Dealing with lonliness and isolation

D73921 · 04-03-2009, 12:13 PM

Hi,

I just wanted to get opinions on how you guys deal with lonliness and isolation. I have just come through a period of my life where for about 4-5 years, I felt separated from friendship, and love. I have been living on my own since the age of 19, and I was never able to find good people, good christian people specifically.

A few years ago, God gave me a promise from His word that he sets the lonely in families and I longed for that day! And it did come, last last year I found a church where I fit i immediately, not only has God given me great christian friends, but he has restored my peace and joy.

So if you are going through a season of isolation and loneliness, or have gone through one- how did you cope? did you feel as though it would never end sometimes?

God bless!

Andre

fashionlover01 · 04-03-2009, 03:22 PM

I am so happy that you have finally found somewhere that you can fit in and feel like you belong. I know what it's like to feel alone and isolated from others. For the past couple of years i have stuggled with this. My sophomore year was really bad for me and I only had one really good year and being lonely consumed my life. This year I am still trying to find a way to not feel so isolated, but it's so hard because my close friend moved away and at school i feel like i am alone all the time. The thing that makes me not focus so much on not having friends is helping others and improving my walk with God. Your story gives me hope that i just need to keep trying to make friends and that day will come when i meet someone who will become a good friends. I am going to keep waiting until the day comes when i meet that one special friend. Thanks for sharing. You gave me so much hope.

Minty · 04-05-2009, 05:30 AM

It's really common for lonely people to feel like they're never going to find a friend. I did feel that way, and I also felt like there was something wrong with me because people had something against me as they weren't too friendly to me... It wasn't only that I didn't have friends, though, but I also was bullied at school that time. I think I only overlived it because some people realised what I was going through and helped me out - I didn't have too much to live for then so I'm afraid I would have gone on the verge of committig suicide if those people wouldn't have been there for me.

I think, that anyone who's lonely can do something to help him/herself, even though it might be extremely hard, for those very often are having a really hard time just because of not having people supporting them. Even though there's no "absolute answer" where one should go and what one should do to get friends and such, I'm sure a little bit of reasonable thinking and analysing the situation should get anyone out of the worst times even without help of others. And hey, even if finding the courage to try out new things and to make new social contacts could be hard - and it very often is, you can always pray about it!

tradingmyheart · 04-06-2009, 01:18 PM

One of my friends in a different school was really struggling with loneliness as she was new to a school. However we both took it upon ourselves to pray about the situation and now she has a really amazing group of friends who really encourage her on her walk in faith. Pray until something happens.

God created us to be social creatures.

04-03-2009, 12:13 PM	#1
D73921 D73921 Edit Forum Moderator	Dealing with lonliness and isolation Hi, I just wanted to get opinions on how you guys deal with lonliness and isolation. I have just come through a period of my life where for about 4-5 years, I felt separated from friendship, and love. I have been living on my own since the age of 19, and I was never able to find good people, good christian people specifically. A few years ago, God gave me a promise from His word that he sets the lonely in families and I longed for that day! And it did come, last last year I found a church where I fit i immediately, not only has God given me great christian friends, but he has restored my peace and joy. So if you are going through a season of isolation and loneliness, or have gone through one- how did you cope? did you feel as though it would never end sometimes? God bless! Andre __________________ Blindly, I came to you knowing you'd breathe new life from within...
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04-03-2009, 03:22 PM	#2
fashionlover01 fashionlover01 Edit Disciple	I am so happy that you have finally found somewhere that you can fit in and feel like you belong. I know what it's like to feel alone and isolated from others. For the past couple of years i have stuggled with this. My sophomore year was really bad for me and I only had one really good year and being lonely consumed my life. This year I am still trying to find a way to not feel so isolated, but it's so hard because my close friend moved away and at school i feel like i am alone all the time. The thing that makes me not focus so much on not having friends is helping others and improving my walk with God. Your story gives me hope that i just need to keep trying to make friends and that day will come when i meet someone who will become a good friends. I am going to keep waiting until the day comes when i meet that one special friend. Thanks for sharing. You gave me so much hope. __________________ Go into the world and preach the good news to all creation. Jesus said "Go!"Lets Go! Mark 16:15 Lets make a difference in the world!
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04-05-2009, 05:30 AM	#3
Minty Minty survived maths Edit Disciple	It's really common for lonely people to feel like they're never going to find a friend. I did feel that way, and I also felt like there was something wrong with me because people had something against me as they weren't too friendly to me... It wasn't only that I didn't have friends, though, but I also was bullied at school that time. I think I only overlived it because some people realised what I was going through and helped me out - I didn't have too much to live for then so I'm afraid I would have gone on the verge of committig suicide if those people wouldn't have been there for me. I think, that anyone who's lonely can do something to help him/herself, even though it might be extremely hard, for those very often are having a really hard time just because of not having people supporting them. Even though there's no "absolute answer" where one should go and what one should do to get friends and such, I'm sure a little bit of reasonable thinking and analysing the situation should get anyone out of the worst times even without help of others. And hey, even if finding the courage to try out new things and to make new social contacts could be hard - and it very often is, you can always pray about it!
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04-06-2009, 01:18 PM	#4
tradingmyheart tradingmyheart is happy Edit AY! Newbie	One of my friends in a different school was really struggling with loneliness as she was new to a school. However we both took it upon ourselves to pray about the situation and now she has a really amazing group of friends who really encourage her on her walk in faith. Pray until something happens. God created us to be social creatures.
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