Proverbs 31 and 1 Peter 3

[ibreakdrumsticks]

are you going to submit to your future husbands? are you going to clean and cook? how about the sex? what kind of wife is the ideal wife? what kind of things should guys look for? why? what do you have to offer? are you some uptight, religious girl or are you truly free in christ?

[jcdesertvoice]

Uh dude you lost me? What are you asking again? I get the submission part but the other ones aren't quite registering.

[w.e.g.]

i thought it was pretty straight forward, i really don;t care what she will be like as long as she loves me as i love her and is open and honest with me

[HeavenBound]

Originally Posted by ibreakdrumsticks

are you going to submit to your future husbands? are you going to clean and cook? how about the sex? what kind of wife is the ideal wife? what kind of things should guys look for? why? what do you have to offer? are you some uptight, religious girl or are you truly free in christ?

Being a little nosy r we? Just kiddin'! That is a little wierd though!
Yes, I will be be a submitting wife, yes, I will be the "keeper of the home", and the "intamacy" one.. I'm not getting in to that! But, yes, I'm looking forward to being a Mother in the future!
I think if I was a guy, I would look for this in a wife: submitting, be the "keeper of the home" not the "provider", and wants to be a mother.

How was that?
-HeavenBound

[sari58]

As far as the what kinda of things guys should look for....i think just a Godly woman. Someone who will love God more than she could ever love you. I think Proverbs 31 really explains the way a woman should act towards her husband. I don't think there is an "ideal" wife. not every guy is going to be attracted to the same type of girl...just like every girl isn't going to be attracted to the same type of guys. I do plan on cooking and cleaning..but that isn't going to be my "job" or at least i hope not... I will do my best to be submissive. and what type of answer are you wanting as far as the are you a uptight religious girl or are you truly free in Christ. I saw this question and general and specific for each girl...if i didn't answer the way you intended let me know and i will try to answer better.....

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[Ed]

Ok - well i enjoy cleaning for a start as its something i do while talking to God as it takes no thought to clean....

I would want to submit but also think of marriage as a partnership in so much as it doesnt mean you cant voice your thoughts but have to just be silent and agree all the time...

Im not one for Religosity but rather developing and growing in my relationship with Christ - but then i don;t think anyone would watn to think of themselves as religious and uptight so i dont know what answers you were expecting there - little on the rude side for a question - sorry but that how i see it.

as for the "how about sex?" im not sure what your getting at... you mean submitting in that area - ie. he wants it you say ok even if your tired after all the cooking and cleaning and mothering etc...?

[jcdesertvoice]

I'll submit within reason. I don't think when God said about submission it was so the husband could be controlling and demanding. I sure hope my husband doesn't request sex after a hard tiring. Kinda rude I think but anyway. I want to be a good wife. I also want a good husband. Hey guys what do you consider a good husband?

[youarethelordthefamousone]

Originally Posted by ibreakdrumsticks

are you going to submit to your future husbands? are you going to clean and cook? how about the sex? what kind of wife is the ideal wife? what kind of things should guys look for? why? what do you have to offer? are you some uptight, religious girl or are you truly free in christ?

Most females will submit to their husbands thinking its what they are supposed to do... I certainly will not be submitting or conforming to anyone. No matter who they will become. Yes i would clean and cook but i would not be doing all of the housework.. They have to understand how things work for you.. The ideal wife SHOULD be someone they care about and love.. And God showed them was for them. "Freedom reigns in this place. Showers of mercy and grace. Falling on every face. There is freedom. Where the spirit of God is, there is freedom"

[Tia]

Okay, I'll explain how my family works, well my husband and I. I do submit to my husband. The Bible says for you to.

I certainly will not be submitting or conforming to anyone.

For those of you who do not plan on submitting to your husband how could you say you won't do something that is scriptural? Not only that but it is in the New Testament... don't you think it is there for a reason? The way I see it, if a wife is submitting to her husband and he is a Godly man, then she does not have to worry about submitting to him. My husand is in tune with God, he is a Christian. There are some things that he says "they are this way" and I have to submit to that. I'm not talking about things to where he would abuse me or anything like that because he is a Christian. This is one reason the Bible says not to be unequally yoked. If you are married to a Christian, you submitting to him should not ever be a problem.

what kind of wife is the ideal wife

The ideal wife is stated in Proverbs 31, 1 Peter 3, 1 Titus 2, and 1 Corinthians.

As for cooking and cleaning, I don't really think that has to do so much as being submissive. I do a lot of the cleaning and a lot of the cooking but that is more because I love my husband and I want to make him happy, as well as myself. Being submissive doesn't have to do much with Sex either. It doesn't mean a man can force himself on his wife, but a wife should not withold sex from her husband.

The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intamcy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband also gives authority over his body to his wife. So do not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from sexual intamacy for a limited time so they can give themselves more completly to prayer. Afterward they should come together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control - this is only my suggestion - Paul : 1 Corinthians 3-6

Mainly so that the Devil will not have any way to come in and tempt the wife or their husband. So many divorces end in adultury because the person isn't "happy" at home.

As for those who marry when they aren't Christian yet or don't marry a Christian. I don't really know what I would do since I'm not in that situation. But I know many women who still stood to what the Bible says and were submissive to their husbands. Through everything that was happening they were submissive. They depended on God and they remained Christ like before their husbands. Eventually each and every one that I know of's husband came to Christ.

8For man did not come from woman, but woman from man; 9neither was man created for woman, but woman for man. 10For this reason, and because of the angels, the woman ought to have a sign of authority on her head. 1 Corinthians 11 8-10

I really don't have much time to elaborate on all of this... but I just wanted to add my two cents even if it is all random, lol..

Lastly, here is a good site, that explains all of the above , not to say that I believe with or do all that is here, I just think it explains a lot about being a wife. http://www.momof9splace.com/