (depending on the environment) ppl are often at least more real and themselves, and honesty helps in founding real strong friendships! Most of all - on here we care = you could maybe get a pen friend - pm me or one of the advice team be more than happy to keep in contact!
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04-28-2005, 07:29 AM	#3
HaveFaith2005 HaveFaith2005 is in your extened network. Edit Have a great day!	To: Stellie I'm really sorry Stellie. I'll be your friend. I used to feel that way about when I was 12, but was thinking that I liked to see my cousins grow up and I love my family. I used to have thoughts about doing something to myself. Please don't do anything to harm yourself. God loves you and we all love you. I'll pray for you. God bless you! __________________ Have a blesse New Year!
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04-28-2005, 08:14 AM	#4
Jelliebabies Jelliebabies Edit Prophet/Prophetess	hey stellie girl wat is hapening in your life at the mo! why are you so depressed?! you need to live life ot the full an di know tahts easy for me to say but actualy no its not i used ot live in my isters shadow and now ive came out and said no! stellie you are a wonderful person and we all at AY and God loves you evry much! you should never feel alone!! if you want some where to escape to why dont you take up going to the gym or going for walks by yourself spend time with God, just dont take other people's neglection to any body but them selves out on you!! email me anytime!! x
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04-28-2005, 10:31 PM	#9
keyboardmaster keyboardmaster Edit Disciple	Stellie Hey, I know how you feel. But let you know that were all here for you. God loves and the bible says he will never leave you nor forsake you. Friends come and go. But God will never leave you. God has a big plan for you. And in God's timing it will happen. Say it happened when you wanted it too happen it would be distasterous. You have a whole future ahead of you so many things to achieve and so many people to reach and minister too. If you don't give up God will use you. Just remember God loves you and so does everyone here on anointedyouth. Were your brothers and sisters in Christ. If what you go through is hard we'll go through it together. Because your not alone. You don't have to face life alone. You have friends. And if you need prayer or prayer for something I and anyone else will pray for you or what you need prayer for. Which I hope this helps. -Josh(keyboardmaster).
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04-28-2005, 08:37 AM	#5
Anna Anna Edit Guest	I just posted this in the Bible Study forum... but I'll post it again here for you: Don’t Give Up by John Fischer Do you realize how privileged you are to be on a mission? That means you are important to God. You are a part of His plan. You can’t blow this off. You can’t say you are worthless, and for God’s sake, you can’t take your life, because you are important to God, to us, and to the mission. In fact, if you are having severe problems and struggles right now, that means you are needed even more. Your perseverance will give many others hope. Somewhere we have gotten the wrong idea that the best, most powerful Christians are the ones who sail over life’s problems — those with great stories to tell over and over again about how God delivered them sometime in their distant past. This kind of "ministry" is not really helpful, because in reality, no one sails over anything in life. We only think they do. So those people with their "perfect" lives only perpetuate a myth that, in the long run, isn’t helpful to anybody. I often think of Joni Eareckson-Tada, a quadriplegic on a mission since her diving accident in 1967, and what would have happened if God had healed her 30 years ago. I’m sure that would have been wonderful for her, but not for the countless number of people since then she has emboldened by her everyday example of courage and dependence on God. The ones who can help are the ones who are toughing it through their own difficulties. They are the ones whose mission grows out of their own challenges. I have a friend who goes through some stretches of depression so intense that his idea of a good day is the fact that he didn’t take his life. And he’s a pastor! Now some would say he shouldn’t be a pastor until he gets himself fixed. I say that if he were "fixed," he wouldn’t have anything to say to all those people he is ministering to now who struggle with depression. He’s got an incredible mission field, and he is, every day, a living, breathing testimony to the power of God — not to the power of God ten years ago when God fixed him, but the power of God today that gets him out of bed, gives him words to speak, and a reason to go on. You see this is the type of mission no one is excused from. Deeper struggle only makes surviving that much more crucial. Remember? This isn’t about you. We’re not only talking about you making it. We’re talking about the mission that you will have, making it — the reach your experience will have into the real lives of others struggling with the same things. Even when we are weighed down with troubles, it is for your comfort and salvation! For when we ourselves are comforted, we will certainly comfort you. Then you can patiently endure the same things we suffer. (2 Corinthians 1:6) you see, Stellie, you may feel lost and unloved right now - but God loves you very much and will always be there! The point in going on is to honor and worship Him and spread His word around! Hang in there... we're all here for you, as is God!

04-28-2005, 05:23 PM	#6
1cutemonki 1cutemonki Edit Guest	Have you ever heard about a song that says: Jesus you are my best friend? That song is very true!!! Let Jesus be your best friend!! Pray for good friends here on earth!! Remember God loves you and if U need a friend: I'm here!! Even if I'm 13 I'll be your little sister!!

04-28-2005, 09:42 PM	#8
Anna Anna Edit Guest	You're welcome, stellie! Any time you need us, we're here - and remember God is always there for you whether you feel His presence or not - He loves you and will never stop loving you!