How do I honor all the girls interested in me?

Cookiemobsta · 04-20-2005, 08:32 PM

I'm in the enviable(?) position of having multiple girls that I believe are somewhat interested in me. Although it's certainly possible that I'm misreading some of them and they're just friendly, it's unlikely that the only thing all of them have in mind is a platonic friendship. With that in mind, how do I honor these girls? Basically, I don't want to lead them on or imply that I'm interested in them when I'm not. On the other hand, for some of them I'm not sure if I'm interested--it's not like I've ruled out dating any of them (aside from the non-Christians), I just haven't figured out my thoughts about dating to the point where I'd actually want to start dating, so I don't want to push them away. And in any case, I value their friendships so I don't want to mess that up either. Advice?

chocolate.eyes · 04-20-2005, 08:51 PM

it seems u know how u feel. girls (well most girls) really respect honest guys. if the time comes for u to express your feelings, tell the truth lovingly. if your not sure if you are interested, say so. say that you aren't sure about ur dating standards. just be honest.

sari58 · 04-20-2005, 08:52 PM

one thing i had to learn to do with guys is just not assume they like me, which in many cases they have, but it helps me to honor them if i just treat them like friends who don't like me. sometimes i feel like i am leading them on but i don't know if they actually like me. i had to learn that some guys are just flirty and it doesn't mean they like me. and i know it's like that with girls. sometimes flirting is just part of the personality. but just treat them the same try not to intentionally lead them on and just hang out and have fun is all i can tell you pretty much. GOOD LUCK!!!

Damaris · 04-20-2005, 09:32 PM

Look for a chance to say that you're not looking for a girfriend right now. Not that you'll never date, or that you'll never date them, just a chance to be able to confirm to them that you don't want to be anything more than a friend to them at the moment.

Do they read your blog, or do most of them do? You could write down a post about your latest thoughts on dating and how you don't want to date at all right now, and your reasons for that, and that could be something they could read and see it in the way you treat them that you do not want a girlfriend right now.

If I were you, I would just pray for an opening in the conversation where it could be mentioned, just because girls can really read things that aren't there if they have a huge crush on you....so if you could somehow get across the concept to them that you are not interested in them that way right now without them getting personally offended, that would work. =D

Lol, what an aweful position to be in! =P

04-20-2005, 08:32 PM	#1
Cookiemobsta Cookiemobsta Edit Prophet/Prophetess	How do I honor all the girls interested in me? I'm in the enviable(?) position of having multiple girls that I believe are somewhat interested in me. Although it's certainly possible that I'm misreading some of them and they're just friendly, it's unlikely that the only thing all of them have in mind is a platonic friendship. With that in mind, how do I honor these girls? Basically, I don't want to lead them on or imply that I'm interested in them when I'm not. On the other hand, for some of them I'm not sure if I'm interested--it's not like I've ruled out dating any of them (aside from the non-Christians), I just haven't figured out my thoughts about dating to the point where I'd actually want to start dating, so I don't want to push them away. And in any case, I value their friendships so I don't want to mess that up either. Advice? __________________ It's funny...we can be a liar, a cheat, a thief, a deceiver and a trickster with a foul mouth and a prideful spirit. We won't help the poor, and turn our faces in shame when we come across the needy and less fortunate But we'll still call ourselves "holy" because we keep our pants zipped up. Adding on to the hypocrisy, the Believers among us WHO DON'T keep their pants zipped still declare themselves to be "holy" because their intentions are directed towards the opposite sex. -http://www.hollywoodJesus.com/
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04-20-2005, 08:51 PM	#2
chocolate.eyes chocolate.eyes Edit AY! Newbie	it seems u know how u feel. girls (well most girls) really respect honest guys. if the time comes for u to express your feelings, tell the truth lovingly. if your not sure if you are interested, say so. say that you aren't sure about ur dating standards. just be honest.
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sari58 sari58 Edit Disciple	one thing i had to learn to do with guys is just not assume they like me, which in many cases they have, but it helps me to honor them if i just treat them like friends who don't like me. sometimes i feel like i am leading them on but i don't know if they actually like me. i had to learn that some guys are just flirty and it doesn't mean they like me. and i know it's like that with girls. sometimes flirting is just part of the personality. but just treat them the same try not to intentionally lead them on and just hang out and have fun is all i can tell you pretty much. GOOD LUCK!!!
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Damaris Damaris Edit servant	Look for a chance to say that you're not looking for a girfriend right now. Not that you'll never date, or that you'll never date them, just a chance to be able to confirm to them that you don't want to be anything more than a friend to them at the moment. Do they read your blog, or do most of them do? You could write down a post about your latest thoughts on dating and how you don't want to date at all right now, and your reasons for that, and that could be something they could read and see it in the way you treat them that you do not want a girlfriend right now. If I were you, I would just pray for an opening in the conversation where it could be mentioned, just because girls can really read things that aren't there if they have a huge crush on you....so if you could somehow get across the concept to them that you are not interested in them that way right now without them getting personally offended, that would work. =D Lol, what an aweful position to be in! =P __________________ Let my heart be fixed on Thee My Lord, my life, my love Linger near and gently lead To rapturous joys above.
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