If Singleness is a gift.....

Queen Esther · 04-21-2005, 11:38 AM

What's the return policy??
Ok, this is Actually not a thread against singleness.It's for those of us who are single and choose to remain so until the right person comes along, to support and encourage each other.

At the moment I'm content at being single!

I'm having a great time with no strings attached, not having to worry about status in my relationship with my boyfriend. And frankly I haven't found any guys "worthy" of my affection.
But I'm only 18 so I'm not rushing things, I think that girls that are 12-14 (and guys) who want to date are crazy But that's another topic for another day!

Why do you think Paul said "It is better for a man not to marry?"

My reply are these verses:

1 Corinthians 7: 32-35

32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs–how he can please the Lord.
33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world–how he can please his wife–
34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world–how she can please her husband.
35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

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See how much better off we are if we don't go searching for a mate? We can do the Lord's work without concern for our bf/gf. God in his own time (if it is his will) bring someone into our life whom we would like to get to know better. But I believe that he won't do so until you're TOTALLY focused on him, and in love with Jesus.
Remember Jesus is the relentless lover, he loves us more than any guy or girl out there ever could.
If you feel the lonliness tugging on your heart, read the Bible. I would reccommend the gospel of John's version of the crucifixion. So that you will remember how much Jesus loves you.

A verse I leave with you all is:
1 Corinthians 7:8-9

8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am.
9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Damaris · 04-21-2005, 06:24 PM

I agree!!!!!!!11 I'm so happy being single, and if God wants me to get married then he'de better bring quite the person into y life because honestly I'm not impressed much with the guys I've seen. I'm not planning on getting married, but if I do that's ok. Right now though, i'm happy and I would like to remain single unless I am thouroughly convinced in my heart, soul, and mind that I should get married to a certain person.

Amen Sista!

~*Amy*~ · 04-21-2005, 07:36 PM

Im totally getting married

But if you can stay single...more power to ya!

Queen Esther · 04-21-2005, 08:06 PM

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Originally Posted by ~*Amy*~

Im totally getting married

But if you can stay single...more power to ya!

I'm not saying that I'm against marriage or that I never plan to marry, but for the moment I've decided to stay single and not go searching because I feel the need to have a guy. Will I ever get married? I don't know...only God does...and not being scared of growing old and having 40 cats...even though I would prefer to have dogs

amigo · 04-21-2005, 08:14 PM

I can't wait to get married and can't imagine not! But hey, I've got a good long time to wait! And I'm really in no big hurry at all!

youarethelordthefamousone · 04-21-2005, 08:46 PM

I really do agree with you, BUT if and i am saying IF the right guy comes along and God tells you that this is the person you are supposed to be with, the one that God hand-selected for you, I'm sorry but you really can't pass that up... That's like Adam and Eve... if they had wanted to stay Single.. (against God) where would we be today? And Noah, him and his wife.. we wouldn't be here without marriage. Because there is only pure sex after and THROUGH marriage... But really, you can't jump into a relationship with someone... Get engaged... Fight ALOT... and not break it off if it doesn't seem right.

Queen Esther · 04-21-2005, 08:54 PM

I'm totally for marriage, but I'm looking at all of these girls who sell themselves short in marrying the first guy that comes along. And dating at the age or 13 is way too early to start "dating" I'm a firm believer in the Friends before dating...since every man you date could potentially be your husband. And it's always a good thing to guard your heart since you don't want to give your husband peices of your broken heart.

youarethelordthefamousone · 04-21-2005, 08:58 PM

[b]I do agree with you with that... Sorry if I came one too strong there, just stating my opinion

Queen Esther · 04-22-2005, 10:25 AM

No, you were fine, I just wanted to make sure that people didn't take me the wrong way in that I was against marriage.

HaveFaith2005 · 04-22-2005, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by amigo

I can't wait to get married and can't imagine not! But hey, I've got a good long time to wait! And I'm really in no big hurry at all!

I'm not either. I just realized I like being single. I don't have to get anyone christmas or birthday gifts!

Unless its family of course.

