What to tell my friend. . .

BackstageGirl · 04-26-2005, 05:30 PM

How would you respond to this question?

"You seem to be happy a lot. Can you remind me what it's like to be happy? I can honestly say that I don't remember what it's like. Though I am getting better at faking it, I would still like to be able to remember what it's like."

A friend sent that to me, and now I am disturbed 'cuz he is depressed and I don't know what I can do. I pray, I e-mail him encouraging scriptures, and I listen to him. I know what its like to be depressed, and it hurts to see him like this. Me, my b/f, and our friends all get together and pray for him and hang out with him to try to cheer him up and stuff, but i know that it really won't do him any good. What can I do? What can I say in response to that question???

Damaris · 04-26-2005, 05:38 PM

You can't do anything more than what you're doing, as far as I know. Just keep it up!

debator4ever · 04-26-2005, 06:00 PM

Yeah I'm not even sure you should be hanging with that person as much as you are, don't let their depressing spirit get on you. that's the last thing you want.
look, you've tried incredibly hard, now just pray for him.

Godcrazy · 04-26-2005, 09:54 PM

my guess is their is something underlying that making him depressed and sad. i have no idea what the situation is but i would keep talking to him and try to get him to open up and talk. maybe not you but your B/F. i am praying
MIKE

chocolate.eyes · 04-26-2005, 10:14 PM

this might not sounds too sympathetic, but he sounds kinda dramatic. yes, he's probably depressed, but i think he wants the sympathy and attention. i had a friend who acted the same way, except he blamed his problems on me. i had to realize how little i could affect his mood. keep praying for ur friend and being positive and encouraging, but don't get too worried. it'd be worse if he wasn't saying anything.

MyJoyOverflows · 04-26-2005, 10:44 PM

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Originally Posted by debator4ever

Yeah I'm not even sure you should be hanging with that person as much as you are, don't let their depressing spirit get on you. that's the last thing you want.
look, you've tried incredibly hard, now just pray for him.

I don't know about that. I'd say that totally keep on praying for him...but if you don't hang around him like you have been, he'll probably start wondering what's up with that. True, don't let their depression drag you down...but at the same time...it sounds like he needs some good friends to be around him. I know what it's like to be depressed...like, seriously depressed...and if no one is around you, encouraging you...then it just makes matters even worse. Just keep praying for him and see what God wants for you to do and for your friend in his life...

BackstageGirl · 04-26-2005, 11:06 PM

there is a reason for his depression, and i know what it is. This is not some desperate cry for attention, he actually does go the psychiatrist and all and he has been suicidal. I'm not going to stop hanging out with him, because his depression cannot get me down. I have found the joy of God and I am never letting it go again. As his friend and sister in Christ, isn't it my duty to help him find that same joy? We hang out in a group of seven of us, and we all go to a Christian school. Most of our friends have led very sheltered lives, and I am the only friend that he has who has been out in the world and has been ready to kill themselves. I cannot leave him, and I know that when I was like that the only reason I was lead to the joy was because I had friends who took the time to show me that they loved me and that they cared.

debator4ever · 04-26-2005, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by BackstageGirl

there is a reason for his depression, and i know what it is. This is not some desperate cry for attention, he actually does go the psychiatrist and all and he has been suicidal. I'm not going to stop hanging out with him, because his depression cannot get me down. I have found the joy of God and I am never letting it go again. As his friend and sister in Christ, isn't it my duty to help him find that same joy? We hang out in a group of seven of us, and we all go to a Christian school. Most of our friends have led very sheltered lives, and I am the only friend that he has who has been out in the world and has been ready to kill themselves. I cannot leave him, and I know that when I was like that the only reason I was lead to the joy was because I had friends who took the time to show me that they loved me and that they cared.

quit slamming me. I just said if he's influencing you, then don't let him. man...

BackstageGirl · 04-28-2005, 02:03 AM

sorry, i'm a rather defensive person. my apologies for any offense that I may have caused.

debator4ever · 04-28-2005, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by BackstageGirl

sorry, i'm a rather defensive person. my apologies for any offense that I may have caused.

yeah well quit assuming and wait until you fully understand what people are saying. its very easy to misunderstand someone over the net.

04-26-2005, 05:30 PM	#1
BackstageGirl BackstageGirl Edit AY! Newbie	What to tell my friend. . . How would you respond to this question? "You seem to be happy a lot. Can you remind me what it's like to be happy? I can honestly say that I don't remember what it's like. Though I am getting better at faking it, I would still like to be able to remember what it's like." A friend sent that to me, and now I am disturbed 'cuz he is depressed and I don't know what I can do. I pray, I e-mail him encouraging scriptures, and I listen to him. I know what its like to be depressed, and it hurts to see him like this. Me, my b/f, and our friends all get together and pray for him and hang out with him to try to cheer him up and stuff, but i know that it really won't do him any good. What can I do? What can I say in response to that question??? __________________ Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23
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04-26-2005, 05:38 PM	#2
Damaris Damaris Edit servant	You can't do anything more than what you're doing, as far as I know. Just keep it up! __________________ Let my heart be fixed on Thee My Lord, my life, my love Linger near and gently lead To rapturous joys above.
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04-26-2005, 06:00 PM	#3
debator4ever debator4ever Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Yeah I'm not even sure you should be hanging with that person as much as you are, don't let their depressing spirit get on you. that's the last thing you want. look, you've tried incredibly hard, now just pray for him. __________________ Why is the rum *Always* Gone?!
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04-26-2005, 09:54 PM	#4
Godcrazy Godcrazy Edit AY! Newbie	my guess is their is something underlying that making him depressed and sad. i have no idea what the situation is but i would keep talking to him and try to get him to open up and talk. maybe not you but your B/F. i am praying MIKE
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04-26-2005, 10:14 PM	#5
chocolate.eyes chocolate.eyes Edit AY! Newbie	this might not sounds too sympathetic, but he sounds kinda dramatic. yes, he's probably depressed, but i think he wants the sympathy and attention. i had a friend who acted the same way, except he blamed his problems on me. i had to realize how little i could affect his mood. keep praying for ur friend and being positive and encouraging, but don't get too worried. it'd be worse if he wasn't saying anything.
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04-26-2005, 11:06 PM	#7
BackstageGirl BackstageGirl Edit AY! Newbie	there is a reason for his depression, and i know what it is. This is not some desperate cry for attention, he actually does go the psychiatrist and all and he has been suicidal. I'm not going to stop hanging out with him, because his depression cannot get me down. I have found the joy of God and I am never letting it go again. As his friend and sister in Christ, isn't it my duty to help him find that same joy? We hang out in a group of seven of us, and we all go to a Christian school. Most of our friends have led very sheltered lives, and I am the only friend that he has who has been out in the world and has been ready to kill themselves. I cannot leave him, and I know that when I was like that the only reason I was lead to the joy was because I had friends who took the time to show me that they loved me and that they cared. __________________ Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23
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04-28-2005, 02:03 AM	#9
BackstageGirl BackstageGirl Edit AY! Newbie	sorry, i'm a rather defensive person. my apologies for any offense that I may have caused. __________________ Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23
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