a little problem...

madxmodman · 04-10-2005, 12:32 AM

Well, Here it is:

over the past few weeks, my ex gf has been asking me if I still love her. I always say no, that I love her as a friend, but nothing more. I say that mostly because it's what she wants to hear, but partially it's because our definitions for loving (romantically) are different. She says that loving some one romantically is when two people love each other forever, like a married couple. MY definition for loving some one romantically iis that you feal very strongly for some one. Well, she would be (of course) going by her definition, and would think that we couldn't be close friends anymore... anyway, I want to tell her the truth, but I don't want to mess up our friendship... I've prayed alot about it, and I beleave that He has told me that He has something speical planned for us. I beleave it strongly, but I don't know when, or even IF I should tell her, because I'm afraid that the results could be the end of our friendship... Also, I do beleave that God will do it, and if I interfear, then I will just make things worse... any advice would be of most useful help...

04-10-2005, 12:58 AM

Wait...wait... do you love her romantically? I think thats what you meant but I wasn't sure..

madxmodman · 04-10-2005, 12:58 AM

yes, that's what I mean... but by her standards, i 'like' her romantically.

04-10-2005, 01:08 AM

Ah, she sounds like she's living in a dream. I don't mean this to come out wrong or anything, but she needs to grow up some. People don't always love each other forever, and with today's divorce rate it's appearent. I think you should wait a little while before telling her. Perhaps until she has a more realistic view of relationships.

madxmodman · 04-10-2005, 01:10 AM

well, yeah, she is a flirt, she is pretty immature, but still... I'm a little stuck, I don't know what to tell her, simply because of what i'm affriad of...

04-10-2005, 01:14 AM

Oh, well. Just pray about it. Maybe ask God for the right words. =D

(DUDE! You have Kashmir as your favourite song!! =)

madxmodman · 04-10-2005, 01:17 AM

well, ty much. That's what I've been doing, and will continue to do... I need wisdom and strength. ty again.

( and yes, I LOVE kashmir

)

04-10-2005, 01:20 AM

Your welcome and good luck!

(And so do I! ^-^)

madxmodman · 04-10-2005, 05:29 PM

Any more advice would be appreaciated please, I am still going though a lot, I prayed more about it, and I beleave he's trying to get me to wait more and more. Plus, supposedly she talked about "wanting me as a bf" to her friend, and her friend told me about what they talked about. sooo, I'm wondering about this whole thing, and if God is actually talking to her. ty again for the help, prayers are needed, i'm going through a lot...

madxmodman · 04-10-2005, 11:23 PM

Update!!!
Brittany (ex girl friend) tells me that she has liked me for a few days. To find out this information, I had to tell her that I have been having strong fealings that, and have been told BY God that, God does have something speacle planned for us. She tells me that she could not "date" me untill I got more "mature" (we are going to debate over who's more mature at 6 tomorrow morning...), got more experience with Girls (in other words, date other girls), that I don't have enough dedication, and she wont date me again till my parents are easier to deal with. I need lots of wisdom to be able to say the right things, and I need LOTS of both wisdom and strength to be able to show my parents that she is very mature, and that she is not going to get me into trouble. Please remember me in your all's prayers for a few weeks (or months... depends...) and I would really like some advice on the matter... Thank you all again!

