Being with guys........

punkdancer41 · 03-24-2005, 07:06 PM

I hear a lot of people get close to guys and they are good friends and stuff. I don't think guys are that great. I just wonder how I'm ever gonna meet the one for me if I rarely talk to guys. I don't know why, but I'm not as comfortable around them. I guess this could be a good thing in a way, sticking to not dating until after highschool. I haven't even had a guy say that he likes me or anything except for being abused, but thats a different story. That could be part of my problem, I guess. I'm kinda bruised from that. I really an not comfortable with them. They are okay in a crowd, but not just me and guy. Nope I tried that once. I was so uncomfortavle. I think that the guy thought he did something wrong. Poor guy. Now I'm really uncomfortable around the guy. I've liked a guy before, but he didn't like me, so what else is new? That guy that I was talking about...now whenever I see him I think to myself don't talk to me, don't talk to me, but I try to be nice if he does. What do you guys think????

JCn'Me · 03-24-2005, 08:34 PM

Hey there...Before the Lord brought my bf to me I was the same way with guys. I was always uncomfortable around them. Nobody ever told me they liked me and I was basically afraid of them to tell you the truth. I guess it doesnt help that I am a shy person either but just talking to one was...I dont know...Weird because I just wasnt used to talking to them. I think that what you need to do it pray, pray, pray to God about it. That is what I did. I was always wondering how I was going to ever have a bf if i was so scared and shy but I gave it all to the Lord and focused on him. I think if you pray about it and focus on the Lord he will lift your fears and the uncomfortable feeling you get when you are around guys when he feels your ready. I will be praying for you too. and the important thing is Stay strong!! Your Sista in Christ, God Bless

LovingJesus · 03-24-2005, 08:46 PM

I'm not comfortable with guys either. I think they think I'm a nut. lol

~*Amy*~ · 03-25-2005, 09:29 AM

well, its ok not to have good 'guy' friends. In our society today a girl and guy cant even be friends without people thinking they like each other (other than as friends). But you should really learn how to communicate with guys. Are you 'insecure' with yourself? That could be a reason why your uncomfortable around guys. Im comfortable around most guys....I always have been. If Im not comfortable around a guy, then I know its because he has other 'priorities' and things he wants from me..get what I mean? I think Im comfortable around guys because Ive always been around them and able to talk to them. Pray pray pray!...like you said. Seek God about it and see what He says. Sometimes theres things from our past that holds us back (just like you said

) and we have to learn to look past that and trust again. We are told in that Bible, that above all things, we need to guard our hearts. I know Ive said this before. Dont throw up a wall or anything, but still guard your heart

Seek God about it and Im praying for you too

Brandi · 03-25-2005, 11:40 AM

your only 16 youv got lots of time to be around guys, i personaly see high school dateing as pointless because you both will grow and change so much all you will do is hurt eachother in the end b breaking up or changing. I say just give it time and dont rush yourself ...Gods timeing remember

sistahkb · 04-23-2005, 12:20 PM

I think each girl has a different view and attitude towards it. It's okay if you aren't ready to be with guys yet and for those of you who are ready that's great. But remember unless you're old enough to seriously consider something. you might need to be careful in how you act and talk to one another. if you don't think you'll end up marrying him. Keep some things to yourself and respect your privacy and intimacy that marriage has for you. But if you give yourself up emotionally or physically what is left? I understand some of you have had physical relationships unwillingly and have been hurt. But just remember even if it's happened once and it's over doesn't mean you can't keep protecting yourself from it happening again. Or restoring your dignity.I apologize if this comes off offensively I'm just trying to make my point.Sorry. girls who don't feel comfortable now. hey relax and you're time will come if God ahs it planned for you. maybe His timing isn't now but later. anyway that's my thought.

Bonobo · 04-23-2005, 12:21 PM

When I'm with guys I try to be very careful about what I say because I have learned that they can get the wrong idea WAY too easily!

