Is it wrong to date someone older than you? (at the age I am now)

AKA_Rakel · 04-26-2005, 01:07 AM

Im 13, and I know that some people will say that I am too young to date regaurdless...but this is diffrent. Fist let me say though that if I went out with this person Nothing would happen (like kissing ect, maybe hugging but thats ALL). I have friends who have "buddies with bennefits" and some who let guys feel them up and crap like that. But I have told them coulntless times that what they are doing is WRONG (though I try I cannot change there actions) and let me say I would never do anything like that!

The guy I like is 16, hes really funny, really nice, really sweet ect. hes 16 but has only had one gf, and I dont think they even kissed. And now he is expressing interests in me. I REALLY like him a lot and if he asked me out it would be EXTREAMLY hard to say no. Hes not every guy. He doesnt own any porn or anything like that and I know he would not try ANYTHING on me. But I want to know if it would be wrong or sinfull to date him even though the furthest we would go is hugging. Advice?

w.e.g. · 04-26-2005, 01:10 AM

ummm, don;t pursue it anyfurther than he does, if he asks you out go for it! but do not ask him out, very awkward for the dude in that situation if he doesn;t like you enought o date when there is a gap of 3 years at that age

madxmodman · 04-26-2005, 01:30 AM

I agree. if he asks you out great, if he doesn't, then, well, sorry. don't try to ask him out if you aren't 100% positive he wants to go out with you. it will put you in an awkward, and sometimes embarrasing, posistion.

Jelliebabies · 04-26-2005, 03:58 AM

yea id agree with the other 2 posts dont run after him!! but i dont see the problem cuz if he was 25 and you were 22 it would be ok and thats 3 years so why not at your age??!

w.e.g. · 04-26-2005, 04:37 AM

well the 25 and 22 thing is a totally different story, but it has nothing to do with this. when in your twenties the maturity gap has closed quite radically, in the teenage years maturity levels differ quite a lot between the ages.

Jelliebabies · 04-26-2005, 07:17 AM

ok then wat bout 16 and 19 either way it makes no differnce in my opinion 3 years is not that much!

Godcrazy · 04-26-2005, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Jelliebabies

ok then wat bout 16 and 19 either way it makes no differnce in my opinion 3 years is not that much!

I agree with WEG.
Jelliebabies what about a baby at birth and at three years. thier is a huge difference.
I would say wait until your older to have a b/f. I would say know is the time to discover your true prince Jesus CHRIST! and if you have not read any of eric and leslies books I would highly reccomend them. you can find them at about any Christian Bookstore.
Pm if you want any personal experience about 3 years difference

debator4ever · 04-26-2005, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Rakel

Im 13, and I know that some people will say that I am too young to date regaurdless...but this is diffrent. Fist let me say though that if I went out with this person Nothing would happen (like kissing ect, maybe hugging but thats ALL). I have friends who have "buddies with bennefits" and some who let guys feel them up and crap like that. But I have told them coulntless times that what they are doing is WRONG (though I try I cannot change there actions) and let me say I would never do anything like that!

The guy I like is 16, hes really funny, really nice, really sweet ect. hes 16 but has only had one gf, and I dont think they even kissed. And now he is expressing interests in me. I REALLY like him a lot and if he asked me out it would be EXTREAMLY hard to say no. Hes not every guy. He doesnt own any porn or anything like that and I know he would not try ANYTHING on me. But I want to know if it would be wrong or sinfull to date him even though the furthest we would go is hugging. Advice?

I dont think its wrong at all. I'm currently interested in someone a little under a year older than me...
although that's not much..
I personally see nothing wrong with it.
BUT, you're thirteen...a little young for dating don't ya think?

JCroxmysox · 04-26-2005, 04:17 PM

I agree that you're too young to date. I've done it in the past, and I've really regretted it. I wish that I could have saved myself for my future husband - and I'm talking emotionally more than physically. I don't feel that I'm old enough to have a lasting, meaningful relationship, so I definately don't think you are.

Also, it's not just about what he would/wouldn't do with you. It's also about maturity, and especially his spiritual maturity. We shouldn't be unequally yoked, and I think you need to seriously think and pray on this one... We can give u all our advice, but we can't stop u from dating him in the end...

