What do u think?

JCroxmysox · 02-02-2005, 11:04 AM

W/ regards to flirting, what do y'all think? Is it ok? How far is too far?

I know some people are totally against flirting, but I'm just a little confused... I'm not like a total flirt or anything. It's just, there's this guy at my church and we both flirt w/ each other. We don't really mean anything by it, cuz if either of us did, we'd say something. Neither of us is shy, and we don't even try to cover our flirting. So what do u think? Some people disagree w/ flirting cuz it's playin w/ emotions of whatever, but what about if both people are doing it, and neither of them has any romantic intentions? Is it wrong to flirt?

Sirené · 02-02-2005, 11:45 AM

In that situation, as long as you are absolutely certain that he isn't interested in you and you're both okay with it, I suppose it isn't a problem. But are you absolutely certain that he isn't? Even though he doesn't seem shy, there's still a possiblity that he does like you and just doesn't feel comfortable telling you. Even outgoing people have their insecurities. ^^; By flirting with someone you're not interested in, he could (understandably) get the impression that you do have romantic intentions torwards him. In a way, it's kind of deceptive. And I think it's kind of strange that a person would flirt with someone that they have absolutely no attraction to... but I guess that's just not my personality. *shrug* ^^;

In general, I don't see why flirting would be considered a bad thing. It's simply a way of expressing interest torwards someone. But personally, I think it's best to be subtle about it... coming on too strong or coming across as desperate isn't really a turn on. ^^;

JCroxmysox · 02-02-2005, 03:30 PM

Yea, we have a weird relationship... We flirt and stuff, but seriously I know it's no more than that. I guess there is some kind of chemistry between us, but that's really just cuz we're such good friends. Neither of us wants a relationship right now cuz we're not ready for commitment, and I know him; if he was interested in me like that, he would say. We have history, lol!

brothercory_2005 · 02-02-2005, 03:37 PM

yea it should be ok.

bro_jonathan · 02-02-2005, 03:59 PM

Flirting is okay if it's done if a FUN way...lustful flirting is not so good. I wouldn't at Church...Church is to get my Spiritual fill and then I'd flirt just playin around!

My Man Mitch · 02-02-2005, 04:13 PM

I don't really like posting in this forum, but I feel like I have something to say here. I really don't think flirting has any boundaries, because its mostly just conversation, joking around, getting to know you stuff. I don't really see why a big deal is made about it in some cases.

God Rox · 10-30-2005, 05:33 PM

with flirting, i think it can be ok, too far is going to extremes and doing it everyday to the person, unless u like them then that is ok, but otherwise i really dont know, thats a really good question

HaveFaith2005 · 12-31-2005, 06:02 PM

Flirting is alright. Just don't go make a fool out of yourself. (Like I have done before.)

Twisted · 01-07-2006, 05:08 PM

^^^ Best advice ever

Victorious88 · 01-08-2006, 03:03 AM

I think flirting should only be used when appropriate.

For example... when you actually like the guy/girl. I've known people who got hurt because someone flirted with them and meant nothing by it.

02-02-2005, 11:04 AM	#1
JCroxmysox JCroxmysox Edit Prophet/Prophetess	What do u think? W/ regards to flirting, what do y'all think? Is it ok? How far is too far? I know some people are totally against flirting, but I'm just a little confused... I'm not like a total flirt or anything. It's just, there's this guy at my church and we both flirt w/ each other. We don't really mean anything by it, cuz if either of us did, we'd say something. Neither of us is shy, and we don't even try to cover our flirting. So what do u think? Some people disagree w/ flirting cuz it's playin w/ emotions of whatever, but what about if both people are doing it, and neither of them has any romantic intentions? Is it wrong to flirt? __________________ Lord take my broken heart/ Take all of my mistakes Please take all of me/ I want to show great You are xXx RACH xXx
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02-02-2005, 11:45 AM	#2
Sirené Sirené Edit Disciple	In that situation, as long as you are absolutely certain that he isn't interested in you and you're both okay with it, I suppose it isn't a problem. But are you absolutely certain that he isn't? Even though he doesn't seem shy, there's still a possiblity that he does like you and just doesn't feel comfortable telling you. Even outgoing people have their insecurities. ^^; By flirting with someone you're not interested in, he could (understandably) get the impression that you do have romantic intentions torwards him. In a way, it's kind of deceptive. And I think it's kind of strange that a person would flirt with someone that they have absolutely no attraction to... but I guess that's just not my personality. shrug ^^; In general, I don't see why flirting would be considered a bad thing. It's simply a way of expressing interest torwards someone. But personally, I think it's best to be subtle about it... coming on too strong or coming across as desperate isn't really a turn on. ^^; __________________ "La plus belle expérience que nous puissions vivre est celle du mystère." - Albert Einstein "Nous savons en outre que Dieu fait concourir toutes choses au bien de ceux qui l'aiment, de ceux qui ont été appelés conformément au plan divin." - Romains 8:28
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02-02-2005, 03:30 PM	#3
JCroxmysox JCroxmysox Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Yea, we have a weird relationship... We flirt and stuff, but seriously I know it's no more than that. I guess there is some kind of chemistry between us, but that's really just cuz we're such good friends. Neither of us wants a relationship right now cuz we're not ready for commitment, and I know him; if he was interested in me like that, he would say. We have history, lol! __________________ Lord take my broken heart/ Take all of my mistakes Please take all of me/ I want to show great You are xXx RACH xXx
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02-02-2005, 03:37 PM	#4
brothercory_2005 brothercory_2005 Edit Prophet/Prophetess	yea it should be ok. __________________ brothercory_2005
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02-02-2005, 03:59 PM	#5
bro_jonathan bro_jonathan Edit Prophet/Prophetess	Flirting is okay if it's done if a FUN way...lustful flirting is not so good. I wouldn't at Church...Church is to get my Spiritual fill and then I'd flirt just playin around! __________________ Matthew 28:19 = Acts 2:38 Obediance is better than sacrifice! Brotha Jonny D
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02-02-2005, 04:13 PM	#6
My Man Mitch My Man Mitch Edit Apostle	I don't really like posting in this forum, but I feel like I have something to say here. I really don't think flirting has any boundaries, because its mostly just conversation, joking around, getting to know you stuff. I don't really see why a big deal is made about it in some cases.
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10-30-2005, 05:33 PM	#7
God Rox God Rox Edit Disciple	with flirting, i think it can be ok, too far is going to extremes and doing it everyday to the person, unless u like them then that is ok, but otherwise i really dont know, thats a really good question __________________ God Is Great God Bless God Rox (aka aisha) Job 4:11 & 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 rock Makybe Diva is da best mare eva
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12-31-2005, 06:02 PM	#8
HaveFaith2005 HaveFaith2005 is in your extened network. Edit Have a great day!	Flirting is alright. Just don't go make a fool out of yourself. (Like I have done before.) __________________ Have a blesse New Year!
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01-07-2006, 05:08 PM	#9
Twisted Twisted Edit AY! Newbie	^^^ Best advice ever
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01-08-2006, 03:03 AM	#10
Victorious88 Victorious88 Edit AY! Newbie	I think flirting should only be used when appropriate. For example... when you actually like the guy/girl. I've known people who got hurt because someone flirted with them and meant nothing by it.
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