MyJoyOverflows · 04-23-2005, 01:21 PM

All my life I've had guy friends and not girl friends. I find that they aren't as quick to judge as a lot of girls are. I think that probably stuff that happened in your past really adds to the uncomfortable feeling that you get. And just because guys don't tell you that they like you, doesn't mean that they don't. Most of my guy friends are REALLY shy and they all come to me and ask me how they tell certain girls that they like them. Probably the guys that like you are just shy. Also, remember that you are still pretty young (I hate hearing that myself, but it's true) and in time God will show you the man (not guy) that you are to be with. Right now He's preparing the lucky man for his life with you...keep that in mind...God will bring you someone in time...and when that time comes...I'm sure that God will have made your heart ready and you won't be as uncomfortable anymore.

sistahkb · 04-23-2005, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by TheseHiddenTears

All my life I've had guy friends and not girl friends. I find that they aren't as quick to judge as a lot of girls are. I think that probably stuff that happened in your past really adds to the uncomfortable feeling that you get. And just because guys don't tell you that they like you, doesn't mean that they don't. Most of my guy friends are REALLY shy and they all come to me and ask me how they tell certain girls that they like them. Probably the guys that like you are just shy. Also, remember that you are still pretty young (I hate hearing that myself, but it's true) and in time God will show you the man (not guy) that you are to be with. Right now He's preparing the lucky man for his life with you...keep that in mind...God will bring you someone in time...and when that time comes...I'm sure that God will have made your heart ready and you won't be as uncomfortable anymore.

That's really cool you get along with guys really well. I can most of the time get along with them and talk to them and still be comfortable unless I like the guy. than I get nervous and a little uncomfortable. But if I like the guy and I've known him since before I liked him it's easier to talk to him and be with him.

MyJoyOverflows · 04-23-2005, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by sistahkb

That's really cool you get along with guys really well. I can most of the time get along with them and talk to them and still be comfortable unless I like the guy. than I get nervous and a little uncomfortable. But if I like the guy and I've known him since before I liked him it's easier to talk to him and be with him.

I do get nervous when I like the guy...but if we share the feelings it gets a bit better...but I know what you mean...