04-21-2005, 11:38 AM	#1
Queen Esther Queen Esther cannot wait to visit her BFF!!! Edit Administrator	If Singleness is a gift..... What's the return policy?? Ok, this is Actually not a thread against singleness.It's for those of us who are single and choose to remain so until the right person comes along, to support and encourage each other. At the moment I'm content at being single! I'm having a great time with no strings attached, not having to worry about status in my relationship with my boyfriend. And frankly I haven't found any guys "worthy" of my affection. But I'm only 18 so I'm not rushing things, I think that girls that are 12-14 (and guys) who want to date are crazy But that's another topic for another day! Why do you think Paul said "It is better for a man not to marry?" My reply are these verses: 1 Corinthians 7: 32-35 32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs–how he can please the Lord. 33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world–how he can please his wife– 34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world–how she can please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord. --------------------------------------------------- See how much better off we are if we don't go searching for a mate? We can do the Lord's work without concern for our bf/gf. God in his own time (if it is his will) bring someone into our life whom we would like to get to know better. But I believe that he won't do so until you're TOTALLY focused on him, and in love with Jesus. Remember Jesus is the relentless lover, he loves us more than any guy or girl out there ever could. If you feel the lonliness tugging on your heart, read the Bible. I would reccommend the gospel of John's version of the crucifixion. So that you will remember how much Jesus loves you. A verse I leave with you all is: 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
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04-21-2005, 06:24 PM	#2
Damaris Damaris Edit servant	I agree!!!!!!!11 I'm so happy being single, and if God wants me to get married then he'de better bring quite the person into y life because honestly I'm not impressed much with the guys I've seen. I'm not planning on getting married, but if I do that's ok. Right now though, i'm happy and I would like to remain single unless I am thouroughly convinced in my heart, soul, and mind that I should get married to a certain person. Amen Sista! __________________ Let my heart be fixed on Thee My Lord, my life, my love Linger near and gently lead To rapturous joys above.
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04-21-2005, 07:36 PM	#3
~Amy~ ~Amy~ Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Im totally getting married But if you can stay single...more power to ya! __________________ . ·'´)For Zions sake I will not keep silent-Isaiah 62:1 ¸.·´¸.·´¨) ¸.·¨) (¸.·´ (¸.·´ ¸.·´ ¸.·´¸.·`·-»JesusFreak (¸.·
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04-21-2005, 08:14 PM	#5
amigo amigo Edit Prophet/Prophetess	I can't wait to get married and can't imagine not! But hey, I've got a good long time to wait! And I'm really in no big hurry at all! __________________ He ain't the leavin' kind He'd never walk away Even from those who dont believe And wanna leave him behind He ain't the leavin' kind
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04-21-2005, 08:46 PM	#6
youarethelordthefamousone youarethelordthefamousone Edit AY! Newbie	Getting Married: Not soooo Bad I really do agree with you, BUT if and i am saying IF the right guy comes along and God tells you that this is the person you are supposed to be with, the one that God hand-selected for you, I'm sorry but you really can't pass that up... That's like Adam and Eve... if they had wanted to stay Single.. (against God) where would we be today? And Noah, him and his wife.. we wouldn't be here without marriage. Because there is only pure sex after and THROUGH marriage... But really, you can't jump into a relationship with someone... Get engaged... Fight ALOT... and not break it off if it doesn't seem right.
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04-21-2005, 08:54 PM	#7
Queen Esther Queen Esther cannot wait to visit her BFF!!! Edit Administrator	I'm totally for marriage, but I'm looking at all of these girls who sell themselves short in marrying the first guy that comes along. And dating at the age or 13 is way too early to start "dating" I'm a firm believer in the Friends before dating...since every man you date could potentially be your husband. And it's always a good thing to guard your heart since you don't want to give your husband peices of your broken heart. __________________ "I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the *content of their character." - Martin Luther King*
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04-21-2005, 08:58 PM	#8
youarethelordthefamousone youarethelordthefamousone Edit AY! Newbie	[b]I do agree with you with that... Sorry if I came one too strong there, just stating my opinion
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04-22-2005, 10:25 AM	#9
Queen Esther Queen Esther cannot wait to visit her BFF!!! Edit Administrator	No, you were fine, I just wanted to make sure that people didn't take me the wrong way in that I was against marriage. __________________ "I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the *content of their character." - Martin Luther King*
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