Long distance relationships... possible?

shine4christ88 · 04-08-2005, 11:48 PM

Okay so i know people are like "if you really love eachother you can make it work"... lets get past that for one moment.. is it logical to date someone who lives an hour or more away? i don't wanna say i have that problem right now cause i don't... but i could in the future.. i have a few of guy friends from towns over an hour away that would make GREAT boyfriends. one in particular but that's besides the point... do i want to give it a try? is it at all reasonable? i'm only a softmore, i do have my liscense.. but gas is hugemongously priced these days... *sigh* i can't just NOT feel this way about this person, but i don't want to set myself up for a huge fall either. urgh.. this bites. it wouldn't be difficult if he wasn't such an awesome person too!! do i just do my best to give up on him or do i tell him i wanna try? help!!

w.e.g. · 04-09-2005, 12:01 AM

an hour isn't much, if you can drive there, and he can drive to see you then its no biggy, other than gas, but a job can fix that!

sKybLue · 04-11-2005, 10:38 AM

if long distance means at two ends of the world, then i think it's gonna be a problem. unless you make a deal to chat or webcam at least 3 times a week, it's not gonna work. cuz i think there's a high possilibility of meeting new people, new chicks, new guys, new personalities, etc.

but having said that, it's really different to be able to hangout with someone in person than through email or electronic media. it's really different. for a few months, it's okay. but for more than a year.. it's gonna be tough..

04-11-2005, 10:59 PM

I made it work for 6 months before I moved in with my (now husband) ... they arnt that bad if u are dedicated .. i think that sometimes it is better b/c you really cherish the time that you spend together more!

w.e.g. · 04-12-2005, 12:40 AM

wow congratulations! most of the time that never works

JohnSolo · 04-13-2005, 10:50 AM

Wow, you are younger than me and already married. I admire your maturity/courage.

bro_jonathan · 04-13-2005, 10:54 AM

Any relationship can work if you just have patience...I dont think there is a point in dating someone half way around the world UNLESS you plan on meeting up SOON.

04-13-2005, 06:49 PM

i completely agree with that! .. too much happens with time and its pretty much pointless to say that *oh we will be together in three years* b/c u know it wont happen. If someone doesnt have the effort to try to be with that person right away then its not going to happen (knowing from experience) ive also had long distance relationships that didnt work out .. maybe thats how i knew how to make mine work!
Thanks btw .. I kinda admire myself for sticking with it! .. i love my husband dearly .. but it is a little harder than i orginally thought at times !!

fashion4christ · 04-14-2005, 09:50 AM

In all of my previous tries to do long distance, it didn't work, I found out he was cheating...stopped talking to him altogether, then we started talking again when we saw each other at a church event...he appologized and we started "seeing each other again" and then I found out he cheated again...he was a jerk...it's hard to trust guys or girls when u don't see them often

Jelliebabies · 04-14-2005, 10:12 AM

well my sister once went out with this boy we met on our hols in france! he was from Co. Kilkenny (bottom of Ireland) and we live in Belfast (top of ireland) its around a four hour drive form each others house but to work around that they met in Dublin this is 2 hours between each! this went on for 11-12 months and the only reason they broke up was cuz they had a fight and he wasnt a christian! other wise it worked! my sis couldnt drive and neither could he! but they stioll tried to make it work!! it is possible oif you want it bad enough!

04-08-2005, 11:48 PM	#1
shine4christ88 shine4christ88 Edit AY! Newbie	Long distance relationships... possible? Okay so i know people are like "if you really love eachother you can make it work"... lets get past that for one moment.. is it logical to date someone who lives an hour or more away? i don't wanna say i have that problem right now cause i don't... but i could in the future.. i have a few of guy friends from towns over an hour away that would make GREAT boyfriends. one in particular but that's besides the point... do i want to give it a try? is it at all reasonable? i'm only a softmore, i do have my liscense.. but gas is hugemongously priced these days... sigh i can't just NOT feel this way about this person, but i don't want to set myself up for a huge fall either. urgh.. this bites. it wouldn't be difficult if he wasn't such an awesome person too!! do i just do my best to give up on him or do i tell him i wanna try? help!!
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04-09-2005, 12:01 AM	#2
w.e.g. w.e.g. Edit Prophet/Prophetess	an hour isn't much, if you can drive there, and he can drive to see you then its no biggy, other than gas, but a job can fix that! __________________ There is no luck only faith. CAP'N WILLY
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04-11-2005, 10:38 AM	#3
sKybLue sKybLue Edit His Masterpiece..	if long distance means at two ends of the world, then i think it's gonna be a problem. unless you make a deal to chat or webcam at least 3 times a week, it's not gonna work. cuz i think there's a high possilibility of meeting new people, new chicks, new guys, new personalities, etc. but having said that, it's really different to be able to hangout with someone in person than through email or electronic media. it's really different. for a few months, it's okay. but for more than a year.. it's gonna be tough.. __________________ May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in Your sight O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer. New Quiz on Ruth
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04-12-2005, 12:40 AM	#5
w.e.g. w.e.g. Edit Prophet/Prophetess	wow congratulations! most of the time that never works __________________ There is no luck only faith. CAP'N WILLY
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04-13-2005, 10:50 AM	#6
JohnSolo JohnSolo Edit Apostle	Wow, you are younger than me and already married. I admire your maturity/courage.
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04-11-2005, 10:59 PM	#4
!!Lacecase!! !!Lacecase!! Edit Guest	I made it work for 6 months before I moved in with my (now husband) ... they arnt that bad if u are dedicated .. i think that sometimes it is better b/c you really cherish the time that you spend together more!

04-13-2005, 10:54 AM	#7
bro_jonathan bro_jonathan Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Any relationship can work if you just have patience...I dont think there is a point in dating someone half way around the world UNLESS you plan on meeting up SOON. __________________ Matthew 28:19 = Acts 2:38 Obediance is better than sacrifice! Brotha Jonny D
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04-13-2005, 06:49 PM	#8
!!Lacecase!! !!Lacecase!! Edit Guest	i completely agree with that! .. too much happens with time and its pretty much pointless to say that oh we will be together in three years b/c u know it wont happen. If someone doesnt have the effort to try to be with that person right away then its not going to happen (knowing from experience) ive also had long distance relationships that didnt work out .. maybe thats how i knew how to make mine work! Thanks btw .. I kinda admire myself for sticking with it! .. i love my husband dearly .. but it is a little harder than i orginally thought at times !!

04-14-2005, 09:50 AM	#9
fashion4christ fashion4christ Edit AY! Newbie	In all of my previous tries to do long distance, it didn't work, I found out he was cheating...stopped talking to him altogether, then we started talking again when we saw each other at a church event...he appologized and we started "seeing each other again" and then I found out he cheated again...he was a jerk...it's hard to trust guys or girls when u don't see them often
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04-14-2005, 10:12 AM	#10
Jelliebabies Jelliebabies Edit Prophet/Prophetess	well my sister once went out with this boy we met on our hols in france! he was from Co. Kilkenny (bottom of Ireland) and we live in Belfast (top of ireland) its around a four hour drive form each others house but to work around that they met in Dublin this is 2 hours between each! this went on for 11-12 months and the only reason they broke up was cuz they had a fight and he wasnt a christian! other wise it worked! my sis couldnt drive and neither could he! but they stioll tried to make it work!! it is possible oif you want it bad enough!
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