03-24-2005, 07:06 PM	#1
punkdancer41 punkdancer41 Edit Evangelist/Missionary	Being with guys........ I hear a lot of people get close to guys and they are good friends and stuff. I don't think guys are that great. I just wonder how I'm ever gonna meet the one for me if I rarely talk to guys. I don't know why, but I'm not as comfortable around them. I guess this could be a good thing in a way, sticking to not dating until after highschool. I haven't even had a guy say that he likes me or anything except for being abused, but thats a different story. That could be part of my problem, I guess. I'm kinda bruised from that. I really an not comfortable with them. They are okay in a crowd, but not just me and guy. Nope I tried that once. I was so uncomfortavle. I think that the guy thought he did something wrong. Poor guy. Now I'm really uncomfortable around the guy. I've liked a guy before, but he didn't like me, so what else is new? That guy that I was talking about...now whenever I see him I think to myself don't talk to me, don't talk to me, but I try to be nice if he does. What do you guys think????
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03-24-2005, 08:34 PM	#2
JCn'Me JCn'Me Edit Apostle	Hey there...Before the Lord brought my bf to me I was the same way with guys. I was always uncomfortable around them. Nobody ever told me they liked me and I was basically afraid of them to tell you the truth. I guess it doesnt help that I am a shy person either but just talking to one was...I dont know...Weird because I just wasnt used to talking to them. I think that what you need to do it pray, pray, pray to God about it. That is what I did. I was always wondering how I was going to ever have a bf if i was so scared and shy but I gave it all to the Lord and focused on him. I think if you pray about it and focus on the Lord he will lift your fears and the uncomfortable feeling you get when you are around guys when he feels your ready. I will be praying for you too. and the important thing is Stay strong!! Your Sista in Christ, God Bless __________________ ALYSSA The Sin Exterminator..Jesus...Hasta La Vista Satan!
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03-24-2005, 08:46 PM	#3
LovingJesus LovingJesus Edit AY! Newbie	I'm not comfortable with guys either. I think they think I'm a nut. lol __________________ Proverbs 31 Woman in the Making...
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03-25-2005, 09:29 AM	#4
~Amy~ ~Amy~ Edit Prophet/Prophetess	well, its ok not to have good 'guy' friends. In our society today a girl and guy cant even be friends without people thinking they like each other (other than as friends). But you should really learn how to communicate with guys. Are you 'insecure' with yourself? That could be a reason why your uncomfortable around guys. Im comfortable around most guys....I always have been. If Im not comfortable around a guy, then I know its because he has other 'priorities' and things he wants from me..get what I mean? I think Im comfortable around guys because Ive always been around them and able to talk to them. Pray pray pray!...like you said. Seek God about it and see what He says. Sometimes theres things from our past that holds us back (just like you said ) and we have to learn to look past that and trust again. We are told in that Bible, that above all things, we need to guard our hearts. I know Ive said this before. Dont throw up a wall or anything, but still guard your heart Seek God about it and Im praying for you too __________________ . ·'´)For Zions sake I will not keep silent-Isaiah 62:1 ¸.·´¸.·´¨) ¸.·¨) (¸.·´ (¸.·´ ¸.·´ ¸.·´¸.·`·-»JesusFreak (¸.·
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03-25-2005, 11:40 AM	#5
Brandi Brandi Edit Prophet/Prophetess	your only 16 youv got lots of time to be around guys, i personaly see high school dateing as pointless because you both will grow and change so much all you will do is hurt eachother in the end b breaking up or changing. I say just give it time and dont rush yourself ...Gods timeing remember __________________ I do not agree with a word you say but i will defend to the death your right to say it~Voltaire "The Bible contains six admonishments to homosexuals and 362 admonishments to heterosexuals. That doesn't mean that God doesn't love heterosexuals. It's just that they need more supervision." Lynn Lavner
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04-23-2005, 12:20 PM	#6
sistahkb sistahkb Edit Apostle	I think each girl has a different view and attitude towards it. It's okay if you aren't ready to be with guys yet and for those of you who are ready that's great. But remember unless you're old enough to seriously consider something. you might need to be careful in how you act and talk to one another. if you don't think you'll end up marrying him. Keep some things to yourself and respect your privacy and intimacy that marriage has for you. But if you give yourself up emotionally or physically what is left? I understand some of you have had physical relationships unwillingly and have been hurt. But just remember even if it's happened once and it's over doesn't mean you can't keep protecting yourself from it happening again. Or restoring your dignity.I apologize if this comes off offensively I'm just trying to make my point.Sorry. girls who don't feel comfortable now. hey relax and you're time will come if God ahs it planned for you. maybe His timing isn't now but later. anyway that's my thought. __________________ In every heart there is a room......who lives in yours?
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04-23-2005, 12:21 PM	#7
Bonobo Bonobo Edit Disciple	When I'm with guys I try to be very careful about what I say because I have learned that they can get the wrong idea WAY too easily! __________________ "They told me I was gullible, and I believed them." "All of you is more than I need for all of me." "YOU are my Strong Tower, a Fortress when I'm weak."
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04-23-2005, 01:21 PM	#8
MyJoyOverflows MyJoyOverflows Edit Prophet/Prophetess	All my life I've had guy friends and not girl friends. I find that they aren't as quick to judge as a lot of girls are. I think that probably stuff that happened in your past really adds to the uncomfortable feeling that you get. And just because guys don't tell you that they like you, doesn't mean that they don't. Most of my guy friends are REALLY shy and they all come to me and ask me how they tell certain girls that they like them. Probably the guys that like you are just shy. Also, remember that you are still pretty young (I hate hearing that myself, but it's true) and in time God will show you the man (not guy) that you are to be with. Right now He's preparing the lucky man for his life with you...keep that in mind...God will bring you someone in time...and when that time comes...I'm sure that God will have made your heart ready and you won't be as uncomfortable anymore.
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