HeavenBound · 05-07-2005, 09:53 PM

I dunno what you should do, I like this guy who is 16 also (I've known him for like ever, and he picks on me ALL the time, we're friends).....I don't really know what you should do, probably 'cause I have the same problem too! LOL

04-26-2005, 01:07 AM	#1
AKA_Rakel AKA_Rakel Edit AY! Newbie	Is it wrong to date someone older than you? (at the age I am now) Im 13, and I know that some people will say that I am too young to date regaurdless...but this is diffrent. Fist let me say though that if I went out with this person Nothing would happen (like kissing ect, maybe hugging but thats ALL). I have friends who have "buddies with bennefits" and some who let guys feel them up and crap like that. But I have told them coulntless times that what they are doing is WRONG (though I try I cannot change there actions) and let me say I would never do anything like that! The guy I like is 16, hes really funny, really nice, really sweet ect. hes 16 but has only had one gf, and I dont think they even kissed. And now he is expressing interests in me. I REALLY like him a lot and if he asked me out it would be EXTREAMLY hard to say no. Hes not every guy. He doesnt own any porn or anything like that and I know he would not try ANYTHING on me. But I want to know if it would be wrong or sinfull to date him even though the furthest we would go is hugging. Advice?
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04-26-2005, 01:10 AM	#2
w.e.g. w.e.g. Edit Prophet/Prophetess	ummm, don;t pursue it anyfurther than he does, if he asks you out go for it! but do not ask him out, very awkward for the dude in that situation if he doesn;t like you enought o date when there is a gap of 3 years at that age __________________ There is no luck only faith. CAP'N WILLY
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04-26-2005, 01:30 AM	#3
madxmodman madxmodman Edit Evangelist/Missionary	I agree. if he asks you out great, if he doesn't, then, well, sorry. don't try to ask him out if you aren't 100% positive he wants to go out with you. it will put you in an awkward, and sometimes embarrasing, posistion. __________________ ~MadXmodMan~ Check out my myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/madxmodman and check out my YG's myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/elevateyouthchurch (read the blog! You might like it!)
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04-26-2005, 03:58 AM	#4
Jelliebabies Jelliebabies Edit Prophet/Prophetess	yea id agree with the other 2 posts dont run after him!! but i dont see the problem cuz if he was 25 and you were 22 it would be ok and thats 3 years so why not at your age??!
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04-26-2005, 04:37 AM	#5
w.e.g. w.e.g. Edit Prophet/Prophetess	well the 25 and 22 thing is a totally different story, but it has nothing to do with this. when in your twenties the maturity gap has closed quite radically, in the teenage years maturity levels differ quite a lot between the ages. __________________ There is no luck only faith. CAP'N WILLY
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04-26-2005, 07:17 AM	#6
Jelliebabies Jelliebabies Edit Prophet/Prophetess	ok then wat bout 16 and 19 either way it makes no differnce in my opinion 3 years is not that much!
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04-26-2005, 04:17 PM	#9
JCroxmysox JCroxmysox Edit Prophet/Prophetess	I agree that you're too young to date. I've done it in the past, and I've really regretted it. I wish that I could have saved myself for my future husband - and I'm talking emotionally more than physically. I don't feel that I'm old enough to have a lasting, meaningful relationship, so I definately don't think you are. Also, it's not just about what he would/wouldn't do with you. It's also about maturity, and especially his spiritual maturity. We shouldn't be unequally yoked, and I think you need to seriously think and pray on this one... We can give u all our advice, but we can't stop u from dating him in the end... __________________ Lord take my broken heart/ Take all of my mistakes Please take all of me/ I want to show great You are xXx RACH xXx
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05-07-2005, 09:53 PM	#10
HeavenBound HeavenBound Edit Prophet/Prophetess	I dunno what you should do, I like this guy who is 16 also (I've known him for like ever, and he picks on me ALL the time, we're friends).....I don't really know what you should do, probably 'cause I have the same problem too! LOL __________________ "We have just enough Religion to make us HATE, but not enough to make us LOVE one Another..." -Jonathan Swift Who could hate a Man, who thought about YOU on the Cross?
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