04-10-2005, 12:32 AM	#1
madxmodman madxmodman Edit Evangelist/Missionary	a little problem... Well, Here it is: over the past few weeks, my ex gf has been asking me if I still love her. I always say no, that I love her as a friend, but nothing more. I say that mostly because it's what she wants to hear, but partially it's because our definitions for loving (romantically) are different. She says that loving some one romantically is when two people love each other forever, like a married couple. MY definition for loving some one romantically iis that you feal very strongly for some one. Well, she would be (of course) going by her definition, and would think that we couldn't be close friends anymore... anyway, I want to tell her the truth, but I don't want to mess up our friendship... I've prayed alot about it, and I beleave that He has told me that He has something speical planned for us. I beleave it strongly, but I don't know when, or even IF I should tell her, because I'm afraid that the results could be the end of our friendship... Also, I do beleave that God will do it, and if I interfear, then I will just make things worse... any advice would be of most useful help... __________________ ~MadXmodMan~ Check out my myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/madxmodman and check out my YG's myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/elevateyouthchurch (read the blog! You might like it!)
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04-10-2005, 12:58 AM	#3
madxmodman madxmodman Edit Evangelist/Missionary	yes, that's what I mean... but by her standards, i 'like' her romantically. __________________ ~MadXmodMan~ Check out my myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/madxmodman and check out my YG's myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/elevateyouthchurch (read the blog! You might like it!)
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04-10-2005, 01:10 AM	#5
madxmodman madxmodman Edit Evangelist/Missionary	well, yeah, she is a flirt, she is pretty immature, but still... I'm a little stuck, I don't know what to tell her, simply because of what i'm affriad of... __________________ ~MadXmodMan~ Check out my myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/madxmodman and check out my YG's myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/elevateyouthchurch (read the blog! You might like it!)
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04-10-2005, 01:17 AM	#7
madxmodman madxmodman Edit Evangelist/Missionary	well, ty much. That's what I've been doing, and will continue to do... I need wisdom and strength. ty again. ( and yes, I LOVE kashmir ) __________________ ~MadXmodMan~ Check out my myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/madxmodman and check out my YG's myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/elevateyouthchurch (read the blog! You might like it!)
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04-10-2005, 05:29 PM	#9
madxmodman madxmodman Edit Evangelist/Missionary	Any more advice would be appreaciated please, I am still going though a lot, I prayed more about it, and I beleave he's trying to get me to wait more and more. Plus, supposedly she talked about "wanting me as a bf" to her friend, and her friend told me about what they talked about. sooo, I'm wondering about this whole thing, and if God is actually talking to her. ty again for the help, prayers are needed, i'm going through a lot... __________________ ~MadXmodMan~ Check out my myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/madxmodman and check out my YG's myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/elevateyouthchurch (read the blog! You might like it!) Last edited by madxmodman; 04-10-2005 at 11:23 PM..
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04-10-2005, 12:58 AM	#2
Jenn363 Jenn363 Edit Guest	Wait...wait... do you love her romantically? I think thats what you meant but I wasn't sure..

04-10-2005, 01:08 AM	#4
Jenn363 Jenn363 Edit Guest	Ah, she sounds like she's living in a dream. I don't mean this to come out wrong or anything, but she needs to grow up some. People don't always love each other forever, and with today's divorce rate it's appearent. I think you should wait a little while before telling her. Perhaps until she has a more realistic view of relationships.

04-10-2005, 01:14 AM	#6
Jenn363 Jenn363 Edit Guest	Oh, well. Just pray about it. Maybe ask God for the right words. =D (DUDE! You have Kashmir as your favourite song!! =)

04-10-2005, 01:20 AM	#8
Jenn363 Jenn363 Edit Guest	Your welcome and good luck! (And so do I! ^-^)

04-10-2005, 11:23 PM	#10
madxmodman madxmodman Edit Evangelist/Missionary	Update!!! Brittany (ex girl friend) tells me that she has liked me for a few days. To find out this information, I had to tell her that I have been having strong fealings that, and have been told BY God that, God does have something speacle planned for us. She tells me that she could not "date" me untill I got more "mature" (we are going to debate over who's more mature at 6 tomorrow morning...), got more experience with Girls (in other words, date other girls), that I don't have enough dedication, and she wont date me again till my parents are easier to deal with. I need lots of wisdom to be able to say the right things, and I need LOTS of both wisdom and strength to be able to show my parents that she is very mature, and that she is not going to get me into trouble. Please remember me in your all's prayers for a few weeks (or months... depends...) and I would really like some advice on the matter... Thank you all again! __________________ ~MadXmodMan~ Check out my myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/madxmodman and check out my YG's myspace @ http://www.myspace.com/elevateyouthchurch (read the blog! You might like it!)
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