What do you think about this relationship?

I'm 13 and I like a guy who's 14!!! I REALLY like him ALOT!! But it's different than the other guys I've liked!! I have never felt what I feel with this guy!! Let me tell you about him:
1.He's a Christian
2.He's nice to my friends.
3.He's really sweet
4.My parents love him and his parents love me!!!
5.He's a really happy and fun person
6.He's taller than me and he's really cute
7.He never pressures me
The other day we were talking on the phone and he told me he liked me and I had a huge crush on him. I told him I liked him and we both started talking. He's not my boyfriend because we both want to wait until we are older!! He's going to ask me on his second semester of 10th grade!! He's in 8th grade!!! I'm going to say yes. I like him sooo much!! And everyone tells me we make a good couple!! I need advice in this question: What do you think about the physical expression? I mean he kisses me on the cheek (hello and goodbye) but here in Puerto Rico we do that to everyone!! At church he sits beside me and touches my fingers. I totally melt!!! But is that too much? He's also put his arm around me once...today!!! We are slowly moving forward and we need standards! Right? What do you guys think?

That's awesome! Wish I could find one that good!

[Damaris]

My advice to you would be to talk over your standards with him. Ask him what he thinks the standards should be. Draw some very specific lines, and then don't cross them.

You have to decide for yourself how much is too much. If I were you, it would be only the briefest hugs, no hand holding, and no putting your arm around each other. I'm not saying that those things are wrong, but that is where I would draw the line.

But no matter where you set your boundaries, stick to them and keep each other accountable to them.

I admire you for wanting to do what's right. Just make sure that you don't make him the idol of your heart instead of God. =)

[debator4ever]

Originally Posted by 1cutemonki

I'm 13 and I like a guy who's 14!!! I REALLY like him ALOT!! But it's different than the other guys I've liked!! I have never felt what I feel with this guy!! Let me tell you about him:
1.He's a Christian
2.He's nice to my friends.
3.He's really sweet
4.My parents love him and his parents love me!!!
5.He's a really happy and fun person
6.He's taller than me and he's really cute
7.He never pressures me
The other day we were talking on the phone and he told me he liked me and I had a huge crush on him. I told him I liked him and we both started talking. He's not my boyfriend because we both want to wait until we are older!! He's going to ask me on his second semester of 10th grade!! He's in 8th grade!!! I'm going to say yes. I like him sooo much!! And everyone tells me we make a good couple!! I need advice in this question: What do you think about the physical expression? I mean he kisses me on the cheek (hello and goodbye) but here in Puerto Rico we do that to everyone!! At church he sits beside me and touches my fingers. I totally melt!!! But is that too much? He's also put his arm around me once...today!!! We are slowly moving forward and we need standards! Right? What do you guys think?

the age is fine, you're only one year younger.

Interesting case. I dont have anything against it, but a caution. Be sure to remain open and first of all dedicated to Christ (both of you--you knew all this stuff anyway so why am i saying it?). Ive seen situtations like this where something happened before when they were going to start going out. Another caution: try to develop an identity in Christ not dependant on anybody, including this guy. I mean dont get so involved with him that you cant be independent sometimes.

So why am I telling you everything you knew?... I know...I because you asked. That means it isnt my fault, its yours...even though im still writing this post...man, this is getting confusing!

I think he sounds like an awesome guy! I do agree however that you need to make boundaries and talk them over with him. It is your decision how involved physically you get with him, but you two need to make those decisions together and then stick to them! I think it is very mature of you to wait until you are older to start dating... just being good friends with him for now is awesome - but you need to trust God before him and stick to your commitments with God!

[JCroxmysox]

He sounds awesome... Word of advice tho... You're seeking our advice for this, and saying you both want to wait until you're older... In that case I'd say - lay off the physical contact. If it's making you feel like this, you gotta also think how it's making him feel. Not to discriminate between gender, but guys do react in different ways to us girls, and you gotta remember that... The Bible says not to do anything that would cause ur brother (or sister) to stumble, so all I can suggest is have a purely non-physical relationship at this stage. After all, you're not even dating. It may not even happen (not to be pessimistic, but realistic...)

My advice? Go slow. Take it carefully. Tell him to keep his paws off you. You should be fine.

All U guys said is true!! But I love God soo much!! I don't think I could ever replace Him!! NEVER!!! God was the one that brought this guy to my life!! How could I ever love him more than God! Uh-uh it ain't happening! I do need to draw a line though. The bad thing is that it's REALLY embarrasing talking about physical contact!!! I talked a bit about it with him and this is what I said:
" It's like when your fasting. It's not wise to turn on the TV and look at the food channel or Burger King commercials!!"
And he said:
"Don't worry, for a girl like you I can definitely wait!!"
That was soo beautiful!! I almost turned into a puddle!!

[MyJoyOverflows]

Originally Posted by 1cutemonki

All U guys said is true!! But I love God soo much!! I don't think I could ever replace Him!! NEVER!!! God was the one that brought this guy to my life!! How could I ever love him more than God! Uh-uh it ain't happening! I do need to draw a line though. The bad thing is that it's REALLY embarrasing talking about physical contact!!! I talked a bit about it with him and this is what I said:
" It's like when your fasting. It's not wise to turn on the TV and look at the food channel or Burger King commercials!!"
And he said:
"Don't worry, for a girl like you I can definitely wait!!"
That was soo beautiful!! I almost turned into a puddle!!

aww...how cute!! My words of advice...if you're just going to be good friends for now and wait to date until you're both older...don't be physical with each other. I think that hugs are fine...I hug my guy friends all the time...but still, be careful with how far you go with things..It really sounds like you both have good intentions...and if they ever feel impure for just a second...PRAY!! Talk with each other about boundaries and set them firmly and don't compromise...I'm praying for you both! I wish you the best!!